elaine567 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Well I was exhausted and hadn't eaten much, but not a completely empty stomach. Anyway summing up your guys' advice: let him be, let this be, take it as an occasion to learn and better myself and this situation shall NEVER be repeated again at any circumstances (and dial down on the drinking). Got it. thank you again! If you tone down the drink completely and he sees that was just a one off and not the real you and if he is still part of your group, you may get close again. Do not write it off completely, but do not keep apologising and DO NOT let that crazy lady appear again, else he will definitely steer clear. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I just can't understand how one can get completely 'wasted' by drinking a few glasses of wine, or without really noticing. I definately notice well before that stage that I'm feeling the effects of alcohol. A couple glasses of wine will get you pretty tipsy depending how big they are. Don't underestimate the power of wine And that was just for the pre-game she did.
kendahke Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 A couple glasses of wine will get you pretty tipsy depending how big they are. Don't underestimate the power of wine And that was just for the pre-game she did. for me, chardonnay is the fastest route to buzzland, especially if I haven't eaten anything.
Mrin Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I had a second date like this once. The woman got completely blasted. We were at atltitude though (she had gone from 5280 to over 9000 feet). She got wasted - which wasn't a big deal. But then she got mean. Like honey badger mean. I could overlook her getting drunk. But not the meanness. I waved her off when she sobered up the next morning. Life is too short for me to date mean drunks.
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) I am surprised that no one mentioned this, but could it be possible that something was put into your drink while you were out with him? That causes one to behave so aggressively? And it sort of backfired (on whomever laced your drink)? Especially since you said behaving so aggressively was totally out of character for you...and it just hit you suddenly, without warning. That is indicative of some sort of drug being put into your drink...there are several out there that cause those symptoms... date rape drugs. I would not rule that out...how well do you know this guy?? Edited April 14, 2015 by katiegrl
SmartDude Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I am surprised that no one mentioned this, but could it be possible that something was put into your drink while you were out with him? That causes one to behave aggressively? And it sort of backfired (on whomever laced your drink)? Especially since you said behaving so aggressively was totally out of character for you...and it just hit you suddenly, without warning. That is indicative of some sort of drug being put into your drink...there are several out there that cause those symptoms... date rape drugs. I would not rule that out...how well do you know this guy?? Yes, let's blame it on the guy because women are always innocent and can never be the cause of their own circumstances. So this is the crazy chicks thread? Hmmm can I get a phone number lol?
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Yes, let's blame it on the guy because women are always innocent and can never be the cause of their own circumstances. So this is the crazy chicks thread? Hmmm can I get a phone number lol? I just offered it as a possibility dude, chill out. It is actually quite common, more than you think...
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I just offered it as a possibility dude, chill out. It is actually quite common, more than you think... I don't think he needed to lace her drink, he probably could have gotten in her pants if he really wanted considering they were already hooking up.
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I don't think he needed to lace her drink, he probably could have gotten in her pants if he really wanted considering they were already hooking up. Oh I know... but the drug definitely would have made it hotter, more "aggressive* and "raw" and less inhibited. I dunno, it was just a thought, since she seems so baffled as to why, suddenly, and without warning, she would behave that way... so out of character... It is pretty common too as I said. But I dunno. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Jeesh guys! Is it a full moon or something? The girl has admitted that she behaved badly she has already had a battering so lets just let the kid learn and be done with eh? Everyone makes mistakes. 1
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Sorry did not realize it was against the board rules to offer other *possibilities* ... other than to assume SHE was crazy. But hey thanks for enlightening me!
SmartDude Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 If a guy thinks your crazy... He might be right. Lesson learned. Carry on... 1
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Sorry did not realize it was against the board rules to offer other *possibilities* ... other than to assume SHE was crazy. But hey thanks for enlightening me! No its not but when some poor lass comes on and admits to being a fool and is seeking help in sorting it out so she can maintain a shred of dignity its a bit mean for load of people to continually bash her for something she already regrets rather than be constructive. Its just mean.
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 From OP's original post... >>I asked him at one point what really happened during our date as I don't remember. He said he doesn't want to talk about it...<< No of course he doesn't... I shudder to think of what might have happened myself. Just sayin.
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 No its not but when some poor lass comes on and admits to being a fool and is seeking help in sorting it out so she can maintain a shred of dignity its a bit mean for load of people to continually bash her for something she already regrets rather than be constructive. Its just mean. I am "not" the one bashing her (for being crazy)...I am the "only" one who suggested SHE is *not* crazy ...and that there was *another* more insideous reason she behaved that way.. You act like date rape drugging never happens, which it most certainly does! More that you think! Anyway I have said my peace on this...done.
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 From OP's original post... >>I asked him at one point what really happened during our date as I don't remember. He said he doesn't want to talk about it...<< No of course he doesn't... I shudder to think of what might have happened myself. Just sayin. Good point, but she was knocking them back both before (at home where no one can spike her drinks) and after (in the company of a man she trusts not to drug her)... on an empty stomach... after a long shift... Just sayin'. Am also just saying that the poor girl made a mistake. Good Lord I make them ALL the time so smite me down and burn me for not being perfect. Its a bit unfair to keep on when she has come back and in several posts shown remorse and a hint of feeling ashamed of herself when asking for help to put it right... Don't you think the girl should have a friendly hug along with her wrist slapping? Its not as if she has harmed anyone other than her own pride and ego.
Mrin Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Jeesh guys! Is it a full moon or something? The girl has admitted that she behaved badly she has already had a battering so lets just let the kid learn and be done with eh? Everyone makes mistakes. Oh totally. I'm not sure I've ever gotten blasted drunk on a first date but I've certainly made a complete a$$ out of myself on subsequent dates multiple times. I remember it was maybe 4th date with a woman. I drank on an empty stomach and went from stone sober to three sheets to the wind drunk. Somehow ended up the evening making a complete fool of myself in front of the date's very best friend, um, sorta maybe getting naked and streaking a big party that was going on in courtyard at my loft complex (it might have been a tenants "work party" even). Then I am pretty sure I tossed all the carrots I had in my fridge down on the party while serenading them with "You Got What I Need". Somehow I didn't scare off my date. We ended up getting married. And having kids. And then divorcing but we're still incredible friends.
katiegrl Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Good point, but she was knocking them back both before (at home where no one can spike her drinks) and after (in the company of a man she trusts not to drug her)... on an empty stomach... after a long shift... Just sayin'. Am also just saying that the poor girl made a mistake. Good Lord I make them ALL the time so smite me down and burn me for not being perfect. Its a bit unfair to keep on when she has come back and in several posts shown remorse and a hint of feeling ashamed of herself when asking for help to put it right... Don't you think the girl should have a friendly hug along with her wrist slapping? Its not as if she has harmed anyone other than her own pride and ego. I agree she definitely drank too much = big mistake. God knows I have made mistakes too including drinking way too much myself! But even then ... I have never NOT remembered the events leading up to what she said happened (behaving so aggressively)...which again she said was totally out of character and appeared suddenly and without warning. And then his response when she asked him what happened because she did not remember? He doesn't want to talk about it??? Really? Definitely odd for sure...very very odd indeed.
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I agree she definitely drank too much = big mistake. God knows I have made mistakes too including drinking way too much myself! But even then ... I have never NOT remembered the events leading up to what she said happened (behaving so aggressively)...which again she said was totally out of character and appeared suddenly and without warning. And then his response when she asked him what happened because she did not remember? Definitely odd for sure...very very odd indeed. I know 2 people its happened to and both went very "floppy" and would do anything you told them to. Not aggressive...
Author DALIFAN Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 @katiegirl Thank you for proposing Other options other than me being crazy. Yes that behavior was more than unusual for me and I did consider the possibility of being drugged for a millisecond but wrote that possibility off just as fast. I really don't think he would do that, there was no need. I have been date rape drugged before in my past and that was different; well I dint remember getting aggressive at any point, well i dont remember anything really. This was different i have a memory loss of maybe an hour maximum... @toodaloo thank you for taking the friendlier approach here. To all the others: yes I am extremely sorry for what happened and have to deal with the embarrassment, but I know that the person he thinks I am is far from reality. I have to deal with having lost the opportunity of something nice with in my opinion a wonderful person. Whatever happened that evening happened and I won't make it for no reason. Trying to make the best out of it.
Phoe Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Oh totally. I'm not sure I've ever gotten blasted drunk on a first date but I've certainly made a complete a$$ out of myself on subsequent dates multiple times. I remember it was maybe 4th date with a woman. I drank on an empty stomach and went from stone sober to three sheets to the wind drunk. Somehow ended up the evening making a complete fool of myself in front of the date's very best friend, um, sorta maybe getting naked and streaking a big party that was going on in courtyard at my loft complex (it might have been a tenants "work party" even). Then I am pretty sure I tossed all the carrots I had in my fridge down on the party while serenading them with "You Got What I Need". Somehow I didn't scare off my date. We ended up getting married. And having kids. And then divorcing but we're still incredible friends. Hah, on a 3rd or 4th date with a guy I knew a few years ago, he got obliterated drunk, proceeded to vomit all over the bathroom and himself (it was even on the back of his head. HOW?) - I proceeded downstairs to get some paper towels and water, came back up, cleaned up the bathroom, cleaned up him, and had him drink the water. He proceeded to accuse me of going downstairs to **** his friends. I calmly told him "No, I went downstairs to get you water." he continued to drunkenly rage at me and call me a whore. He then proceeded to vomit all over again, and I cleaned him up once again. Shortly thereafter he passed out on a couch. About a week later he dumped me. Thanks man....
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