Three1 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Ex girlfriend of 3 months is coming over tomorrow to get the rest of her stuff, i might be home. How should i handle this, should i just ignore her or should i try to talk to her one last time?
ravfour4 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Depends on what you want and what the situation is. If she broke up with you and you're trying to get over her and NC is helping, then obviously just leave when she gets there or don't talk to her unless she talks to you and if she does, say the fewest words you can to get by like "Yes" "no" "thanks" If you broke up with her and want her back, obviously be there and be nice lol. If you have important things you want to say to her (besides I miss you etc.) then it may be worth saying those if you'll never see her again, but if it's "i miss you" and she broke up with you, it will probably just reopen unhealed wounds.
Author Three1 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Depends on what you want and what the situation is. If she broke up with you and you're trying to get over her and NC is helping, then obviously just leave when she gets there or don't talk to her unless she talks to you and if she does, say the fewest words you can to get by like "Yes" "no" "thanks" If you broke up with her and want her back, obviously be there and be nice lol. If you have important things you want to say to her (besides I miss you etc.) then it may be worth saying those if you'll never see her again, but if it's "i miss you" and she broke up with you, it will probably just reopen unhealed wounds. She broke up with me for reasons that are my fault. I want a second chance and need to say things to her but she's still cold towards me
EgoJoe Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Are you sure they're your fault or are your accepting her blameshifting? Women are notorious for this. 2
ravfour4 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 If she broke up with you and is still single and the things about you that she didn't like you have made an effort to change, just show her that. Actions speak louder than words. Maybe approach the topics you want to discuss and if she gets cold, stop or it will only get worse and more hurtful. You know her better than we do, if she's acting normal and like your gf, you may be able to have a heart to heart discussion. If she's still all cold, you're better off not approaching the topic, she'll have a huge shield up and it will likely4 just push her away further.
kismetkismet Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 As someone who broke up with her boyfriend recently because he didn't appreciate me... Be there, and try to explain to her your side of things. She is a grown up and she should have all of the information she needs to make the decision. Don't beg her or bargain with her, but tell her that you're sorry, how you've changed, and how you will improve your treatment of her specifically. Just lay out the information and let it lie. You might not get the response that you want right away, but she deserves to know and she may come around.
Poppyolive Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 No no no. Just treat it as she's coming to pick up her stuff and that's it. No begging, pleading or trying to get her to understand. Be very matter of fact, yet polite. Have her things ready to go. Be busy and nonchalant. 3
ZiggyZoo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 She broke up with me for reasons that are my fault. I want a second chance and need to say things to her but she's still cold towards me If she's still cold towards you, then I wouldn't even be there. She doesn't want to hear anything from you at this point, and it may even make things worse if she feel you're getting too pushy. Best to let things go for now.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Are you sure they're your fault or are your accepting her blameshifting? Women are notorious for this. Oh, men do it too. I don't think passing the blame onto someone else is gender-specific at all. I do think though that it isn't right to accept all the blame. Unless you were abusive, it is never just the actions of one of the individuals involved that ends the relationship.
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