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Weird and awful feeling I get everytime I am interested in someone??

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Everytime I'm interested in someone, I keep getting these unpleasant feelings and I dont know what it is.

 

 

I started to notice this awhile back, and I took a brake from relationships and girls and focused on my self for about 5 months l, but still same thing???

I kept thinking it was intuition but nothing was off about them at all...

It comes everytime i obsess over if they are right or wrong for me? How do we know when someone isn't right? Does your intuition already know even if you haven't even met the person or talked to them??

 

 

Help, i can't stand it because i just feel like every person i run into, I will get the same feelings

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Anyone?

 

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Explain the emotions you feel please? Ill try to help....deb

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Explain the emotions you feel please? Ill try to help....deb

 

It feels like unpleasant and makes me want to avoid them.

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Your avatar creeps me out and precludes me from answering.

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Your avatar creeps me out and precludes me from answering.

 

Its actually a Rammstein Maxi-single artwork of "Links 2 3 4"

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Its actually a Rammstein Maxi-single artwork of "Links 2 3 4"

 

Yeah, maybe that's why.

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Anyways, modern-german-art-fan, No one is perfect. What you need to do is find some of your core necessities and set your boundaries. AND F anyone who doesn't meet 'em. But obviously don't be hyper critical outside of that, cause otherwise you're just hurting yourself.

 

>I looked at my avatar the whole time<

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It feels like unpleasant and makes me want to avoid them.

 

 

do think or feel fear?

 

have you been hurt before if so how long ago

 

have you been rejected much

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do think or feel fear?

 

have you been hurt before if so how long ago

 

have you been rejected much

 

Yes I have been hurt before but It really doesn't affect me if you know what I mean.

 

It just feels wrong for everyone I like I guess you can say..

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Yes I have been hurt before but It really doesn't affect me if you know what I mean.

 

It just feels wrong for everyone I like I guess you can say..

 

when did you first have this feeling?

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when did you first have this feeling?

 

When I started dating this person from June to December. I started to feel them when dating that person, and after that I've been feeling like this about everyone I get interested in someone. The first week or so of me being interested in someone is fine until these unpleasant feelings wash over.

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Feels like purple, sounds sharp like a cold toaster.

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When I started dating this person from June to December. I started to feel them when dating that person, and after that I've been feeling like this about everyone I get interested in someone. The first week or so of me being interested in someone is fine until these unpleasant feelings wash over.

 

 

obviously the relationship ended......so a six month relationship.......how early did the feelings come into that relationship and why did the relationship end....do you have commitment issues .....or did she?

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obviously the relationship ended......so a six month relationship.......how early did the feelings come into that relationship and why did the relationship end....do you have commitment issues .....or did she?

 

Okay it came in around the second month.

She was great, I could be myself around her, we can laugh together all the time, our personalities seemed to jive and she was very understanding, and the chemistry was just amazing, and for some reason I got thoese feelings and I obcessed over if she was right for me, because uneasy around her for no reason I didnt understand.

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Okay it came in around the second month.

She was great, I could be myself around her, we can laugh together all the time, our personalities seemed to jive and she was very understanding, and the chemistry was just amazing, and for some reason I got thoese feelings and I obcessed over if she was right for me, because uneasy around her for no reason I didnt understand.

 

so as it became more serious you bailed......when all signs pointed to the fact she was right for you you got cold feet and started doubting whether she was the one for you...did you end the relationship if so what reason did you give.....

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so as it became more serious you bailed......when all signs pointed to the fact she was right for you you got cold feet and started doubting whether she was the one for you...did you end the relationship if so what reason did you give.....

 

But these feelings I woke up everyday led me to a depression, I felt depressed, I was over thinking because of these feelings, these feelings nagged me, even without thought, just thinking about her made me cringe and have those nagging feelings.

 

Now every girl I seem to have interest in, I always get the same feeling but less intense, it makes me feel terrible and also makes me think its not right, even though there qualities are what I'm looking for.

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But these feelings I woke up everyday led me to a depression, I felt depressed, I was over thinking because of these feelings, these feelings nagged me, even without thought, just thinking about her made me cringe and have those nagging feelings.

 

Now every girl I seem to have interest in, I always get the same feeling but less intense, it makes me feel terrible and also makes me think its not right, even though there qualities are what I'm looking for.

 

 

when depression is with you...your thoughts become often irrational and illogical...not tangible...they feel real...but they arent real...it clouds perception and reason..it clouds how you think others see you....because all in all ...you find it hard to like yourself so you dont understand how others do and can...and you are left in this state of confusion and doubt.....

 

what i do know about depression its normally just not one thing that sets them off at least not with me but a culmination of things on top of each other...its a spiral...and you sink along with the curves life throws at you......was there anything else going on at the time these feelings started you can remember...

 

 

i often dont remember when the depression started i just know when i am in the midst of it fighting to get back out.....trying to find the good in people in life(i always come back so far) and in myself.....and yes a lot of people who get depressed push their family loved ones away......wanting to distance themselves as to not hurt them....my family and loved ones know the signs and they dont let me distance myself too far ......i also know the signs and i dont make major decisions when i am depressed.....like breaking up with someone......that i was taught in therapy.....not to make major decisions.....how can you when reason isnt there....

 

 

have you ever seen anyone about your depression......attended groups?

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