onequickquestion Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Hello, I have a quick question. A few months back, I was dating the best girl I have ever met. We had similar senses of humor, we could talk about anything, and we showed a genuine care for the other when they were feeling down, worried, etc... However, at the time I was drinking a lot and had depression (which would make me constantly worry about her and other guys. Eventualy we decided that although we could be a good couple, the relationship is unhealthy & she advised me to seek help w/ drinking. It ended nicely, with us hugging and wishing each other the best. That was 1 and a half months ago. Since then I have used the "12 step program", have not had one sip of alcohol (with the exception of Communion wine in church), have gotten help from my doctor with the depression, and have spent a lot of "me" time. While thinking about relationships, I thought of how hard it would be to find another good girl. The I asked myself a question "Since I know my ex cares for me, and we have remained friends, could we try again now that I am sober and sane?" (Note: I thought this towards the end, I quit drinking for ME not someone else) Any thoughts?
DeaconFrost Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 I'd say to give it more time. Try building up you friendship more. You are on the road to improvement, but in all likelyhood are not completely "cured." You just can't rush these things. Be patient, continue to learn more about yourself and slwoly begin to weed her back into your life. If she is willing and wants to get back into the relationship she will let you know over time.
Author onequickquestion Posted April 16, 2005 Author Posted April 16, 2005 Oh.. i forgot... background info... we were good friends for a year before we started seeing each other.
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