BluegrassBaldGuy Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 As someone who spent a few months in the online dating scene, I wanted to share something positive and cool with the community here. A while ago I met a girl online and she seemed quite fit and active. I am also an active guy and after talking, she mentioned that she wanted to try rock-climbing. My friend had just told me about a rock-climbing gym in town, so I threw out the idea as our first meetup/date. She ok'd the idea and we made it happen. It was a huge success! This is a super fun activity that works extremely well when meeting someone new. You're relying on each other to climb/belay, so it instills teamwork and support. It's also a cool activity to learn, so you're gaining a life skill even if the connection isn't there between the two of you. Long story short, we had a great time and it was super fun. The two of us got along fine but didn't pursue anything further. But it was a blast and I'm now going climbing again soon with friends. Anybody have other creative first date ideas when meeting people from online?? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Wow - that's a bold first date. I usually save that for Date #2 myself. For my first date's I usually only go out for drinks Question -- I've never rock climbed, would it be advisable for my first time to be on a date? It looks like fun and I want to try it -- theres a good place near where I live too. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Like that song by Cindi Lauper says, "Girls just want to have fun" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I actually posted about indoor rock climbing awhile ago. It's been a staple of my date repertoire for awhile now. Went for the first time with my GF a few weeks ago and we both had a great time. Like you say, great communication builder, teamwork, and good exercise in general. But I gotta be honest, I'd never do it on a first date. A first date should be really low key, casual, and conversation based. However it's cool that you had fun doing it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Vintage79 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Yeah, great early date idea, it's hard not to think about the fact though, that he said they didn't decide to pursue anything further - the minimal communication with rock climbing makes it tough to get to know each other, which is a quintessential component of the first meeting. I'd say great 2, 3, or 4th date idea (and beyond), probably more on the failure side for a first date, in particular if it's someone from online who you know literally nothing about. At best, use it as follow on content, or the second half a first date if it's going really, really well and haven't imbibed too much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Where I am from you need to have a license to climb. If you have a license and your date doesn't then you need to have an instructor present so I think that takes the fun out of it. Someone offered to take me rock-climbing on a 2nd date. I was not too keen on having a date dressed in lulu pants and him having a first row view of my @ss while I climb. I think it's a great activity for later after a couple of weeks dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I would LOVE it if a guy I was going on a second/third/etc. date with suggested rock climbing!!! Getting into a physical activity with your date is *FUN* and, idk...it just seems to be a better bonding experience than just sitting across a table and talking... But, on a first date? Probably not. I mean, I'd do it on a first date if he was gung-ho for it...what the hell, right?! It would depend on the guy and if I was really attracted to him (physically and personality-wise) via OLD messages (and seeing his pics), text messages and phone convos. I like dancing, playing tennis and/or swimming with my dates once the first date is out of the way and a bond/attraction/chem has been established on BOTH sides. I like being physical on my dates by doing activities that involve using our bodies...it's just, FUN. No explanation needed. . Link to post Share on other sites
Syberia Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I like being physical on my dates by doing activities that involve using our bodies...it's just, FUN. No explanation needed. None, none at all :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Where I am from you need to have a license to climb. If you have a license and your date doesn't then you need to have an instructor present so I think that takes the fun out of it. Someone offered to take me rock-climbing on a 2nd date. I was not too keen on having a date dressed in lulu pants and him having a first row view of my @ss while I climb. I think it's a great activity for later after a couple of weeks dating. 1) If you've got it, flaunt it. 2) You know you'd be checking out his merchandise too. But indoor rock climbing gyms don't usually require licenses. They just take you through a quick intro class to give the basics on belaying, knot tying, safety checks, etc.. The license would be more for actual outdoor rock climbing wouldn't it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 None, none at all :laugh: Ha! That's NOT what I meant, Syberia!!! And you KNOW it lol. What a brat... . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Syberia Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Riiiight... Whatever you say... It's all about context, lol Link to post Share on other sites
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Riiiight... Whatever you say... It's all about context, lol Don't start!! . Link to post Share on other sites
Author BluegrassBaldGuy Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 Yeah, great early date idea, it's hard not to think about the fact though, that he said they didn't decide to pursue anything further - the minimal communication with rock climbing makes it tough to get to know each other, which is a quintessential component of the first meeting. I'd say great 2, 3, or 4th date idea (and beyond), probably more on the failure side for a first date, in particular if it's someone from online who you know literally nothing about. At best, use it as follow on content, or the second half a first date if it's going really, really well and haven't imbibed too much. These are all good points, with the exception of the "minimal communication with rock climbing". In my one experience, that couldn't be further from the truth. Both of us were extroverts and talked constantly. You're helping each other learn the knots, using the belay, mapping out routes, giving tips about the wall, and generally supporting each other. And in-between routes you can also talk about normal date stuff. The main draw here is that you have more to talk about than just each other. With the rock climbing activity as the focus, you learn about your date while also conquering the task ahead of you. I'm not saying it's perfect for everyone, but sometimes you just want a little more "fun" on a first date and in this case, I couldn't recommend it more. Just depends on who the other person is and how outgoing/adventurous they are. On a related note, my last online date before this one was your typical "dinner date". It was fine but got kinda stale. So I was in the mood for something more out of the box and fun next time out, which led to the rock climbing idea. Thus is the crazy randomness of this dating game we're all in. Link to post Share on other sites
Echo74 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 That sounds like SO much fun! I'd love to do that but would also add lunch just so we could sit and really concentrate on getting to know each other. I went snorkeling once on a first date with a picnic lunch at the end, loved it! Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Outdoor/active dates are the best. But as a first date if it does not work it is a disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
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