sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I believe my ex had GIGS. You'd have to read my other posts to truly understand the break-up. But I was just wondering if anybody has other stories or anything about GIGS? I'd love to know if there's a way of I suppose you could say "diagnosing" the break up as that type. Is there "symptoms" or a sure fire way of being able to tell its GIGS? Any info or stories would be great. I want her to come back but only so I'll know she did care deep down and so I can prove to myself I'm strong enough to say no. I'd do it with class of course.
SycamoreCircle Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 We all hope for what you hope for. I promise you---with time, it won't matter. I disagree with GIGS because I feel it gives false hope to the dumpee. My ex left me for another man. But it was more than that. Her personality changed. Not the partying stereotype that is typical GIGS but a very career-oriented, sex-minded as opposed to love-minded person. Does it matter? No. We all have to come to grips with being rejected. Yes, you can view what happened as a sort of growing pain. It's best for you to focus on you. Do things to regain your equilibrium. Be good to yourself. 1
Author sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 The breakup happened a month ago and she's been tweeting to every guy she knows which she never did, she's been going to other colleges and partying and getting drunk with guys and tweeting about it all and posting pictures with guys all over social media. maybe that is the typical partying stereotype associated with GIGS? Its helped me move on to see it all even if it does shatter my heart for a few minutes when i see it all but it helps me realize that this girl is a disaster and I would never take her back as a result of it all. 1
Jimmyjackson Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 "GIGS" is a term used by dumpees to try and justify the break and give themselves false hope. Do people sometimes break up to explore? sure...my friend loves his ex girlfriend but he wants to have fun while he's 20. Majority of the time though, people get dumped because they're no longer attracted to their partner or they've found someone else. "GIGS" is a term thrown around too often on LS.
PinkElephants Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 GIGS is a myth used by dumpees to feel better. By "diagnosing" her you're saying there's something wrong with her and assigning blame while rendering yourself blameless. You've already perched yourself on the high horse awaiting her groveling return so you can reject her with class. I think the real issue is that your ego took a massive hit and it's easier to call her wrong than to evaluate yourself and consider whether or not you could have done better. Maybe she was unsatisfied with you. Maybe the distance was too hard. Maybe she picked up on the case of superiority that you seem to suffer from and decided to get someone less stiff. None of it really matters in the end. She left. Block her from social media and be done with it. Oh, and she's not a disaster; she's 20 and she's behaving like she's 20. 20 year olds live, experiment, party, date around, learn what kind of men they do and don't like, etc. Go live your life instead of monitoring hers.
Auspecial Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 The breakup happened a month ago and she's been tweeting to every guy she knows which she never did, she's been going to other colleges and partying and getting drunk with guys and tweeting about it all and posting pictures with guys all over social media. maybe that is the typical partying stereotype associated with GIGS? Its helped me move on to see it all even if it does shatter my heart for a few minutes when i see it all but it helps me realize that this girl is a disaster and I would never take her back as a result of it all. This post makes me think that its not so much about GIGs, as that she wants to party and flirt with many other men. Thats her perogative of course, and also a good reason for you to lose interest in her, as you aren't on the same page.
Auspecial Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 "GIGS" is a term used by dumpees to try and justify the break and give themselves false hope. Do people sometimes break up to explore? sure...my friend loves his ex girlfriend but he wants to have fun while he's 20. Majority of the time though, people get dumped because they're no longer attracted to their partner or they've found someone else. "GIGS" is a term thrown around too often on LS. It depends on context, I think. But I do see your point. The way I view GIGS is only with OLD. And with OLD if a person cannot break out of the carousel of potential mates. Literally no one is good enough, because the perceptions is:bthis one is awesome, but they lack X. This one has X so I'll leave. That one has X but doesn't have G. and on and on. And thousands of options.
Jimmyjackson Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It depends on context, I think. But I do see your point. The way I view GIGS is only with OLD. And with OLD if a person cannot break out of the carousel of potential mates. Literally no one is good enough, because the perceptions is:bthis one is awesome, but they lack X. This one has X so I'll leave. That one has X but doesn't have G. and on and on. And thousands of options. Sounds like my ex, she jumps from relationship to relationship. I was her 5th and she was only 18 at the time. 5 relationships by 18 is a lot.
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