Jenu88 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I have been dating a girl for a month. I tried to slowly move in for sex to see how she will react, and she said no which I completely respect. We did some dry sex and spent the night cuddling. I tried calling her the next day later and she never responded. Normally, she would pick up/return calls where we would talk 2-3 hours, but no response this time. Could it possibly be that I moved too soon for sex?
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 No. I don't see that as the only cause & effect possibility as to why she's responding more slowly. Giver her a day & call her again.
Redhead14 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I have been dating a girl for a month. I tried to slowly move in for sex to see how she will react, and she said no which I completely respect. We did some dry sex and spent the night cuddling. I tried calling her the next day later and she never responded. Normally, she would pick up/return calls where we would talk 2-3 hours, but no response this time. Could it possibly be that I moved too soon for sex? She participated in the dry sex and cuddling. And, you didn't have sex because she said no. You respected it and didn't push for it. I doubt it's about moving too soon for sex. Just wait a day and see what happens.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 No. As long as you didn't pressure her or make her super uncomfortable you're fine. In fact she'd probably be surprised if you didn't make a move for sex in the 3-5 date range, it seems to be the norm. If you guys had dry sex and she was getting "into it", you're probably fine. She wouldn't do that if she didn't want to. Keep your cool and don't overthink things.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Waiting a month to try for sex actually shows patience IMO. The average Joe will usually try on dates 1-3. I actually like to make a woman wait for sex myself for two reasons. 1) To feel her out and see if I like her as a person so I'm not distracted by lust. 2) To seduce her long term and build a lot of anticipation on her end. By the time 4-5 weeks rolls around, she is VERY receptive to me initiating sex. Since you got shot down after a month, it tells me that you haven't been assertive enough in your seduction to build enough anticipation. So at this point, be a gentleman and back off a bit. But really focus on doing every thing but sex to get her more comfortable and excited. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Waiting a month to try for sex actually shows patience IMO. The average Joe will usually try on dates 1-3. I actually like to make a woman wait for sex myself for two reasons. 1) To feel her out and see if I like her as a person so I'm not distracted by lust. 2) To seduce her long term and build a lot of anticipation on her end. By the time 4-5 weeks rolls around, she is VERY receptive to me initiating sex. Since you got shot down after a month, it tells me that you haven't been assertive enough in your seduction to build enough anticipation. So at this point, be a gentleman and back off a bit. But really focus on doing every thing but sex to get her more comfortable and excited. Hmm I think most average guys wait until date 3 or later. Desperate guys will try on Date 1 or 2, but this isn't advisable since it can drive a Woman away if you try TOO soon. I would only try on date 1 or 2 if I wanted to turn it into a one night stand lol. You have a unique way of doing things FFan, that's for sure You exude pure confidence and can pull it off quite well by keeping these Women on the hook.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 You have a unique way of doing things FFan, that's for sure You exude pure confidence and can pull it off quite well by keeping these Women on the hook. Thanks man. It started out as a necessity years ago. I was dating 3-4 women at a time, but didn't want to have sex with more than one of them. So by seducing women and making them wait, I was able to feel out who was ultimately best for me while keeping tension high. When I realized how well it worked, it just became my standard operating procedure. Most women aren't used to it because they expect guys to go for sex early on. So when I act assertive, a bit dominant, etc but use will power it drives them nuts..LOL The way I see it though is that women have been doing it since the beginning of time. They seduce, tease, and drive a guy nuts to keep him interested, while holding back to test out his intentions. I simply flipped the script. 1
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Waiting a month to try for sex actually shows patience IMO. The average Joe will usually try on dates 1-3. I actually like to make a woman wait for sex myself for two reasons. 1) To feel her out and see if I like her as a person so I'm not distracted by lust. 2) To seduce her long term and build a lot of anticipation on her end. By the time 4-5 weeks rolls around, she is VERY receptive to me initiating sex. Since you got shot down after a month, it tells me that you haven't been assertive enough in your seduction to build enough anticipation. So at this point, be a gentleman and back off a bit. But really focus on doing every thing but sex to get her more comfortable and excited. Why do I read 'player' all over this post! Oh I know! because being a player is about playing a slow game where every move is calculated in advance to lead the victim exactly where you want her to be. Just like what you are describing.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Why do I read 'player' all over this post! Oh I know! because being a player is about playing a slow game where every move is calculated in advance to lead the victim exactly where you want her to be. Just like what you are describing. Welcome to The Game
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Welcome to The Game *shaking head with discouragement*
CarrieT Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 How old are you guys? Teenagers are the only people I know who are involved in "dry sex"; i.e., humping... It might be that she is too young and not ready for more. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Why do I read 'player' all over this post! Oh I know! because being a player is about playing a slow game where every move is calculated in advance to lead the victim exactly where you want her to be. Just like what you are describing. Once I start having sex with a woman, I only sleep with her. Just like I never cheat on a woman I am exclusive with. But I am also a firm believer in multi-dating. By having multiple options you're a lot more subjective and impartial. Red flags are easier to spot, and women that aren't right for you are easier to dismiss because you have other options. If you focus on just one woman at a time, you're more likely to overlook red flags and settle because she's your only option. When you go through a screening process and find the woman that's ultimately right for you, you can be confident in your decision. Plus, whether women want to admit it or not, they're more attracted to independent, non needy/clingy guys that aren't overly hung up on them. So by keeping options open, you avoid developing needy behavior. A true "player" is a guy that 1) lies about dating multiple women and 2) has sex with all of them. If a woman asks me if I'm seeing other women, I always answer truthfully. Also, as I've said previously, I only have sex with the one that I want to ultimately focus on.
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Once I start having sex with a woman, I only sleep with her. Just like I never cheat on a woman I am exclusive with. But I am also a firm believer in multi-dating. By having multiple options you're a lot more subjective and impartial. Red flags are easier to spot, and women that aren't right for you are easier to dismiss because you have other options. If you focus on just one woman at a time, you're more likely to overlook red flags and settle because she's your only option. When you go through a screening process and find the woman that's ultimately right for you, you can be confident in your decision. Plus, whether women want to admit it or not, they're more attracted to independent, non needy/clingy guys that aren't overly hung up on them. So by keeping options open, you avoid developing needy behavior. A true "player" is a guy that 1) lies about dating multiple women and 2) has sex with all of them. If a woman asks me if I'm seeing other women, I always answer truthfully. Also, as I've said previously, I only have sex with the one that I want to ultimately focus on. Your 2 first paragraphs are about diverting my attention to something else than the matter at hand. A player is a man with a 'game', period. Someone that calculates his every move to get a specific reaction from his opponent and this to obtain a final goal, in your case the final goal is women demanding sex from you. Being a player does not necessarily mean you have sex with multiple partners or you are dishonest.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Your 2 first paragraphs are about diverting my attention to something else than the matter at hand. A player is a man with a 'game', period. Someone that calculates his every move to get a specific reaction from his opponent and this to obtain a final goal, in your case the final goal is women demanding sex from you. Being a player does not necessarily mean you have sex with multiple partners or you are dishonest. 1) When I'm single, I date 3-4 women at a time. But I don't have sex with any of them and am always honest about dating others. I even cancelled a date awhile back because she expected me to only date her from the get go, and I couldn't give that to her. 2) I'm still being assertive and dominant leading the physical. Its not like I'm sitting back and letting her seduce me. I just deny sex. Why? I wouldn't in good conscience sleep with any of them until I knew which one I wanted to solely focus on. This goes hand in hand with believing in monogamy. ** But I won't lie. A definite added bonus is that her level of anticipation increases and she is always longing for sex. That's a way better place to be, then constantly having to chase after a woman acting like a p-whipped chump. Now maybe some women look at this, and get uneasy because they like determining when sex will happen. They don't like the idea of a man having that level of control over their desire. However, the whole point of proper seduction is to get a woman to the point where she wants to receive, and you're providing.
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