My ex broke up with me recently but texts me everyday, do I just ignore?

[unklejfunkle]

I have recently split with my ex of 7 years. Things weren't working for her, and she told me that the feeling is gone. She still cares about me but a lot of the love has faded. She wants kids and a white wedding and I just ain't ready for that. I'm 30 and she is 26. I used to go out most weekends when I was with her and didn't give her enough attention and could have done a lot more. I sent her a text around a week ago explaining all this saying that I should have defo treated you better etc and that is my fault we are not together. We have been seperated for around 3-4 weeks now. She says she wants to move on and there is no chance of us getting back together but she texts me nearly every day. I read on another forum that the best thing to do is just give her space and not text back for like a month and the absence of me will make her heart grow fonder but it's killing me her texting me everyday and not being able to text back. I really want her back and I am willing to change but she ain't hearing it, what do I do?

[PegNosePete]

Look dude, sorry to say that she has told you point blank to your face that there is no chance of you getting back together. Why don't you believe her? If you think you can read some tips on the internet about how to get your ex back or whatever then you're simply deluding yourself. She has told you that she never wants you back...

 

You need to move on. The best way to do that is no not have any contact with her. If the texts bother you then you can get apps for your phone that auto-delete texts from her number.

[Joannamay]

It's one of either 2 things. She 100% doesn't want to get back with you because she is fed up OR She broke up with you in the hope that you would change and become her perfect man. A lot of women break up with men in hopes that the shock and stress of a break up will push them to change for them. Whichever it is I don't think there is much chance of the relationship working, try doing no contact. Whenever she messaged you just don't reply, maybe block her number. It will help you heal!

 

Good luck to you

[Stercrazy]

I can only speak from my experience. I was in a similar situation years ago. The broke up with me after a 6 yr relationship because she wanted to get married. We broke up for like 3 months. We got back together and then engaged. We moved in together and 18 days before the wedding I called it off. I had the best night sleep that night in about a year. I came to realize that her interest to get married and have kids want stronger then just marrying me......I would be just a donor for her life plan. She was engaged and married a year and a half after we broke up. If she's dumping you to change you then she's not the one. The person you marry should love you for you and not want to change you. Of course this goes both ways.

[stillafool]

If you want her back stop taking her calls and let her know what it will be like without you there to fall back on. As long as you continue to answer her texts she will NEVER miss you.

[dave_1966]

I have recently split with my ex of 7 years. Things weren't working for her, and she told me that the feeling is gone. She still cares about me but a lot of the love has faded. She wants kids and a white wedding and I just ain't ready for that. I'm 30 and she is 26. I used to go out most weekends when I was with her and didn't give her enough attention and could have done a lot more. I sent her a text around a week ago explaining all this saying that I should have defo treated you better etc and that is my fault we are not together. We have been seperated for around 3-4 weeks now. She says she wants to move on and there is no chance of us getting back together but she texts me nearly every day. I read on another forum that the best thing to do is just give her space and not text back for like a month and the absence of me will make her heart grow fonder but it's killing me her texting me everyday and not being able to text back. I really want her back and I am willing to change but she ain't hearing it, what do I do?

 

Go on YouTube, and check out Corey Wayne. He's got hundreds of videos about all aspects of relationships. It's humorous, but very enlightening.

[Cinnamonstix]

I came to realize that her interest to get married and have kids want stronger then just marrying me......I would be just a donor for her life plan. She was engaged and married a year and a half after we broke up. If she's dumping you to change you then she's not the one. The person you marry should love you for you and not want to change you. Of course this goes both ways.

 

I agree. I'm very weary of men with timelines or who try to speed things along. If you're both sure you want to spend your lives together, what's the rush?