Inlovewithabrit Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Its been almost a week now since we broke up, I am starting to feel much better about things, which makes me think did I really love him? I feel that I am over it, but still confused and conflicted with feelings. I am trying to do the NC but he wants to stay friends and says that he still cares and loves me. And every time he tells me that, I ask myself, he possibly could not really love me if he can hurt me like that and be so cold towards me. I went in NC and today would be the 3rd day. However, he did message me yesterday saying... (I take the hint, I thought you wanted to be friends but I guess not. Goodbye Heidi, guess Ill talk to you sometime on xbox.) We are still friends on xbox. I hardly go on it, and I don't care to see if he is online or not, or even to talk to him. With him saying that, I did say I would like to be friends, but I need time because this is still hard on me. He then replied back, (You don`t think that this is hard me?) I then replied back stating, No I don't think this is hard on you. He never replied back and I have not said anything back to him. I feel this is all a joke to him, I was just his muse for when he was bored, or was in the mood to play, if you get my drift. But the thing I am feeling right now is that I don't really care anymore, he has hurt me to the point of were I do not care about him. If we stay friends or not. I cant even see myself in time talking to him through text because it would feel awkward. I have realized that he is not who I thought he was. Not even once has he asked me how I am doing, it is all about him. I have asked him before I went NC on him, how he was how he is feeling, which he responded like, okay or crappy bc he really misses me and he really loves me still. Which I know is a bunch of crap. I am just glad I got out when I did. And things are getting easier. I just also hate this, but I hope he is miserable and realizes that he made a mistake. Thanks to anybody that reads this. This site has been very helpful. 1
Kitkatleen24 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 You're so brave! i'm exactly in the same position as you!!! I wish i could get over him right now... Too bad i can't private message you, would really want to talk to someone in the same position as me!
Ruby65 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 If he's still able to contact you and send you messages..... you aren't doing No Contact. Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com 1
Zetec Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Well done you for initiating NC - it is obviously working as it has given you the chance to analyse the relationship and realise he is not who you thought he was. Stick to NC - he will get the hint. He may perceive any replies from you as breadcrumbs, which you don't want to give him. Completely agree about the friendship thing not being a good idea. After a relationship, it just doesn't work. Keep going, sounds like you are making good progress (Love the name btw, us Brits are great aren't we? )
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