ggas Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 So last January me and my ex broke after living together for one year due to the fact that she wanted to get back together with the boyfriend before me. It was a shock breakup and although the really hard part is gone I still find myself thinking about her (and him) a lot. Anyway, I tried to be as mature as I could about it. I moved out immediately, initiated NC (not the FB deletion kind of NC, but rather not saying anything at all) and tried to take care of myself as well as I could. It's been 3 months since and 3 days ago I got a message from her asking if I'm well but that I don't need to answer if I don't want to. I told her I'm well and that I hope she's well too. She said she's ok. And left the conversation at that. Yesterday I got a message from her telling me small details about her life and family. I told her that I appreciate her telling me all this, that it shows she has empathy and that I am a person who she enjoys talking to. I also told her that I would like to reciprocate but I have to be honest about my feelings. I continued to say that the truth is that me and her are NOT friends and WILL NOT be able to be friends. Not as long as she is with the other guy. I wished her a Happy Easter. Today she replied again with details about her life. She said she was not expecting us to be bffs and she apologizes for writing me, she did not want to cause me any discomfort but she felt the need for something familiar and she "just kind of missed me". She then wished me Happy Easter and all the best. I should mention that her boyfriend is in a different country (our homecountry, we are both expats). I realize I shouldn't read too much into this message. I just want to know if I handled myself well or if I was too nice. I would like your honest opinion on this whole situation.
FortunateSon Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 It's all about her, isn't it? Sounds like she is selfishly trying to relieve her guilt and making sure you don't hate her. I wouldn't respond to any of her messages and block contact if you can, for that matter.
Diezel Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Stop talking to her. Stop responding to her. In fact, block her. You said your piece and she's obviously trying to get back into your good graces. Remember, she broke your heart and your lease so she could get back with some other guy. And now she wants to relieve herself of some guilt. Not a person worthy of ANY of MY time, if you asked me.
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