sandymcdc Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 (edited) I met this guy online like 4 months ago later on we met at first we were good friends... and he told me he doesnt trust people anymore and after a while he started trusting me.. anyway we started on dating like 2 times a week becauae he lives a little away from me and we spend alot of times talking and laughing and all our dates were perfect.. his ex 3 years gf hurted him so much (she loved his money more than she loved him) started to chatting with him again and he told me they were chatting so I pulled myself away, 2 days later he asked me not to be away and he told me that he blocked her and I changed his mind and asked me what have I done to him.. we were back on dating so good and happy but she kept on sending him messages. His birthday came and I made him a really nice little surprise that he loved so. One week later was my birthday and he made me a REALLY BIG surprise with the help of my brother. .. after my birthday he went cold and I asked him many times whats wrong until two weeks later he told me that im so special to him and he doesn't want to hurt me that he needs space to know what he wants and when I told him I'll give him this space and I'll be away he kept on saying nooo dont be away I just need time so if I want to be with u I wont hurt u!!! SO HE WANTS SPACE AND STAY AWAY BUY HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO BE AWAY can u help plz!!! Edited April 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
PegNosePete Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Sorry to say he is BSing you. He wants you to wait around on the back burner while he tries to patch things up with his ex. But if that doesn't work out he wants you to be waiting there like a puppy dog to take him back. Don't be his (or anyone's) 2nd prize! Tell him you're not interested in seeing him again.
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 You are supposed to be his GF not his therapist. He's too much of an emotional mess to have a meaningful, healthy LTR. His lack of trust his a problem. His lack of boundaries is a bigger problem. Space or a break is a test drive of a break up. The person running for daylight (him) is making you an option until they are strong enough to stand on their own without you. In essence he's using you. Stop letting him by walking away.
Redhead14 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 (edited) When a guy says he needs space, you become NASA. Let him contact Houston when he realizes there's a problem. You tell him you will give him the space he needs and that there will be no contact for one month. After that time, he can reach out to you if he knows he wants you. Then start "dating" him again and is demonstrating sincerity. Assuming after that "break" you still want to be with him. You may find that during that time you are fine without him. Edited April 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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