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Is it ever worth telling someone you miss them?

LifeandPerseverance

By LifeandPerseverance
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LifeandPerseverance Established Member

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I think I know the answer to this is probably NO, especially when it's someone you once dated. But I just wanted to check.

 

 

I have another thread somewhere about the guy, but long story short for those who haven't read it: Met a guy, things were fantastic, and we dated for a short month. For the first time in over 2 years...I met someone who maybe, just maybe, made me think not all men were the same. And that I could just be me, and start trusting someone. And I started letting my guard down. And he convinced me he wasn't going anywhere, and we both stopped seeing other people. And I was so happy. I'd like to think he was happy too. And then one day his ex called, and wanted a second chance, and he couldn't decide what to do. Ultimately, whatever he wanted to do..It didn't involve continuing on with me.

 

 

It's now been over a month. I went NC the day it ended. And he's never contacted me. Not even once. He's now been out of my life longer than he was in it. By my own math, I should have been over it by now. It was only a month. Big $%## deal! I should be fine. And I really thought I was. But tonight I'm actually crying. I never cry. It's very unusual for me to cry.

 

 

I've been seeing other people. Some of them, at this point, I've been going out with and talking to for ALMOST AS LONG as I was (time duration wise) the other guy. Some of them are good looking, some of them are nice, some "get" me, some are ambitious. But none of them are the blend of all of them that he was. None of them are him. And the more dates I go on, the MORE I actually think about him or miss him.

 

 

I can't figure out if I miss him because he rejected me, just as things were getting good, and it jilted me and threw me for a loop, or rather..because he got me more than anyone has in a long time, and it just all clicked.

 

 

I know I shouldn't text him. I know it. But is it ever worth it?

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I feel bad for you because I know hard it hurts to be rejected.

 

But in your case I would say NO do not contact him because it sounds like you were a rebound and he was waiting for his EX to contact him.

 

It was only a month so I think you can move on from him pretty easily if you put your mind to it. And yes I do believe that you only want him because he rejected you, if he came back now crying sorry I think you would probably send him packing because you just got the validation you were looking for!

 

Hope it helped! :)

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xyz0123

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I said I miss her .. I heard she misses me. But the next thing I heard was that it doesn't make her feel bad anymore and she is happier without me. So you see an answer

No Limit Established Member

No Limit

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No, it isn't. It's very sad that those few words who actually come from emotions are often even ridiculed.

Karin2rinkashi Established Member

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I think I know the answer to this is probably NO, especially when it's someone you once dated. But I just wanted to check.

 

 

I have another thread somewhere about the guy, but long story short for those who haven't read it: Met a guy, things were fantastic, and we dated for a short month. For the first time in over 2 years...I met someone who maybe, just maybe, made me think not all men were the same. And that I could just be me, and start trusting someone. And I started letting my guard down. And he convinced me he wasn't going anywhere, and we both stopped seeing other people. And I was so happy. I'd like to think he was happy too. And then one day his ex called, and wanted a second chance, and he couldn't decide what to do. Ultimately, whatever he wanted to do..It didn't involve continuing on with me.

 

 

It's now been over a month. I went NC the day it ended. And he's never contacted me. Not even once. He's now been out of my life longer than he was in it. By my own math, I should have been over it by now. It was only a month. Big $%## deal! I should be fine. And I really thought I was. But tonight I'm actually crying. I never cry. It's very unusual for me to cry.

 

 

I've been seeing other people. Some of them, at this point, I've been going out with and talking to for ALMOST AS LONG as I was (time duration wise) the other guy. Some of them are good looking, some of them are nice, some "get" me, some are ambitious. But none of them are the blend of all of them that he was. None of them are him. And the more dates I go on, the MORE I actually think about him or miss him.

 

 

I can't figure out if I miss him because he rejected me, just as things were getting good, and it jilted me and threw me for a loop, or rather..because he got me more than anyone has in a long time, and it just all clicked.

 

 

I know I shouldn't text him. I know it. But is it ever worth it?

 

I think your usernames says it all really....

 

You were a rebound, as mentioned here before.... And it sucks!

 

But what can we do. People are not honest all the time, and all you can do is save your good self and move on.

 

You will find someone better!

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