Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Now that I think about it asian males are never portrayed as hot or sexy in Hollywood. Never mind Hollywood. how am I ever going to meet a guy from Hollywood? No Asian I know but... I nearly cried when the owner of the local Indian restaurant got married... not only is he gorgeous but lovely too... Cooks like a god, works his backside off, tells me off when I am being boring and cooks whatever he thinks I might like anyway which has opened my eyes to so much more than plain old chicken korma... The only consolation is that his wife is equally as lovely. Why don't they have more sexy Indians in Hollywood as well?
kendahke Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Now that I think about it asian males are never portrayed as hot or sexy in Hollywood. Hmmm... Jet Li and Chow Yun Fat come to mind
gaius Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 When I did OLD briefly I ran across black women who were only into black men. And a couple white women the same way. =/ What happened to my white privilege?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 When I did OLD briefly I ran across black women who were only into black men. And a couple white women the same way. =/ What happened to my white privilege? Yup I occasionally ran into some White Women who wanted a Black guy.... Guess they wanted the Big Black D 1
jen1447 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Yup I occasionally ran into some White Women who wanted a Black guy.... Guess they wanted the Big Black D ^ Not as far from the truth as you might think. 3
DKT3 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Simply put, people like what they like. No need to attach it to racism. Me, I like females period. Race means nothing to me.
bebe23 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 The race thing makes me think of my one regret- I never had an opportunity to date interracially. I've always found Black, Hispanic, Indian and Middle Eastern men very attractive! Even though I married a white guy, I was at least glad he had dark hair and eyes. I am probably least attracted to pale blondes and redheads because it would be like dating my brother. Too genetically similar! When I was about 20, I was told that I was the type of girl 'that black guys would like.' I knew it was because of my figure, a thinly veiled jab. But it made me think it might have been fun to date a cute black guy. They would flirt with me in the student center, but they never asked me out on an actual date.
EveAFlame Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Sure, when I was younger. But now I just chalk it up to preferences and I don't get my feelings hurt anymore.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 No. There seems to be a plethora of men (in my personal experience) that love to date Latina women. But, there may have been guys in my past that didn't want to date me because I'm Spanish and they just never told me that was the case, idk. It's never been said to my face - but, I'm sure there may have been a few guys that - once they found out that I'm Puerto Rican - they decided to pass. And that's perfectly okay. But...I will admit that, I've always gravitated toward Caucasian/Brit guys. It's just my physical preference. I've *never* dated my own race and have zero interest in doing so. And, that doesn't make me "racist"; it's just my dating preference, just like any other preference I have. .
40 Fonzarelli Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm Asian and my last two gf's were white, and I was their first asian guy. Sure I probably get rejected based on race sometimes but who cares. It's not something you can really control so why let it bother you? Just be the best version of yourself and you might actually just change someone's mind. 2
sandylee1 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I wouldn't call it discrimination, it's a personal preference. I've only dated within my race (I'm black). I've hung out with guys from other races before marriage, but never seriously. Dating outside your race can be met with a lot of additional stress, especially if it becomes serious. Sometimes acceptance of a partner from a different racial background, is a big hurdle for families, so at times people won't get involved for that reason. I've experienced this, dating someone from another continent, but the same colour. Have you considered it might be your religion and not race? Depending on where you live, there could be a perception (and I'm talking if it went as far as having kids ) that men who originate from certain other countries kidnap the kids when the relationship goes bad and the mother never sees them again. The women have no rights in those countries. I know both white and black females who have given this reason for not dating Asian /Arab men , especially where children are viewed as belonging to the man in Islam and women are given less rights. 1
LizardRex Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I don't think I have. It is a tricky situation. Certainly racism lends itself more to believing stereotypes about groups of people and judging them based on those stereotypes. Is a man racist because he likes black girls over asians or vice versa or whatever? I don't think so. At the same time, if you are of a certain race, and are not attracted to your own, I think there is a problem there. I'm not one who believes we should all belong to our own, but it does raise a flag when some people say they won't date people of their own race. But again, that's not racist either.
Phoe Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Glenn in the walking dead? Yes, I've got a bit of a crush on Glenn... 1
Author AVarma Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 I wouldn't call it discrimination, it's a personal preference. I've only dated within my race (I'm black). I've hung out with guys from other races before marriage, but never seriously. Dating outside your race can be met with a lot of additional stress, especially if it becomes serious. Sometimes acceptance of a partner from a different racial background, is a big hurdle for families, so at times people won't get involved for that reason. I've experienced this, dating someone from another continent, but the same colour. Have you considered it might be your religion and not race? Depending on where you live, there could be a perception (and I'm talking if it went as far as having kids ) that men who originate from certain other countries kidnap the kids when the relationship goes bad and the mother never sees them again. The women have no rights in those countries. I know both white and black females who have given this reason for not dating Asian /Arab men , especially where children are viewed as belonging to the man in Islam and women are given less rights. I'm sure there is the perception, I am Muslim and knowing other Muslims it doesn't surprise me that this happens. Having said that I was born and raised in the US.
PinkElephants Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I've never encountered any discrimination that I know of. I'm predominantly 2 races but my ethnic background spans 4 continents. Taste the rainbow! Men actually come up to me because they can't figure out what I am and then are even more interested when I tell them. I've also never experienced any issues from parent/siblings of the men I date. I have the exotic look that has attracted men of all races though I admit I favor men of only one. Can it be called discrimination for me to be attracted to one of my races but not the other 3?
Dork Vader Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I'm white and have had this issue. I've dated 3 black women and absolutely loved them every single time. The problem was we were too young for the relationship to last. They would move away for college or something a long those lines. When I dated Black women I did feel some racism. But not from them, their friends or their families. Granted there would be a few white boy jokes here or there but that was about it. Where I felt the racism the most was from my white friends. When I was not with her and it was just a guys night they would ask me extremely racist and inappropriate questions. Many of them did not realize how racist they were being and how rude it was until I said something. It's fairly normal in my area for Latino's to date white people and other races. I've dated quite a few. Typically if they are 3rd generation Americans or later there are no issues at all. How ever I was just dating a first generation Latino. She would constantly bring up me being a white boy. She would constantly point too things being a difference because of race. Yet race played almost no part in it. For example I'm fairly geeky she would say it's because you're white. Another example I do fairly well income wise. She said it was because I was white.. I finally had enough of it and dumped her because of it. I've yet to date an Asian. I've dated an Indian woman and found the cultural difference to be way too extreme. She was not used to being treated with respect as an equal too me. She was used too being treated like dirt and not my equal. It lead to numerous issues and made me extremely uncomfortable. While I don't believe all Indian women are like this, it's been my experience that it is fairly common in part because of their culture. I've had female friends date Indian men and they typically only do it once. They all run into the same issue of feeling like they are not equal to the man. The man tells them she should respect him and so on. It typically gets worse with time and eventually they draw a line and walk away. But I firmly believe this too be a cultural difference and not a race issue. It really depends on numerous things and not all people from India are like this. 1
Revolver Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It's rare, but I also think that John Cho is pretty attractive, though he may not be portrayed as such. He's the main male in a series called Selfie. They are either portrayed as 1.) asexual Or 2.)When they acknowledge that the guy has sexual feelings it's seen as a joke/punchline. Like haha he's a socially awkward nerd who can't get girls
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