AVarma Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Maybe your black and found women don't want to date you. I've heard of many Indian men complain that white women won't give them the time of day. So has anyone here ever felt that their race has hindered them from dating other races? I'm an Indian Muslim (born and raised in the West) and I had a few instances when I was younger of white women not liking me because of my race. As an adult so far it hasn't really hindered me in dating but I haven't really dated that much anyway so who knows?
Syberia Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Personally, I'm just not physically attracted to the "common" features of one or more race. Not going to specify what, as it's not relevant, but I don't see a mere lack of attraction as racist. If there happened to be someone of that particular race that I did find attractive, I would have no problem with them. I am white, and my first gf was black.
jay1983 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 (edited) Yes, it's true. Indian and Asian guys have it the worst. Then black, Hispanic and so on. Worse thing about is it doesn't hit women like it hits men, somehow men can see the difference between attractive and unattractive in every race. To make matters worse, a lot of nonwhite women have a preference for white men, I mean some very desirable ethinic women and a hell of a lot more than white women who date out of race. I'm not sure what it is with women, we can't get into the minds of women so......... Anyways, women like what they like and there ain't nothing we can do about it, complaining about the double standard won't do you any good. The answer is go where ethic women are. I get a 3 to 1 ratio of Hispanic vs white women interested in me and I'm kinda white looking, I could probably pass for half white. I'll be upfront with you, go where Indian women are, if you stay in a white area, you have a very small window of opportunity and don't be surprised if most of the whites willing to date you are obese. Edited April 13, 2015 by jay1983
Hawaii51 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Maybe your black and found women don't want to date you. I've heard of many Indian men complain that white women won't give them the time of day. So has anyone here ever felt that their race has hindered them from dating other races? I'm an Indian Muslim (born and raised in the West) and I had a few instances when I was younger of white women not liking me because of my race. As an adult so far it hasn't really hindered me in dating but I haven't really dated that much anyway so who knows? You're confusing "Not like me" with " not attracted to me. I'm sorry if everyone is looking for a white-chick.. But, there just as many indian and asian people in the world. As a matter of fact, probably more. So any color man approaching a white-chick isn't working the numbers. . 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm white and I like to date white girls, not racist, just personal preference on what I find attractive. I think its pretty common for a lot of people whether they'd like to admit it or not. If you're Asian or Indian, what's wrong with dating someone else who is also Asian or Indian? There would be less cultural differences to get over as well. 1
h0000 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I heard people around me complain about being "discriminated" in dating for being Asian so I suppose it is true.
jay1983 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 If you've used POF or OKcupid, I know you've seen women who flat out write that they're on!y interested in white men. Okay, only a few write that, but here's the thing, I think those are the only ones who are cold enough to admit it. Imagine who many feel the same, but are too nice to say it. Once again, just go where women who like you are. Those Indian singer concerts and events that you see flyers
Hawaii51 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'll go ahead and spill my bias as well, it could be what some women are thinking (women and I being on the same page could happen). I want my offspring to look like me, so with that said, and dominant genes of a Black or Indian-female is sort of out of the question for me. Before you reply, remember, I'm talking strictly procreation. My ideal mate would be an Asian/Latin/Caucasian blend.
jay1983 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'll go ahead and spill my bias as well, it could be what some women are thinking (women and I being on the same page could happen). I want my offspring to look like me, so with that said, and dominant genes of a Black or Indian-female is sort of out of the question for me. Before you reply, remember, I'm talking strictly procreation. My ideal mate would be an Asian/Latin/Caucasian blend. I think you're on to something and I respect your preference. But, and just to throw this out there. Have you seen black and Asian mix? Oh man, I'm not saying reconsider, I'm just saying damn, they look good!
Hawaii51 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I think you're on to something and I respect your preference. But, and just to throw this out there. Have you seen black and Asian mix? Oh man, I'm not saying reconsider, I'm just saying damn, they look good! I've seen a great many. Especially Asian mixes. Well, it's obviously not set in stone- it just hasn't happened to me, and when/if the time comes, I'm just going follow my heart.
Shining One Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm sorry if everyone is looking for a white-chick.. But, there just as many indian and asian people in the world. As a matter of fact, probably more. So any color man approaching a white-chick isn't working the numbers.Some of us are limited by the demographics in our area. I'm not selective about race and I approach women of any color. From a percentage standpoint, I actually have a better track record with white women than Indian women. If you've used POF or OKcupid, I know you've seen women who flat out write that they're on!y interested in white men. Okay, only a few write that, but here's the thing, I think those are the only ones who are cold enough to admit it. Imagine who many feel the same, but are too nice to say it.On Match, you have checkboxes to select which races you're interested in dating. You also have the option to automatically filter out emails from races you're not interested in. I'm Indian myself and it has been frustrating dating in this area. I've learned to deal with it now, but it was very depressing when I was younger. It felt "wrong" to be Indian. I've accepted that I simply need to ask out a far larger number of women than normal to find those interested. I can visually pass for Hispanic and I occasionally use that for ONS or flings.
Hawaii51 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I heard people around me complain about being "discriminated" in dating for being Asian so I suppose it is true. The first definition of "discriminate."To "recognize a distinction; differentiate." I'll surmise you're talking about an asian >male< friend. Is not liking turkey sandwiches discriminating?
h0000 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 The first definition of "discriminate."To "recognize a distinction; differentiate." I'll surmise you're talking about an asian >male< friend. Is not liking turkey sandwiches discriminating? That's why I said "discriminated in dating", meaning people don't prefer them. They have also said feeling discriminated among other situations though. And it's Asian female friends I am talking about.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 That's why I said "discriminated in dating", meaning people don't prefer them. They have also said feeling discriminated among other situations though. And it's Asian female friends I am talking about. Speaking from a White Guy's perspective, I have some Asian friends, and even had one Asian Girl I know try set me up with one of her friends - but she was a bit FOB (fresh off boat) and there were too many cultural/language differences. Out of any non-white ethnic category I'd probably prefer an Asian Woman over any other group - but if they didn't grow up here and have a lot of similar cultural values, it most likely wouldn't cut it for me.
Hawaii51 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 That's why I said "discriminated in dating", meaning people don't prefer them. They have also said feeling discriminated among other situations though. And it's Asian female friends I am talking about. How do you feel, being an Asian woman? This isn't directed at you, H0000, but I wonder where just plain attractiveness comes into play. Cause really, prime examples of any breed of human (m/f) are usually highly attractive, and we're all just variations. H000 I find it hard that you would be discriminated against in any serious manner.
h0000 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 How do you feel, being an Asian woman? This isn't directed at you, H0000, but I wonder where just plain attractiveness comes into play. Cause really, prime examples of any breed of human (m/f) are usually highly attractive, and we're all just variations. H000 I find it hard that you would be discriminated against in any serious manner. I have had my rejections. Whether it is because I'm asian or not I wouldn't know cuz no one would say in my face "I don't date you because you are Asian ". Of course attractiveness comes to play but I am certain there are people who would never find certain races attractive. Here as an example, I have some male friends telling me that their friends told them they just never find Asians attractive.
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Not with dating but I was turned down for a job once because I am white and they had a black person also apply and they needed to get their numbers of different skin colours up within their work force... Discrimination is discrimination even if you call it "positive" discrimination... As for preferences with attraction that is a whole other ball game... I think the way to look at is that if someone is not going to be attracted to you because of something so silly as your race, height, hair/ eye colour etc then they are probably not the one for you anyway. So you may as well shrug it off and walk away. I was told that I am "just someones type" the other day... They thought I am brunette - I am actually ginger... he has gone quiet. I am not worried. 1
soyou Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm Asian and so far I have not experienced so much of the discrimination in dating toward me. I've dated different races - white, black, Asian, latino. I've met many guys who had never been with Asian women before or they rarely ever consider dating Asian. Yet, they all dated me and or hooked up with me. I think in the end, it all comes down as how attractive and interesting you are as a person. 12 years go, I could never consider dating a black person. To me, they were really a no go. Then it happened. I met the most charming, witty, and good looking black man on earth. I fell head over heels for him and we ended up dating each other for more than 3 years. Similar story, I was not fancy dating Asian men (from my own race) at all until I met one of my smartest, wittest, and good looking Asian clients. I was head over heels for him but too bad, he just wanted to hook up with me. Discrimination is just like rules. They're are made to be broken 4
shvrk Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Most definitely, I live in a super conservative area in Indiana, so not many men on OLD would think twice about me. I wasn't the dream county girl with big blue eyes that could ride in the passenger seat of his pickup truck and dancing all night to Jason Aldeen or whatever... So I had a lot of men of color message me and not really know how to treat me and many men that were white just wanted to have sex. But I ended up with a white man in the end. It doesn't help that I am dark-skinned with a shaved head either... I've grown to love my look though. 3
No Limit Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Not race, but nationality. For whatever reason in my first highschool they called our names, where we live and our nationalities in front of the whole class. WWII might be over but there's still a lot of... pride in Germans, and when the kids found out I was from the neighbour country - Czech Republic; overall Slavic people hold together and it's no secret that in the trade markets on our borders Germans get treated unfairly - hell began until a year later I went to a new highschool where people didn't care at all about my nationality. The less educated and enlightened some people are, the more likely it is that they'll judge you by prejudice. 2
kendahke Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 At my age (55) and in the area of the country in which I live (DC), there doesn't seem to be any hangups about my race (I'm mixed). I used to date black men, but don't anymore. I"m just no longer interested. I now only date white men, who seem un-phased by my skin color. Perhaps it's because the whole procreation boat has long sailed? Who knows, but it's a real eye-opening difference in estimation. No black man outside of my father ever used terms of endearment to me (darling, dear, sweetheart, etc.); the white men do. That is my experience. Your mileage may vary. 1
stillmind Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I wouldn't consider marrying or having children with someone outside my race/ethnicity. If I someday find myself divorced or widowed past the age of childbearing I would date anyone, but I wanted my children to share my heritage.
Revolver Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Now that I think about it asian males are never portrayed as hot or sexy in Hollywood.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Now that I think about it asian males are never portrayed as hot or sexy in Hollywood. Glenn in the walking dead? 1
shvrk Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Now that I think about it asian males are never portrayed as hot or sexy in Hollywood. It's rare, but I also think that John Cho is pretty attractive, though he may not be portrayed as such. He's the main male in a series called Selfie.
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