sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I am going through a rough break up and all my friends say that i should go bang some other girl to get over my first. I honestly believe in my heart that sex is only for love and do you guys all think that there is somebody out there that will be a match for me? like some girl that believes the same? that sex is only for love. I've always believed that anytime you have sex with somebody that it should only be for love. I feel as though I should be able to justify everytime i sleep with somebody by saying i loved them. Is this weird for a 21 year old guy? Is this weird in general? Are there still girls out there that believe the same? Very confused.
Cinnamonstix Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm sorry you're hurting Breakups suck balls! I personally only really enjoy sex with someone I love or know that I can love. But everyone is different. Stick to your values and you can't go wrong. 1
TunaCat Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Don't settle. Stick to your values. Someone somewhere is out there waiting for someone who has the same values about sex as you.
Author sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 It's just so confusing. I feel like i made a mistake by ever sleeping with this girl in the first place because i honestly don't think i ever loved her. i think i only loved being in a relationship. and that scares me more than anything because i feel as though i'm letting whoever i marry down the road down because i slept with her. I don't know. you're right, break ups suck but i'm so confided in this idea that everybody is sleeping around just like hollywood and society wants us to. And i just don't believe in that and i'm scared that i'll always be looking for a girl that's like me and will never find her.
hollypolly Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Sleeping with a random stranger when its against your personal values will make you feel way worse than you do now. I know alot of people choose to do this but that doesnt mean you have to. Im a bit older than you I think and I can honestly tell you that as a woman I would find those values to be an attractive quality in a man as they reflect my own. 1
Author sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 Holly, i want you to know that i'm an honest and true guy. I'm so romantic and honest that i don't believe that any amount of pain could put me in a position where i'd have to "bang" any random girl that's a "slut" even though my ex is sleeping with everyone in town now after our break up. I just am struggling because i don't know if there's any girl out there that feels so strongly about sex is for love like i do. It's horrible seeing someone you loved going towards that path. But i believe somewhere deep down that just maybe a sexy girl will feel the same way about sex that i do.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 You hold that belief. Just that alone shows it to be a probability, so there must be. I think this is a case of the "sluts" happen to be the loud group so it's only natural that it's the only voice you hear. The more modest women aren't going to run around bragging about all the men they haven't slept with...
hollypolly Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 There are lots of girls like that I can assure you. Im 29 and Im one. My girlfriends are all like me. Any guy I went out with was the same too. Dont lose hope. Just because all you see is the "slutty" ones, doesnt mean thats all there is.
Jimmyjackson Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I am going through a rough break up and all my friends say that i should go bang some other girl to get over my first. I honestly believe in my heart that sex is only for love and do you guys all think that there is somebody out there that will be a match for me? like some girl that believes the same? that sex is only for love. I've always believed that anytime you have sex with somebody that it should only be for love. I feel as though I should be able to justify everytime i sleep with somebody by saying i loved them. Is this weird for a 21 year old guy? Is this weird in general? Are there still girls out there that believe the same? Very confused. Some people only have sex in relationships yeah, if that's what you're getting at. I'm the same as you in some ways, I've had two ONS now and to be honest I didn't like them, I actually felt worse and compared them to my ex after they happened, so no, I don't think they help you. If you were to find a new woman and have sex with her I think it would be different as there would be feelings there
Author sutsie Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 you guys all put a smile on my face this morning when i woke up and read your replies. Thank you everyone for the kind thoughts and support.
PegNosePete Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Weird, yes. Wrong, no. Do not allow others moral values or judgements influence your own decisions. Stand up weird and proud. Better to be a happy platypus than a miserable sheep.
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