Jimmyjackson Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Anybody else ever feel really lonely? I seem to spend most of my free time in my room alone. I have a free house majority of the time and I just feel genuinely lonely all the time. I never felt like this until I became single for the first time a months ago. Even when I'm out and amongst others I still feel lonely, despite a lot of people being around me. How do I break free of these thoughts and enjoy being by myself?
xyz0123 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I'm on the same boat right now.. 2 months after break up and I had to move back to a different country after 3 years. With nothing here, no friends really, no any work, no opportunities. All I do is listen to music, write music, play guitar.. I guess sometimes you have to start with simple things.. like washing the dishes (proved by psychologists that it increases a good mood).. cleaning.. sorting.. I go biking sometimes.. it is hard, until you walk out the door, lock it.. then it's easier. Still hard, but somehow you can start enjoying it. Go to some local bands concerts.. I do that every weekend and it's really amazing. You can always try to talk to other people at there. Just find something you have even slightly interest in.. It doesn't have to be something you love so much and would die for, just something small.. or do something you thought about some day or daydreamed or whatever.. Sitting at home, locked up is not wrong, you need that sometimes. But doing things for yourself is not wrong either. Keep looking and hold on!
Author Jimmyjackson Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 I'm on the same boat right now.. 2 months after break up and I had to move back to a different country after 3 years. With nothing here, no friends really, no any work, no opportunities. All I do is listen to music, write music, play guitar.. I guess sometimes you have to start with simple things.. like washing the dishes (proved by psychologists that it increases a good mood).. cleaning.. sorting.. I go biking sometimes.. it is hard, until you walk out the door, lock it.. then it's easier. Still hard, but somehow you can start enjoying it. Go to some local bands concerts.. I do that every weekend and it's really amazing. You can always try to talk to other people at there. Just find something you have even slightly interest in.. It doesn't have to be something you love so much and would die for, just something small.. or do something you thought about some day or daydreamed or whatever.. Sitting at home, locked up is not wrong, you need that sometimes. But doing things for yourself is not wrong either. Keep looking and hold on! I do go to the gym and keep busy sometimes I guess. I'm literally in my room alone now and its past midnight here. I feel sad and angry at my ex too. I just feel so down and stuck, I feel like crying but to be honest I rarely cry and can never seem to make myself do it.
endlessabyss Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Since my break-up I have experienced loneliness on a profound level; going on three years now. Weekends are the worse. The struggle is real.
xyz0123 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I do go to the gym and keep busy sometimes I guess. I'm literally in my room alone now and its past midnight here. I feel sad and angry at my ex too. I just feel so down and stuck, I feel like crying but to be honest I rarely cry and can never seem to make myself do it. I understand! Seems like we are in the same time zone =) The nights are terrible.. there's no faking it. But put on some TV series or a movie. Have some drink or just a beer.. If you don't like alcohol then take your favorite soda or something you just like. Or just listen to music, intensively.. Maybe discover some new bands/artists? Maybe draw? Play an online game? Read something? Find some recipes for something you've never done before and have it on your mind til the day time and actually do it? Doing things alone sucks but there is still that feeling to develop to be proud of yourself. Do the crying. Sometimes it's necessary. And trust me when you cry one night, second, third.. After a while it goes away and you don't cry. You feel super empty but then you just fill up your days and nights with things and it starts to be good. I am kind of saying way to ahead of myself because I haven't healed yet.. but I remember my previous break ups. Just find something even the simplest thing or silliest. Try 1
Author Jimmyjackson Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 I understand! Seems like we are in the same time zone =) The nights are terrible.. there's no faking it. But put on some TV series or a movie. Have some drink or just a beer.. If you don't like alcohol then take your favorite soda or something you just like. Or just listen to music, intensively.. Maybe discover some new bands/artists? Maybe draw? Play an online game? Read something? Find some recipes for something you've never done before and have it on your mind til the day time and actually do it? Doing things alone sucks but there is still that feeling to develop to be proud of yourself. Do the crying. Sometimes it's necessary. And trust me when you cry one night, second, third.. After a while it goes away and you don't cry. You feel super empty but then you just fill up your days and nights with things and it starts to be good. I am kind of saying way to ahead of myself because I haven't healed yet.. but I remember my previous break ups. Just find something even the simplest thing or silliest. Try I just started typing a message to a friend online and towards the end of it I actually started crying my eyes out. It's almost as if when I read it out loud it became real.
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