Lucky Dog Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 If you could have a sexual encounter with the person(s) of your dreams, and not get caught (or catch any diseases) by your significant other, would you?
faux Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 I would not, and very much doubt that I could. If no one else would ever know, I still would; I would be reminded of it every moment I spend with my girlfriend, every time she tells me that she loves me, every times she tells me that she trusts me. I could not live with that sort of pain, and I could not think to violate someone as kind as my girlfriend.
bluetuesday Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 never. and faux, i think what you said was beautiful.
agnf666 Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Sure why not. Something needs to happen in my boring life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
alphamale Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 of course, and so would most other people under your given circumstances.
Craig Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 No. Even if my significant other would never know, the significant me would and I have to live with me 24/7.
moimeme Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Never. The 'person of my dreams' would, by definition, be the SO. Nobody else would do.
alphamale Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by Craig No. Even if my significant other would never know, the significant me would and I have to live with me 24/7. you are so full of shyt CRAIG.
Craig Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale you are so full of shyt CRAIG. Why Alpha? Please, explain.
moimeme Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 You know what I hate? I hate, hate, HATE people who insist that everybody else is exactlly like themselves. You , [color=blue] ALPHAMALE, [/color] may utterly fail to comprehend what loyalty and fidelity are about. You may never have really loved someone. And that's pretty sad. But when those of us who DO comprehend loyalty and true love and passion speak what we believe, you go on with your blather as though you know the souls of all humans. You have to have a soul yourself to understand others'.
alphamale Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme You know what I hate? I hate, hate, HATE people who insist that everybody else is exactlly like themselves. so what? you do it all the time MOIMEME. the fact is that given the circumstances the majority of people would do it. accept it and move on. don't give me you idealistic and naive bulloney. give me reality.
moimeme Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 so what? you do it all the time MOIMEME See, you don't pay attention. In fact, I am always saying that everybody's different and that everybody thinks differently. don't give me you idealistic and naive bulloney. give me reality It's not idealistic and naive BALONEY. It's MY reality. Craig says its HIS reality and Faux and BlueTuesday say it's THEIR reality. So that it's not yours does not mean it isn't valid for others.
alphamale Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme See, you don't pay attention. In fact, I am always saying that everybody's different and that everybody thinks differently. It's not idealistic and naive BALONEY. It's MY reality. Craig says its HIS reality and Faux and BlueTuesday say it's THEIR reality. So that it's not yours does not mean it isn't valid for others. Look MOIMEME, why don't u stroll on down to the NEw Amsterdam Cafe and take a few bong hits and mellow out.
johan Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 I don't think I would. I've never had sex just to have sex though. I have to really like the girl or else I don't want her around, clothes or no clothes. If she were really the girl of my dreams, meaning I actually liked her, I'd be spending a lot of time trying to date her. No time left for the girlfriend/wife. On the other developing off-topic: Alphamale is just as full of "shyt" as anyone else here. Probably more. He knows half the stuff he presents as universal truths are really only true for cynical people while they are feeling cynical. He doesn't even live by half the rules he spouts around here, because whenever he encounters a non-theoretical woman he actually likes he has to adjust. He might not admit it, but it's true. You may have noticed the people who like him don't really take him seriously, or they don't know enough. The people who don't like him are the ones who take him seriously. Spout on, Alpha. If you weren't amusing, I'm not sure what use you would be.
DeaconFrost Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Well, this is a hell of a question. On one hand, it would be your chance to get with "that one" person. It would certainly be a hell of an experience. However, the best sexual experiences come with the one's that you truly are in love with. Having said that, I don't think it would be worth it to deal with on your conscience. Is another notch on the belt really that important?...No! I think I'd feel like I betrayed my SO and that I, single-handedly, ruined and tainted what I had worked so hard to build up. And who's to say that if I did it once, why wouldn't I do it again...
moimeme Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Every now and then you think you've encountered someone witty enough to have it on with people. Until it turns out that person's not joking at all. Bogus cynicism can be funny - if presented in a witty manner.
johan Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by DeaconFrost However, the best sexual experiences come with the one's that you truly are in love with. Good point. And I have to take back the part about pursuing her. I'm turned off by the thought of even getting to the point where I have to make a choice. I once messed around with a married woman. I felt really bad about it, because I realized that if you cheat then you're a cheater for the rest of your life. It's a mark on your character, even if you learn from it and never do it again. I would drive myself crazy with that thought. For me, that's enough to turn the most gorgeous woman into a monster. Except Amanda Peete. I'd probably sacrifice my integrity for her. Interestingly, this has caused me to hold my girlfriend to a higher standard as well. On some things you can't afford to entertain the middle gound, even if it exists.
alphamale Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by johan Alphamale is just as full of "shyt" as anyone else here. Probably more. He knows half the stuff he presents as universal truths are really only true for cynical people while they are feeling cynical. He doesn't even live by half the rules he spouts around here, because whenever he encounters a non-theoretical woman he actually likes he has to adjust. He might not admit it, but it's true. Look JOHAN, did u or did u not read the original question up above??? Here it is again below: If you could have a sexual encounter with the person(s) of your dreams, and not get caught (or catch any diseases) by your significant other, would you? My point is that given the set of circumstances above (read it carefully), most people would do it. And don't bullshyt yourself into thinking they won't. If I could have sex with Cameron Diaz and not get caught or have any other overt repricussions then I would most definitely do it. And so would many others.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by Lucky Dog If you could have a sexual encounter with the person(s) of your dreams, and not get caught (or catch any diseases) by your significant other, would you? If Clive Owen rang me tomorrow and asked me for a go... hmmmm... fantasy-wise, I'd say hell yes! It would be the ultimate "zipless f*ck". Realistically, though - I'm not so sure. I've been with Mr. B so long that I'm not comfortable with the idea of anyone else seeing me naked or even partially clothed. My comfort with my body and myself lies a good deal in my comfort with him. I'd be so self-conscious about it that I'm not sure I'd enjoy it very much. I enjoy the idea of it far more than I would the ultimately awkward reality of it.
GirlDown Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale If I could have sex with Cameron Diaz and not get caught or have any other overt repricussions then I would most definitely do it. really? interesting choice...sometimes she's so goofy it's hard for me to think of her as sexual...like she would laugh the whole time she was getting banged.
Gunner Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 I have been married to my wife for 17 years and she is the only person I've ever been with. I would have to say that I could never be with somebody else because the guilt would eat me alive. I would be a total wreck and useless in every way. Gunner
johan Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Look JOHAN, did u or did u not read the original question up above??? Here it is again below: If you could have a sexual encounter with the person(s) of your dreams, and not get caught (or catch any diseases) by your significant other, would you? My point is that given the set of circumstances above (read it carefully), most people would do it. And don't bullshyt yourself into thinking they won't. If I could have sex with Cameron Diaz and not get caught or have any other overt repricussions then I would most definitely do it. And so would many others. Thanks for pointing that out. Feel free to re-read the question yourself. If YOU could have an encounter, etc. No one asked you what you thought society in general would do, and it's convenient that no one has any more empirical evidence than you do in order to dispute the point. I can see how you might want to bring society into it, if it makes what you would do seem more right. I assume that's why you insist on pointing out that "many others" would do it, too. Otherwise I can't see how it's relevant. Do you know why you back your points with broad unprovable generalizations? Maybe that's why I think you're full of shyt. I could concede your point if you'd like. But, I think I'll stand by what I wrote for now. Don't take it personally, or I might start thinking you take yourself as seriously as Moi does.
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