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[No evidence in] pics that he was losing his hair and when you show you noticed he is "Balding"

 

Can you see yourself being turned off?

 

 

I don't know for a fact if that has been the case with me since I have had 3 rejections in a row. I really don't highlight in my pics that my hair is thinning but now I am thinking maybe I should have.

 

I know my physical flaws are my teeth and hair and the hair would be noticed before the teeth so I am thinking that is the case, the thinning hair. So i decided to highlight in my pics now that I have thinning hair because I am not used to all these rejections so close together.

 

 

So just wanting to ask the ladies could you see yourself being turned off if you met a guy face to face with thinning hair that was not evident in his pics?

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Wouldn't worry about deceiving people. if it's a current picture it's a current picture.

 

 

The alternative is including pics of your crown, pics with your haired pulled back to expose receding temples, and also posting diagrams of the Norwood scale, detailing where you are on that scale.

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Well I will give yo an example of what happened to a GF of mine. She showed me a guy's profile where he didn't smile. She said to me "He looks ok doesn't he?" I sad yes. Then she told me about their coffee date. When she met him, she noticed his horrible teeth. turn off! She was not happy about it.

 

Now for thinning hair.....that's just a natural thing that happens to men as they mature, no biggie. But poor oral hygiene is a big fail. That is something that you can do about by dentist visits. No excuse there. So the conclusion isn't the hair but the teeth.

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Jessie1231 Established Member

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You should let it show in your pics if you're balding. For some women it's a deal breaker, but there are plenty who are fine with it. No need to waste both people's time meeting if hair loss is something a woman can't handle. It's much easier to only meet women who know going in that your hair is thinning.

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Well I will give yo an example of what happened to a GF of mine. She showed me a guy's profile where he didn't smile. She said to me "He looks ok doesn't he?" I sad yes. Then she told me about their coffee date. When she met him, she noticed his horrible teeth. turn off! She was not happy about it.

 

Now for thinning hair.....that's just a natural thing that happens to men as they mature, no biggie. But poor oral hygiene is a big fail. That is something that you can do about by dentist visits. No excuse there. So the conclusion isn't the hair but the teeth.

 

See I am not sure it's the teeth because I had the same teeth in 1998 when I attracted several pretty women. But I do know it's one of them because it;s the two things that is not revealed in my pics

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You should let it show in your pics if you're balding. For some women it's a deal breaker, but there are plenty who are fine with it. No need to waste both people's time meeting if hair loss is something a woman can't handle. It's much easier to only meet women who know going in that your hair is thinning.

 

I agree, I get so caught up in getting lots of messages but don;t realize it doesn't matter if she meets me and wasn;t expecting the thinning hair

 

What I have done now is include a pic of me showing two things

 

That I have thinning but NICE HAIR and so far it has gotten me messages.

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See I am not sure it's the teeth because I had the same teeth in 1998 when I attracted several pretty women. But I do know it's one of them because it;s the two things that is not revealed in my pics

Revealing what you got, you will have the right ones responding, and that is the whole point here right?

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Revealing what you got, you will have the right ones responding, and that is the whole point here right?

 

Yes which is why I decided to show the good and bad side of all my hair

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I totally get how tough it can be, because in all seriousness you can't really tell how a person is just by some pics and a few comments, but it is all about selling yourself. Me and my husband were looking for a buddy's profile one day to see what he posted. We ending up checking out the competition. I have to say there were some real bad photos, not just the douchie ones of the shirtless guy in the bathroom mirror...it's no wonder guys complain about getting no responses. You just have to look natural, in a pleasant setting.....but not sitting in your lazyboy in a old sweat shirt having meat sweats lol.

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I wouldn't be put off by the hair loss specifically, but I think people can be put off by surprises, especially when they seem to indicate some degree of deception. So if you went to great lengths to disguise hair loss in your photos, then showed up for a date featuring hair loss, that wouldn't play well because you'd come off like a con.

 

I think you're on the right track by just showing normal photos. You have no obligation to lead with "Hi, I'm a guy with hair loss," but don't disguise it either. The real people will appreciate you being forthright and evaluate you on more important things.

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It's best to show yourself pretty much as you are. The reason for this is that you will know then that the women who are happy to chat with you and meet you are attracted to who you are and not a false impression.

 

Sorry to hear you've been rejected but sometimes these things are mutual you know. You could be giving off signs of discomfort with them. They could find you look different in person and vice versa. There are a million and one reasons why things don't work in person and it may be nothing to do with the things you are worrying about.

 

It's best to talk on the phone before meeting, just to get a feel for that person's voice and personality.

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It's best to show yourself pretty much as you are. The reason for this is that you will know then that the women who are happy to chat with you and meet you are attracted to who you are and not a false impression.

 

Sorry to hear you've been rejected but sometimes these things are mutual you know. You could be giving off signs of discomfort with them. They could find you look different in person and vice versa. There are a million and one reasons why things don't work in person and it may be nothing to do with the things you are worrying about.

 

It's best to talk on the phone before meeting, just to get a feel for that person's voice and personality.

 

I always make sure I have atleast 3 phone conversations before meeting face to face. And yes I agree about showing the real me instead of hiding it

 

 

 

But the problem is the thinning is in the MIDDLE of my head so I was trying my best to get it in the photo the best way I could

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I always make sure I have atleast 3 phone conversations before meeting face to face. And yes I agree about showing the real me instead of hiding it

 

 

 

But the problem is the thinning is in the MIDDLE of my head so I was trying my best to get it in the photo the best way I could

 

Unless you have a picture of the top of your head, I don't know how you could show that kind of balding. And this is just my opinion, but I think you shouldn't have to do that. If a front facing clear shot of you is current, then that should be fine.

 

Then again, if I have talked with a man and feel enough of a connection to met him, some thinning hair in the middle of his head isn't going to cancel all that out.

 

HOWEVER, I learned the hard way to never meet anyone whose picture is of them wearing a baseball cap with a closed mouth grin, and I'll just leave it at that. :D

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Wouldn't worry about deceiving people. if it's a current picture it's a current picture.

 

 

The alternative is including pics of your crown, pics with your haired pulled back to expose receding temples, and also posting diagrams of the Norwood scale, detailing where you are on that scale.

 

 

lol'd pretty hard at this.

 

 

Good stuff.

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I rarely wear makeup in real life, so I made sure that every other photo on Tinder was a (good) photo with no makeup on. I led with a really good photo of me, but picked other photos that show other sides of me. I had no problem getting matches.

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Unless you have a picture of the top of your head, I don't know how you could show that kind of balding. And this is just my opinion, but I think you shouldn't have to do that. If a front facing clear shot of you is current, then that should be fine.

 

Then again, if I have talked with a man and feel enough of a connection to met him, some thinning hair in the middle of his head isn't going to cancel all that out.

 

HOWEVER, I learned the hard way to never meet anyone whose picture is of them wearing a baseball cap with a closed mouth grin, and I'll just leave it at that. :D

 

 

Well if all of his pics he was wearing a hat you should have known something was up LOL

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Well if all of his pics he was wearing a hat you should have known something was up LOL

 

I was so green. I got there (he wanted to meet at Waffle House so that should have been my first clue....). He had no hair except a thin bit in the back which was tied in a long ponytail, NO front top teeth, and gray lower teeth.

 

In a hat with no teeth he looked cute.

 

Fastest glass of water EVER.....I felt like I was in some deleted scene from Deliverance

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See I am not sure it's the teeth because I had the same teeth in 1998 when I attracted several pretty women. But I do know it's one of them because it;s the two things that is not revealed in my pics

 

I think dental expectations have changed a lot since then. For one thing, the expectation of WHITE teeth. In the 90s, you could still see actors with yellowed teeth, and they are PAID to look good. You don't really see that now. I know I'd be far more put off by bad teeth than bad hair (and I'm a hair girl!). I'd probably be willing to overlook one, but not both.

 

If it's possible to fix your dental issues, I'd make it a priority, unless they are fairly minor. If it's just that they aren't straight, whatever. But if there's any visible decay at all - fix it! If they are yellow or grey, pick up some white strips or get a cheap mold made at the dentist.

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Well if all of his pics he was wearing a hat you should have known something was up LOL

 

 

Yeah... watch out for us! :lmao:

 

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Yeah... watch out for us! :lmao:

 

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Understand that I say this as someone probably old enough to be your mother and NOT a come on:

 

Based on that picture, I wouldn't care one whit about the hat.

 

I do have a very cute daughter btw lol

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mrs rubble Established Member

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Why don't you shave your head completely? Lots of women like a totally bald guy.

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smg15 Established Member

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Why don't you shave your head completely? Lots of women like a totally bald guy.

 

No, the human light bulb look is not appealing to me

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Why don't you shave your head completely? Lots of women like a totally bald guy.

 

Yes! I didn't realize until last year that I like that look. I had a boyfriend who was mostly bald, and I liked when he just shaved it. Since then, the only two guys I've gone on dates that led to second dates both had shaved heads.

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Yes! I didn't realize until last year that I like that look. I had a boyfriend who was mostly bald, and I liked when he just shaved it. Since then, the only two guys I've gone on dates that led to second dates both had shaved heads.

 

But he has to like it not about what you want

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I was so green. I got there (he wanted to meet at Waffle House so that should have been my first clue....). He had no hair except a thin bit in the back which was tied in a long ponytail, NO front top teeth, and gray lower teeth.

 

In a hat with no teeth he looked cute.

 

Fastest glass of water EVER.....I felt like I was in some deleted scene from Deliverance

 

Sorry you had such a bad experience, but the description above had me in tears ...... that is some vivid imagery there, autumnnight ...... at least you left the Waffle House fully hydrated :lmao:

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