ExpatInItaly Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Wow, I don't know why everyone is jumping down my throat when I just said that we didn't meet up and I followed everyone's advice. I don't want to meet nor am I going to. I think you people just like to insult people for the sake of insulting! Because I just gave an update to tell everyone that I appreciated everyone's advice, and that I didn't meet him. So, I don't know why you all are going off on me lol? Saying I am looking for attention and what not...geez!!! If I was looking for attention, I would have met up with him regardless of the situation, and I wouldn't be so strong in my decision. I am strong in my decision, and I really don't care to meet him now. At first I was back and forth, but I am not anymore, so I do have standards, and I don't need attention. I don't know how many more times I have to explain myself, and say that I like to post on here for anonymous reasons. I don't like to talk to my friends about these people I talk about because it will get back to them. I like to hear other peoples perspectives and views. I don't like to hear my friends only, I like to expand, and see what the world thinks. Is that such a crime? I thought that was the purpose of this forum? All I get is horrible judgement when in reality I don't know any of you, and none of you know me, so the rude comments about me can be left out. I am not clinging onto this guy, I ditched him, so why is everyone bashing me still? What is wrong here? LOL. Because in this case, if this person truly is HIV+, you could actually be putting yourself in harm's way and you don't appear to understand the gravity of that. This is no "lol, haha!" matter, Ashley. It is ridiculous. You posted here for advice, and you got it. Don't play the victim. 2
neowulf Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Because in this case, if this person truly is HIV+, you could actually be putting yourself in harm's way and you don't appear to understand the gravity of that. This is no "lol, haha!" matter, Ashley. It is ridiculous. You posted here for advice, and you got it. Don't play the victim. +1 Asking advice doesn't always mean you'll enjoy hearing it Ashley. True, in the end, all you can get from this forum is the life experiences of a bunch of strangers. We don't know you in person, but many of us have lived lives, have friends, sisters, ex lovers who shared much in common with yourself and the situations you find yourself in. I know a lot of it can seem harsh. Hell, a lot of it is. But these people, these random strangers, take the time to reach out to you and try to help. No one can make you take the advice on offer. But I honestly believe it is given with the best intentions. 1
Diezel Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Wow, I don't know why everyone is jumping down my throat when I just said that we didn't meet up and I followed everyone's advice. I don't want to meet nor am I going to. Seriously? The only reason you two didn't meet up is not because you are a strong, independent woman with a grounded head over your shoulders. You two didn't meet up because HE didn't reach out to you. YOUR WORDS. Lol, luckily he didn't message me to hangout or anything! He didn't contact me what so ever, it kinda sucks because he's really nice looking, but he's a player, and possibly has Aids. When you say "it kinda sucks", it implies you are DISAPPOINTED you two didn't meet, so to say that you are "strong in your decision", well it's quite laughable. 1
shvrk Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 People won't always tell you what you want to hear, I like loveshack because of how brutal some people can be, it's like... You write how you feel and someone won't hesitate to tell you about yourself... Hahaha... That's when you have to make the changes. 2
Author Ashley S Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Because in this case, if this person truly is HIV+, you could actually be putting yourself in harm's way and you don't appear to understand the gravity of that. This is no "lol, haha!" matter, Ashley. It is ridiculous. You posted here for advice, and you got it. Don't play the victim. I understand what you mean. I was unsure though if the two guys that said he has HIV were telling the truth or not. It was hard to gauge the truth of that, so I think that is why I didn't look at it as a severity because I didn't know if it was true or not, but most likely he has something. Even if it is hepatitis, I know he has something. Because a lot of other people said he's "diseased", But they wouldn't really tell me what he was "diseased" with. I am not playing victim, I am just saying the comments can be left out, but it's ok. I appreciate your advice because for some reason your advice is the one that sinked in, and helped me realize. So, I do appreciate your advice a lot. Thanks.
Author Ashley S Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Seriously? The only reason you two didn't meet up is not because you are a strong, independent woman with a grounded head over your shoulders. You two didn't meet up because HE didn't reach out to you. YOUR WORDS. When you say "it kinda sucks", it implies you are DISAPPOINTED you two didn't meet, so to say that you are "strong in your decision", well it's quite laughable. That's true, but I really don't care to meet him. If I was desperate for attention, I would be reaching out to him even him not getting back to me, so I do feel I am strong in my decision. I am not sitting here pondering, and upset, yeah it kinda sucked at the moment, but I am so over it. I think everyone has that feeling when they are rejected and what not, for a little bit, I am not saying you have that rejected feeling for days or weeks, or months, but I do feel that everyone does at least feel like "Oh, that kinda sucks." A little bit of disappointment is normal I feel. I am not disappointed anymore though it was literally in the moment I felt disappointed.
Author Ashley S Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 +1 Asking advice doesn't always mean you'll enjoy hearing it Ashley. True, in the end, all you can get from this forum is the life experiences of a bunch of strangers. We don't know you in person, but many of us have lived lives, have friends, sisters, ex lovers who shared much in common with yourself and the situations you find yourself in. I know a lot of it can seem harsh. Hell, a lot of it is. But these people, these random strangers, take the time to reach out to you and try to help. No one can make you take the advice on offer. But I honestly believe it is given with the best intentions. No, I understand. I appreciate everyone taking the time out to comment and help me ou on my stupid situations lol, but I just feel that the insults can be left out. I understand who I am, I don't need to be insulted. I do like going on this forum, and I like everyones responses because I can tell there are intelligent people on here, and they are very insightful, something my friends can't provide (haha) Sorry, it's the truth. Thank you! 1
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 WTF?!!!!! Who are these people you associate with. OMFG. That was my reaction. Ashley if I were your mother I would be grounding you, removing your phone and computer unless you are sitting in front of me while you use them, on the basis that you need to hang out with a better crowd and learn not to add random blokes on facebook... I don't give a damn how old you are or how grown up you think you are. Seriously - its time to start behaving like a responsible adult and look after yourself... This is about the daftest thing I have ever heard and if you carry on you are going to get yourself into serious trouble. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 That was my reaction. Ashley if I were your mother I would be grounding you, removing your phone and computer unless you are sitting in front of me while you use them, on the basis that you need to hang out with a better crowd and learn not to add random blokes on facebook... I don't give a damn how old you are or how grown up you think you are. Seriously - its time to start behaving like a responsible adult and look after yourself... This is about the daftest thing I have ever heard and if you carry on you are going to get yourself into serious trouble. Hahahaha oh this put funny pictures into my head Lol. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Hahahaha oh this put funny pictures into my head Lol. Yeah... I know My foster/ step children didn't get away with anything when I was around!!! But they were safe, learnt how to keep themselves safe and have grown up to be the most amazing people... I am just as bad now... they may be parents/ business owners/ etc but I would still ground them and give them a lecture about respecting themselves and others and have they got condoms if they are going to have sex and... 2
Diezel Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Ashley if I were your mother I would be grounding you, removing your phone and computer unless you are sitting in front of me while you use them, on the basis that you need to hang out with a better crowd and learn not to add random blokes on facebook... I don't give a damn how old you are or how grown up you think you are. Seriously - its time to start behaving like a responsible adult and look after yourself... This is about the daftest thing I have ever heard and if you carry on you are going to get yourself into serious trouble. If you have read some of her threads, you'd quickly realize that the parents and brother are just as dysfunctional. Apparently, all of her friends are too. Guess that's just the way it is in Ashley Land. I'm not even making fun either, that's just the picture she's painted from previous threads. 2
Author Ashley S Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 If you have read some of her threads, you'd quickly realize that the parents and brother are just as dysfunctional. Apparently, all of her friends are too. Guess that's just the way it is in Ashley Land. I'm not even making fun either, that's just the picture she's painted from previous threads. Yes, unfortunately I do have a dysfunctional family, and it is not the picture I am painting. I am sick of you insinuating that I am making all of this up. There would be no purpose of me doing that. Trust me, If I was making this up, I would make it a little more interesting. It seems kinda boring doesn't it? Yeah, because it's real. I am real, and honestly your snotty comments is unnecessary. I am not one that is vocal about my life, but I feel like I can be on here. It's somewhat of an outlet for me because I am embarrassed of my life, and family, and friends. Even on here I get judged, and now I am accused of "making stuff up in Ashley land" WTF? If you don't like what I say, what I post, or anything about me, then you don't have to comment or chime in, simply scroll past my postings if they are so "made up" to you, and unrealistic. If I am so bothersome to you, then just move pass it, that's all you have to do.
Diezel Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 If I am so bothersome to you, then just move pass it, that's all you have to do. You are right, I am better than this. Must be because after thread after thread after thread of me sounding like a broken record, frustration settled in. I'll just take the high road from now on, say nothing and give advice to other posters on LS willing to listen.
Redhead14 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Wow, I don't know why everyone is jumping down my throat when I just said that we didn't meet up and I followed everyone's advice. I don't want to meet nor am I going to. I think you people just like to insult people for the sake of insulting! Because I just gave an update to tell everyone that I appreciated everyone's advice, and that I didn't meet him. So, I don't know why you all are going off on me lol? Saying I am looking for attention and what not...geez!!! If I was looking for attention, I would have met up with him regardless of the situation, and I wouldn't be so strong in my decision. I am strong in my decision, and I really don't care to meet him now. At first I was back and forth, but I am not anymore, so I do have standards, and I don't need attention. I don't know how many more times I have to explain myself, and say that I like to post on here for anonymous reasons. I don't like to talk to my friends about these people I talk about because it will get back to them. I like to hear other peoples perspectives and views. I don't like to hear my friends only, I like to expand, and see what the world thinks. Is that such a crime? I thought that was the purpose of this forum? All I get is horrible judgement when in reality I don't know any of you, and none of you know me, so the rude comments about me can be left out. I am not clinging onto this guy, I ditched him, so why is everyone bashing me still? What is wrong here? LOL. Ashley, I think it's really just about "tough love" not really trying to bash you or insult you. And, if some of these comments make you angry, maybe that's a good thing in a way. Anger if managed properly sometimes is a source of strength. You've gotten tough here and you've made a good decision We want you to make good choices and try to hammer the message in. That's all. 3
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I understand what you mean. I was unsure though if the two guys that said he has HIV were telling the truth or not. It was hard to gauge the truth of that, so I think that is why I didn't look at it as a severity because I didn't know if it was true or not, but most likely he has something. Even if it is hepatitis, I know he has something. Because a lot of other people said he's "diseased", But they wouldn't really tell me what he was "diseased" with. As I've surmised, this is ridiculous and infuriates me to no end, You don't even know the guy, but you pass judgement based on ....who again? No one knows the truth about it at all,yet they all perpetuate a possible lie? Doesn't that make you wonder what the real deal is and why? I've been accused before of a horrible rumor like that to say the least, It's a deformation of character and a tactless maneuver from the weak, The carnage that's caused from the continuation of such a damaging lie, I'm speechless with the audacity of some posters and their pretentious guise.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Hi! So it's about Anthony. The guy that I don't know, and vacations in Florida, but actually lives here. Well, I commented on his pic, and he private messaged me on FB, and this is the conversation. Him: When are we hanging out? Me: Yeah, lol. When and where? Him: Beermuda, then my place lol. (Beermuda is a bar) Me: Lol, Lincoln might be there Well, if it happens today... and if Lincoln is there... I suggest you not sit too near to Lincoln...
Toodaloo Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Yes, unfortunately I do have a dysfunctional family, and it is not the picture I am painting. I am sick of you insinuating that I am making all of this up. There would be no purpose of me doing that. Trust me, If I was making this up, I would make it a little more interesting. It seems kinda boring doesn't it? Yeah, because it's real. I am real, and honestly your snotty comments is unnecessary. I am not one that is vocal about my life, but I feel like I can be on here. It's somewhat of an outlet for me because I am embarrassed of my life, and family, and friends. Even on here I get judged, and now I am accused of "making stuff up in Ashley land" WTF? If you don't like what I say, what I post, or anything about me, then you don't have to comment or chime in, simply scroll past my postings if they are so "made up" to you, and unrealistic. If I am so bothersome to you, then just move pass it, that's all you have to do. Ashley. Sadly I have worked with many kids and young adults from dysfunctional families and back grounds. Very often they do not want to hear what I have to say but they feel happier when they start to abide by those rules and live by them. The only way to get through is "tough love". I have sat hugging kids who are kicking, screaming and hitting... When it comes down to it they just want simplicity. You need to make your life simple. Facebook rules 1. Delete any people that you do know personally know 2. Delete any people that you would not have in your house for a cup on tea 3. Delete any people who are involved in any form of drugs, alcohol, abuse or who just make you feel uncomfortable 4. Reset you security to "Friends Only" 5. Quit adding random strangers or people just because you feel sorry for them. Friends Rules 1. Slowly cut out anyone in your life who causes you distress 2. Cut out anyone who is involved in anything remotely shadey 3. If its drama walk away 4. Learn how to recognize and get away from situations that could be dangerous or upsetting. 5. Gravitate towards people who want a better life 6. Only seek advice and help from people you can trust completely - note this may only be 1 or 2 people but that is ok... 7. Concentrate on learning either academically or new skills 8. Get involved with healthy activities such as sports, the arts. Use those activities to make new friends 9. Remember that "cool" does not equate to "rich" or the flash car. The most worthy people are often the ones who don't value those things... 10. Relax, breathe and enjoy each day. If you have a bad one move on. Set your boundaries and stick to them and quit being a Florence. Your not a trained nurse so give it up. Good luck. Your going to need it...
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