lisa007 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I took a short trip with my boyfriend to go back to his hometown, first time since we started dating 7 months ago. He took me to meet his best fiends from high school, two of them are women. However, I was quite disappointed that he did not pay much attention to me the whole time, just chatting with his friends abt their high school. Even worse, when we were heading to a snack place, he did not walk with me, just followed closely with his female classmate, and left me behind. Later they still kept talking an old times, no intention to engage me whatsoever, and I started to play with my phone. When one of his friends were ready to leave, I told him I wanted to go as well. On the way back to the hotel, I did not talk much to him, it was obvious that I was upset. But he did not talk abt it either. Today, I thought I should let him know that I was upset the other day. He's the type of person that if I don't talk abt it, he will just let it pass. After the talk I was even more upset, he knew I was upset. But he thought he lost face as well cuz I wanted to leave early. I know I shouldn't have pouted in front of his friends but I was really upset. This is a major problem between us, communication. Seven months on and I still don't know if he loves me. What should I do?
spiderowl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I think you were in a very difficult situation. You were totally on his territory with his friends. Of course he wanted to catch up with them and spend time talking about old things, it's totally natural. Of course they were wrapped up in catching up and probably neglecting you, as always happens to a partner in such circumstances. It's one of those situations which you are unlikely to enjoy unless someone pays you the attention you will lose from your boyfriend. It's common at 'works parties' that kind of thing. The partner who has come from outside feels left out. Having said that, it seems the situation has brought a deeper worry to the surface, that of the lack of communication and the fact that your boyfriend hasn't reassured you he loves you. If he's the uncommunicative type, I can understand this is painful. You could try to ask him how he feels, but he may go dumb on you. It should come from him really, at least some indication that you are the most special woman in his life at the moment. If he remains uncommunicative about this, you might want to reconsider your relationship.
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