Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 ^^^^many women will give sympathy dates, or go on more dates with a man they approve of to "see" if they develop attraction. There is a huge chasm between approval and attraction. I'm just sayin'.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 ^^^^many women will give sympathy dates, or go on more dates with a man they approve of to "see" if they develop attraction. There is a huge chasm between approval and attraction. I'm just sayin'. Yeah. I really don't want to end up on a sympathy date, haha. I'm trying to avoid that.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Yeah. I really don't want to end up on a sympathy date, haha. I'm trying to avoid that. How about this....have some confidence and be positive. If nothing changes don't ask for a 4th date simple as that. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 - The man usually goes for the first kiss, he has to make her his in this respect. How she responds to that kiss speaks volumes! If Toodaloo's man would have stuck his tongue down her throat, he'd never get it back! Toodaloo - maybe he will man-up on the next date! Oh I hope so... There are a whole host of things that would make him hesitant though... I think its time for me to grow a pair (of boobs instead of balls) and just be a bit blunt about it. He has been told that I want to see him again and that I look forward to seeing him again. He has been told that I want him to ask me out again. So its up to him now to get the time and date set. That said I am edging on caution and am chatting to another guy. Who is as blunt as a bull in a china shop too! He is also very good looking. But as a preference I would like to see more of the shy guy than start seeing the other one... We shall see. Life takes lots of turns and twists.
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Yeah. I really don't want to end up on a sympathy date, haha. I'm trying to avoid that. Well its one more date. And on that date you can chat to her about it and find out how she is feeling and go from there. No point second guessing things. I was talking to my best mate last night about all this as I am confused as heck about this guy. Apparently her now husband didn't even get a hug until date 3... Kisses also came later...
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Well its one more date. And on that date you can chat to her about it and find out how she is feeling and go from there. No point second guessing things. I was talking to my best mate last night about all this as I am confused as heck about this guy. Apparently her now husband didn't even get a hug until date 3... Kisses also came later... What was her reason for not wanting to kiss him until later? I will talk to her about it if we end up on another date. I asked her out again, but she hasn't responded yet.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 What was her reason for not wanting to kiss him until later? I will talk to her about it if we end up on another date. I asked her out again, but she hasn't responded yet. Soon it will be telling won't it? 1
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 What was her reason for not wanting to kiss him until later? I will talk to her about it if we end up on another date. I asked her out again, but she hasn't responded yet. When it comes to love and sex my best mate is just about the shyest person ever. Complete polar opposite to me. She really fancied him but didn't have very much courage. He is very gentlemanly and wouldn't have pushed the issue. Mind you we are polar opposites in sooo many ways! Good luck. I shall keep fingers crossed for you. If I have not heard from my guy by Wednesday I think I will organise to meet the other chap next weekend.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 When it comes to love and sex my best mate is just about the shyest person ever. Complete polar opposite to me. She really fancied him but didn't have very much courage. He is very gentlemanly and wouldn't have pushed the issue. Mind you we are polar opposites in sooo many ways! Good luck. I shall keep fingers crossed for you. If I have not heard from my guy by Wednesday I think I will organise to meet the other chap next weekend. Ah. It is tough being shy. I consider myself a shy person, but I do put myself out there when I like someone, and make a move. Life is so short, I just don't want to let shyness hold me back. And I will have my fingers crossed for you, too
darkmoon Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 - there can be any number of other deal breakers, sure. - Very rare to have viable standards for not kissing on a date when you really like somebody, unless they are from a culture or religion which does not kiss before marriage. If they are that structured as to not want to kiss, they will probably be hell to live with. I'm saying there is a super high chance she does not have any worthwhile interest. A kiss is not sex. There is a song, "It's in his kiss" (Her kiss too!). Believe it. you want her to lead you on, to get taken for promiscuous?
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Ah. It is tough being shy. I consider myself a shy person, but I do put myself out there when I like someone, and make a move. Life is so short, I just don't want to let shyness hold me back. And I will have my fingers crossed for you, too Well let me know how it goes!
fred123 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 With regards to OPs situation how does a guy like OP know wheter a girl is interested or not or if she is just lukewarm or playing with him or even just sees him as a friend? And some people on here say that some girls maybe take things slow etc which is true but how does OP differentiate between ones who do and ones who are lying and just not interested?
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 With regards to OPs situation how does a guy like OP know wheter a girl is interested or not or if she is just lukewarm or playing with him or even just sees him as a friend? And some people on here say that some girls maybe take things slow etc which is true but how does OP differentiate between ones who do and ones who are lying and just not interested? Body language. A woman who touches you & looks deeply into your eyes, & especially if she does both, touches you & looks deeply into her eyes, especially if she briefly looks at your lips & licks hers, wants you to kiss her. 1
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Body language. A woman who touches you & looks deeply into your eyes, & especially if she does both, touches you & looks deeply into her eyes, especially if she briefly looks at your lips & licks hers, wants you to kiss her. I guess that was another reason I got confused. During the date, she seemed to give me 'the look' with her eyes that you're talking about, but at the end of the date, gave me a peck and walked away.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 I've never been so happy to be dumped!! I was totally right. She isn't into me! And I sat here all weekend thinking I was being too negative... She just texted me and said she's not feeling that connection. I'm putting this experience in my dating folder. A peck after a second date is a bad, bad sign. LOL 3
smackie9 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 That's too bad when the dates went great. Oh well at least she was honest and you can move on. Best of luck meeting someone new.
Author okc85 Posted April 13, 2015 Author Posted April 13, 2015 That's too bad when the dates went great. Oh well at least she was honest and you can move on. Best of luck meeting someone new. Thanks. I'll keep trying 2
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I'm putting this experience in my dating folder. A peck after a second date is a bad, bad sign. LOL Oh dear doesn't bode well for me!!! Perhaps I should just give up now... Better luck with the next one OKC!
Author okc85 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Oh dear doesn't bode well for me!!! Perhaps I should just give up now... Better luck with the next one OKC! Thanks. Life goes on, right? Did everyone turn out okay with you and your guy?
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Thanks. Life goes on, right? Did everyone turn out okay with you and your guy? Haven't heard from him since Saturday so who knows!!! I may be joining you on the bench soon so get the kettle on for a cup of tea!!!
Author okc85 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Haven't heard from him since Saturday so who knows!!! I may be joining you on the bench soon so get the kettle on for a cup of tea!!! Lol. Eh, life goes on for both of us. :Grabs the tea kettle: haha
Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It does indeed. It will be a shame if he does become one of those that just flits away but its no great drama if he does... Ho hum. Fish in the sea and all that... Perhaps dating is where the term "worse things happen at sea" comes from...
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