okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 If you go on a second date with someone, and go in for a kiss, and they give you a peck on the lips and then walk away to their car, would you think this person is interested in your romantically?
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Always grade the kiss. That kiss might be only a 1 on the Richter scale. 1
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 It just felt really odd and confusing. It was just a peck on the lips. I'm not sure how to feel about it.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Still not out of the ball park yet. If she accepts a third date there is potential, but will be taking her time getting to know you. No sparks are flying yet.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Still not out of the ball park yet. If she accepts a third date there is potential, but will be taking her time getting to know you. No sparks are flying yet. Yeah, I think you're right.
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 The other person may be some one who takes the physical slowly, or at least more slowly then you do. I would wonder if they liked me & proceed cautiously.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 The other person may be some one who takes the physical slowly, or at least more slowly then you do. I would wonder if they liked me & proceed cautiously. Yes, I did find it odd to just 'peck' after a great second date. But I try to be realistic- maybe she had a great time with me, but just sees me as a friend.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Wait....... is this a second date? yea, second
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Sorry, I was thinking it was a first date. I hate to say this, but it's not looking too good based on that kiss. A peck is fine for date one, but by date two or three, I want to see a buckle your knees kiss.
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Sorry, I was thinking it was a first date. I hate to say this, but it's not looking too good based on that kiss. A peck is fine for date one, but by date two or three, I want to see a buckle your knees kiss. Yeah, that's why I felt so confused. I thought the date was really great, so that peck took me by surprise..not in a good way. haha
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Some people decide to take their time getting physical because of past experiences or like to have it build up to a good kiss, like cuddling, holding hands etc. If there is a third date do more physical touching, teasing, flirting, showing your desire romantically. Do the dance.....
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I hear you smackie, but if they have hangups from demons in their past, it means they have issues. Yes, they may be only temporary issues, but that's enough to stop a relationship from happening. They have to be ready for love. Love is kinda fragile, you get one chance per person in most instances.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I hear you smackie, but if they have hangups from demons in their past, it means they have issues. Yes, they may be only temporary issues, but that's enough to stop a relationship from happening. They have to be ready for love. Love is kinda fragile, you get one chance per person in most instances. It may not be just hangups but how they set their standards/ values. But on the other hand those who jump right in can be turn out to have a codependency toxic personality. That would be a relationship killer don't ya know.
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Yes, I did find it odd to just 'peck' after a great second date. But I try to be realistic- maybe she had a great time with me, but just sees me as a friend. This is all I got from a guy on my second date. I actually really like him and given half a hint would rip his clothes off... but am nervous to push for more just in case... Take your time its the only way you can find out for sure...
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 This is all I got from a guy on my second date. I actually really like him and given half a hint would rip his clothes off... but am nervous to push for more just in case... Take your time its the only way you can find out for sure... Do you have a third date planned? I figure I will see if she wants to go out again, but I should keep dating others. It is possible she's on the fence about me.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 This is all I got from a guy on my second date. I actually really like him and given half a hint would rip his clothes off... but am nervous to push for more just in case... Take your time its the only way you can find out for sure... Yes many would hesitate to avoid being used or don't want it to lead to that impression that they are easy. Some want to be sure there are honorable intentions for something serious from the guy.
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Do you have a third date planned? I figure I will see if she wants to go out again, but I should keep dating others. It is possible she's on the fence about me. Usually by the third date if things warm up, there is an expectation that you won't be dating others. Just saying. You two have only gone out twice, you can't possibly have enough trust in someone by then. If this date goes really well, why wouldn't you want to invest in her? If you want to date others, stop dating her and tell her why.
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 (edited) But on the other hand those who jump right in can be turn out to have a codependency toxic personality. That would be a relationship killer don't ya know. - there can be any number of other deal breakers, sure. It may not be just hangups but how they set their standards/ values. - Very rare to have viable standards for not kissing on a date when you really like somebody, unless they are from a culture or religion which does not kiss before marriage. If they are that structured as to not want to kiss, they will probably be hell to live with. I'm saying there is a super high chance she does not have any worthwhile interest. A kiss is not sex. There is a song, "It's in his kiss" (Her kiss too!). Believe it. Edited April 12, 2015 by Gary S
Author okc85 Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 - there can be any number of other deal breakers, sure. - Very rare to have viable standards for not kissing on a date when you really like somebody, unless they are from a culture or religion which does not kiss before marriage. If they are that structured as to not want to kiss, they will probably be hell to live with. I'm saying there is a super high chance she does not have any worthwhile interest. A kiss is not sex. There is a song, "It's in his kiss" (Her kiss too!). Believe it. That's how I feel, regarding kissing. I think a kiss tells so much. And after our date, she seemed to have little desire to really kiss me. That's why I think the interest level on her part might be low, or just not as high as mine. And Smackie9, I would definitely invest in her after 3 dates. I would prefer to, but it just seems really silly to emotionally invest after 3 dates with someone who seems to be 'on the fence' about me, you know? I would have to talk to her afterwards about it. I'm really not a fan of multi-dating.
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 okc85, your intuition/gut feelings are correct. Never underestimate the power of intuition when dealing with dating and relationships, you are your own best relationship expert. Your head and your heart are liers. 1
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Originally Posted by Toodaloo View Post This is all I got from a guy on my second date. I actually really like him and given half a hint would rip his clothes off... but am nervous to push for more just in case... Take your time its the only way you can find out for sure... Do you have a third date planned? I figure I will see if she wants to go out again, but I should keep dating others. It is possible she's on the fence about me. Do you have a third date planned? I figure I will see if she wants to go out again, but I should keep dating others. It is possible she's on the fence about me. - The man usually goes for the first kiss, he has to make her his in this respect. How she responds to that kiss speaks volumes! If Toodaloo's man would have stuck his tongue down her throat, he'd never get it back! Toodaloo - maybe he will man-up on the next date!
fitnessfan365 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 A peck on the lips might imply that he lacks confidence but is trying to man up and at least do something. If you like the guy, try giving it one more date and make your interest a bit more obvious. Flirt, be touchy/feely, etc.. Then see if he comes out of his shell even more. But if he still only wants to "peck and run" after that, trade him in for a guy with some balls. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Do you have a third date planned? I figure I will see if she wants to go out again, but I should keep dating others. It is possible she's on the fence about me. I have put the ball in his court but he has indicated that he does want to see me again. There has not been a time/ day set as yet. I am in the process of talking to another man and perhaps going on a first date with him. I think I am going to bring my worries up with shy guy and ask him if we get to date 3. I dont really want to go spending time with other men if he is really interested but equally I dont want to waste time if he is not...
smackie9 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 That's how I feel, regarding kissing. I think a kiss tells so much. And after our date, she seemed to have little desire to really kiss me. That's why I think the interest level on her part might be low, or just not as high as mine. And Smackie9, I would definitely invest in her after 3 dates. I would prefer to, but it just seems really silly to emotionally invest after 3 dates with someone who seems to be 'on the fence' about me, you know? I would have to talk to her afterwards about it. I'm really not a fan of multi-dating. Communication is key. Don't be afraid to express yourself if you find her desirable...damn it hold her hand, put your arm around her, etc make her feel comfortable around you. If she goes on another date with you....I wouldn't call that being on the fence.
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