Psychologist dilemma&emotional triggers

[mefisto]

I met psychologist who offered free sessions of jungean analysis. Its not really therapy, but it might have therapeutic effect. I went to her once and we had this conversation. I told her that im tired of discussing my emotional trauma, its pointless and exhausting. I asked maybe it would heal faster if i would stop talking about it? She told me that its similar to physical injury - you can ignore it and pretend its doesnt exist or you can treat it. So she implied that i should talk about it more. If she would have demanded payment for her sessions, i would think that shes manipulating me into having sessions with her. But she doesnt have the reasons since its free. So, what do you think? Should i continue to talking about my hurt every week with this psychologist or should i pretend it doesnt exist and distract myself?

The other thing i want to discuss - emotional triggers. Sometimes i feel like life is mocking me. I dont believe in anything supernatural, but sometimes it feels like some great dark force have intention to humiliate and destroy me mentally. I wont talk about details, but i keep bumping into countless triggers and reminders of my ex-gf and ex-friend everywhere. In places that have no connection with them. With people who never knew them. Its like a curse. How to stop feeling so vulnerable?

Edited April 12, 2015 by mefisto

[Itspointless]

I met psychologist who offered free sessions of jungean analysis. Its not really therapy, but it might have therapeutic effect. I went to her once and we had this conversation. I told her that im tired of discussing my emotional trauma, its pointless and exhausting. I asked maybe it would heal faster if i would stop talking about it? She told me that its similar to physical injury - you can ignore it and pretend its doesnt exist or you can treat it. So she implied that i should talk about it more. If she would have demanded payment for her sessions, i would think that shes manipulating me into having sessions with her. But she doesnt have the reasons since its free. So, what do you think? Should i continue to talking about my hurt every week with this psychologist or should i pretend it doesnt exist and distract myself?

The other thing i want to discuss - emotional triggers. Sometimes i feel like life is mocking me. I dont believe in anything supernatural, but sometimes it feels like some great dark force have intention to humiliate and destroy me mentally. I wont talk about details, but i keep bumping into countless triggers and reminders of my ex-gf and ex-friend everywhere. In places that have no connection with them. With people who never knew them. Its like a curse. How to stop feeling so vulnerable?

Psychological pain doesn't go away by ignoring it. It takes a lot of effort getting to know yourself and why you react to things like you do. It is your choice if you want to work to healing and growth or not. Emotional pain isn't a switch you just can push and wow its a miracle it's gone. Life doesn't listen to short-term technical solutions, you have to invest time and a lot of energy if you want to work on yourself.

 

Second, life isn't mocking you, it is unfortunately how our brain work.

 

Keep going on, therapy will be worth it, but it takes time, sometimes a lot of time.

[mefisto]

Psychological pain doesn't go away by ignoring it. It takes a lot of effort getting to know yourself and why you react to things like you do. It is your choice if you want to work to healing and growth or not. Emotional pain isn't a switch you just can push and wow its a miracle it's gone. Life doesn't listen to short-term technical solutions, you have to invest time and a lot of energy if you want to work on yourself.

 

Second, life isn't mocking you, it is unfortunately how our brain work.

 

Keep going on, therapy will be worth it, but it takes time, sometimes a lot of time.

I get your point, but its debatable. It seems like the more i talk about it the more i get attached to the whole thing. So how exactly talking about my feelings, over and over again, might help? I had therapy sessions with two guys before and i felt worse every time i went to them. Also, keep in mind that its not therapy, its jungian analysis. It means i just talk and she just writes down everything i said with intention to analyze it some time later. In case you would advice me to go the classic therapist - i tried already and was dissatisfied with results and i cant afford another one right now and in near future. So its like my only chance to do something that might (might not) have therapeutic effect.

 

About triggers - i agree, but only to extent. It really looks like i got my face rubbed in my past very often by some strange force. I would explain this better, but its so embarrassing to tell. This thing is so surreal.

Edited April 12, 2015 by mefisto

[Itspointless]

I get your point, but its debatable. It seems like the more i talk about it the more i get attached to the whole thing. So how exactly talking about my feelings, over and over again, might help? I had therapy sessions with two guys before and i felt worse every time i went to them. Also, keep in mind that its not therapy, its jungian analysis. It means i just talk and she just writes down everything i said with intention to analyze it some time later. In case you would advice me to go the classic therapist - i tried already and was dissatisfied with results and i cant afford another one right now and in near future. So its like my only chance to do something that might (might not) have therapeutic effect.

 

About triggers - i agree, but only to extent. It really looks like i got my face rubbed in my past very often by some strange force. I would explain this better, but its so embarrassing to tell. This thing is so surreal.

If I am not mistaken Jungian Therapy tries to integrate or make concious what is unconscious now. This also means that you need to have some patience. Therapy is not some trick that makes you feel better in a couple of sessions. It is about learning about yourself and learning about yourself often is a rough path, as you encounter things that you often do not want to hear. I didn't anyway.

 

If this does not work you might try schema therapy somewhere in the future.

[spiderowl]

Interestingly, Jung talked about how the unconscious influences us whether we know it or not. He has actually described how if something is bothering us, it will keep cropping up in many formats in strange coincidences or in symbolic form. It may help you to look at what is affecting you now, so that the feelings you are getting of the universe conspiring against you could be explored. You might find it makes more sense.

 

I can see how going over endless sadnesses doesn't feel inspiring, especially when there are no useful linkages made. Jungian therapy might help. You can only find out by trying really and no-one can make any promises.