Debster Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Merin, I know you like this guy, but sweetie, this psycho games are not worth it. He is unbalanced and you deserve so much more. Trust me, there are good, sweet, loving, available men out there. I hope you find one.
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by Debster Merin, I know you like this guy, but sweetie, this psycho games are not worth it. He is unbalanced and you deserve so much more. Trust me, there are good, sweet, loving, available men out there. I hope you find one. Thanks Deb... I really do hate games.. LOL I'm just not good at them. We have had a lot of up's and down's and I know my expectations are often to low regarding my relationships.. I know I have a lot of issues to resolve there... It may be crazy and certainly a risk.. but I do want to try with him.. Thank you girl...
CurlyIam Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 There are people for whom it worths fighting for. That's what I think. The main issue is not to be taken for granted. If you keep saving his a$$, maybe he'll continue to do it. That's the big risk. And this is what you have to be aware of. Everybody desirves a second chance. Next time, keep in mind to let him swim towards you. And I suggest no more nice "Starbucks Columbian coffee" for Mr. Loverguy. In fact, I suggest no coffee at all. Won't it be nice to ask for breakfast in bed once in a while?
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam There are people for whom it worths fighting for. That's what I think. The main issue is not to be taken for granted. If you keep saving his a$$, maybe he'll continue to do it. That's the big risk. And this is what you have to be aware of. Everybody desirves a second chance. Next time, keep in mind to let him swim towards you. And I suggest no more nice "Starbucks Columbian coffee" for Mr. Loverguy. In fact, I suggest no coffee at all. Won't it be nice to ask for breakfast in bed once in a while? LOL I love you Girl! You are right that it cannot always be me saving "us" and I am aware of that... (Gdamn my issues!) I know there will be a next time too... and I will keep it in mind... he needs to be willing to give and fight for it too. Interestly enough.. he usually does get me Coffee' in bed on Sundays.. and although he doesn't cook, he does take me to dinner and what not his treat, without question... but yeah... I get what you're saying, and you're right.. while it's all good and okay to try and to please your SO it isn't okay if they aren't giving what they get.
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by Mz. Pixie Merin- We saw you kissing Tan ( ) Tan has agreed to Marry me in Vegas in like 10 years if or when nothing else has worked out for either one of us... Mad to my Homie Tan always... Damn the laws on same sex marriage Curly... LOL I Ya! You guys always make me look at things in a different way.. made me feel a hella lot better about being Merin with Issues and thats okay... LOL
tanbark813 Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Tan has agreed to Marry me in Vegas in like 10 years if or when nothing else has worked out for either one of us... Mad to my Homie Tan always... Just give me enough notice to pick up a tux.
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Just give me enough notice to pick up a tux. You got it;)
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter Get a room! (and a video camera)
whichwayisup Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Regardless of everything... I still believe we are worth fighting for... I know he loves me. And you love him. As long as you BOTH feel this way and are talking about it then that's great! I'm glad the EXW saw you. Seems like it was in his head and his issues on that all along...Maybe he thought she would be upset? Or jealous? I don't know!! But hey, I'm glad she thinks you're pretty!! YOU are ya know!! He sounds like a complicated guy, selfish yet sweet at the same time. Maybe he should not drink as much?? Skip out on those trips for a while until things really get settled and more secure. My blood boiled and I saw RED as I sat here reading your thread...But, eased up as he seems to have come around again. Hey, he could seek some councilling to get rid of his fears?? I mean he does have ALOT going on inside that head of his..lol
Author Merin Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup And you love him. As long as you BOTH feel this way and are talking about it then that's great! I'm glad the EXW saw you. Seems like it was in his head and his issues on that all along...Maybe he thought she would be upset? Or jealous? I don't know!! But hey, I'm glad she thinks you're pretty!! YOU are ya know!! He sounds like a complicated guy, selfish yet sweet at the same time. Maybe he should not drink as much?? Skip out on those trips for a while until things really get settled and more secure. My blood boiled and I saw RED as I sat here reading your thread...But, eased up as he seems to have come around again. Hey, he could seek some councilling to get rid of his fears?? Thank you Girl... he is a complicated, selfish yet sweetheart all in one... but yeah I do think the good in him and what we have outwieghs the bad so I don't want to give up... Most definately alcohol played a role here... top that with insecurity and jealousy... and ya know it's going to get ugly. Counseling... he isn't the kind of guy who would ever be down for that... I've become his therapist of sorts in somethings and I'm okay with that.... I really believe that this is going to just take baby steps and time... and I can do both as long as he is giving to me as well.
Mz. Pixie Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Yeah I was just saying that kinda being smart because your BF said you were kissing another guy so I was like, we saw you kissing Tan! Curly might break up with you now......... It feels good to laugh!!!!
CurlyIam Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Naaah, I find guys inofensive! I'm just waiting for Merin to see that!
shamen Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Merin, I can second (third, fourth, fifth) the notion of too much alcohol on a trip to Mexico. One of my exes, one of the ones that wanted to get married to me, and I went to Mexico for our first real vacation. Small town and all. God, we fought so much! I swear that two weeks later when we got back we broke up. I'm really glad that the two of you are talking now and that you got a chance to be in the same place with the ex-w. Sounds like you two will make it through this just fine, probably even closer because of the beauty/mess that was Mexico. Buena suerte! (Good luck!)
whichwayisup Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Thank you Girl... he is a complicated, selfish yet sweetheart all in one... but yeah I do think the good in him and what we have outwieghs the bad so I don't want to give up... Most definately alcohol played a role here... top that with insecurity and jealousy... and ya know it's going to get ugly. Counseling... he isn't the kind of guy who would ever be down for that... I've become his therapist of sorts in somethings and I'm okay with that.... I really believe that this is going to just take baby steps and time... and I can do both as long as he is giving to me as well. You're welcome! And yeah, baby steps, open and honesty..Like next time he feels a freakout - OVER REACTION coming he should give you some warning and not accuse ya of things he deep down knows you aren't doing! That way alteast you can calm him down and get him to see things are they are and not what he 'thinks' they are...
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