emi Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I have been with this guy and we have a stable relationship. Hes a good guy and we always able to tell each other what is on our mind. But lately, just something has happened, my relationship with my family is getting more frustrating as ever. I even considered suicide at some point but i cant tell him. He knows i have family issues, and he offered me money to move out, but thing is i dont want to take his money or go live with him, its still premature of our relationship. Even i want to get out so badly, i dont want to make the relationship evolves unnaturally because of this problem. And due to the fact i have not been able to talk with him about whats killing me lately, i become tired and cold, sometime im too stressed out and just want to pull the plug even i know hes not doing anything wron. And the reason i cant move out on my own is because im still studying, i have a part time job but it wont cover all the expenses... I may manage to cover all if i work fulltime but it means i need to quit my study. And the fact the relationship been stale over this has been bugging me .
GTR King Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 You need to chat to him and tell him what's on your mind. If you don't tell anything how can he help you out??
badpenny Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I also think it may be important to speak with your doctor, because (and I'm not diagnosing ANYTHING here, please be advised...) it's possible that this whol situation is making you depressed. Normally, I would hate to advise that to anyone, but fortunately, I have a very sympathetic doctor, and without any prompting, hinting or forewarning, he managed to assess my husband as suffering from depression, simply by talking to him for a while. he asked the 'right' questions, and the responses he received basically ticked the boxes. I don't know whether you have a doctor, or whether they would be as sympathetic and 'on the ball' as ours is. I can only hope so. but sometimes, a temporary chemical support, (and I emphasise the "temporary") can help us see the wood for the trees.... But I agree, unless you express your concerns, how can anyone actually help you? You need to follow your avatar, and be who you know you can be, not who you aspire to be, in some future point....
Author emi Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 if i tell him, he will : -Offer me money, which i dont want -Tell me to move with him, which is still too soon -Be frustrated with me What can i do?!!! You need to chat to him and tell him what's on your mind. If you don't tell anything how can he help you out??
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