bones1 Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Ok, long story short, i have been off and on with a woman for almost a year. She is 44 years old. I feel she has alot of respect issues. For example, last night she will call me "just to talk" at around midnight... Then we end up talking for hours, and if we hang up, she keeps calling back to talk more, and I basically lose sleep all night. I work for myself, and have a ton of work to do... But, at the same time, I dont like to ignore someone if they are missing me, thinking of me, wanting to talk to me, etc. So, i always answer the phone, and never let on that I am being annoyed, as I really am not, I enjoy her attention. So then this morning, I am working in her area, so, at around 10:30, I stop over to bring her some coffee. She works from home, usually starts at 11, and has been asking me to do this everyday this week, but I never had the time...as bringing coffeee usually leads to more..... So I figured she would be appreciative. But, when she comes to the door she has this look on her face like "what are you here for" She then proceeds to tell me she could have been sleeping for an extra 10 minutes, but I woke her up. She then says she doesnt want to fool around. She then asks if i would have kept ringing the doorbell if she did not answer the first time, because she finds that very annoying, and in the future wants to make sure I would not do that. We did fool around, but i was not even into it anymore, as she keeps going on and on about how she has to work soon, about how she didnt sleep enough, about how she has alot to do etc etc. Seemingly like it is all my fault and I ruined her day by stopping over to bring her coffee. I just hate going out of my way to do something nice, and then not only not be appreciated, but almost to be chastised for it. Then to top it off, after sex, she was saying I was a spiteful person... I asked why. She said because I knew she was going to be late for work, and I took an extra minute to finish! And she was being serious! So, after i left, i called and left her a few messages, and basically said that I am tired of the treatment. I dont see how she can always call me whenever she wants, keep me up all night, but then act as if I am a nuisance for going out of my way to bring her coffee, and then be yelled at as she could have slept for 10 more minutes. (My entire day was basically ruined due to lack of sleep) I said I really think she is bipolar, and we should see other people. I dont see how everyday she could want me to bring her coffee, but when I finally do, I am a nuisance. How she can see to it that I dont sleep all night, but then yell at me as she could have slept an extra 10 minutes, but I rang the doorbell and woke her up. Then instead of looking at the sex in a positive light, and realizing i really enjoy her, I am once again bad and spiteful for taking an extra minute??? Am I too sensitive? Or is she just rude and disrespectful, and need everything on her terms?
Craig Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 From what you've said it doesn't sound like she is going to be good for your emotional or mental health period. She isn't going to change. The rest is up to you. To answer your questions: She doesn't respect you and you aren't too sensitive. An observation: You need to start taking better care of #1.
curiousnycgirl Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Double ditto! Not sure why you've put up with it this long. Move on! From what you've written you deserve to be treated so much better and to be appreciated!
GirlDown Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 is it possible that she is bi-polar or has multiple personalities? she seems very erratic, from what you say.
fundamental Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 Actually, it's your fault. You did not put your foot down in certain situations--allowing her to talk to you as long as she wants to just because you enjoy the attention. What about your needs??? She is either bi-polar or is testing you. She probably isn't sure you really wanted to bring her a cup of coffee. It seems like you do it just to put up with her and her attention--sort of like you do on the phone. So, she is not sure you care enough. I am pretty sure she notices this as well. Put your foot down, she will respect you more.
guitarplayer Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 she's a "ALL ABOUT HER" kinda girl,I've met many girls like that.(((Major turn off for me))) not that I've asked any babes out in recent years,lol,but those kind of girls keep me a hermit and wonder if they go home and split wood in the barn.Dude I worked with one chick,she could change a starter in a car,wore a Karhart jacket and work boots and all she did was b*tch about everyone for every reason including me.She talked down about her 3 kids(all with different fathers)and she was in prison for thieft,go figure...Well if you like this chick,back off,ignore her and see if she lightens up but it sounds like she stuck in her ways and those kinda girls only can love one thing........sex,money,me first, and then there might be love between 11:38 to 12:41 monday,thursday and Saturday.......I would'nt bother but then again who am I......I'm single......good luck
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