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Just keep trying and keep experimenting. You'll figure it out eventually.

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I decided to call her and ask her out again. I'm going to take her up to a park with a nice view of the city tomorrow night..hopefully catch the sunset. It can't hurt and I feel like i'll be able to tell for sure.

 

I can rap along to every word to NWA's gangsta gangsta. The last (and only) girl I've preformed that song to loved it. I might have to pull it out of the toolshed and see if she warms up to that.

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Your better than me. I get 0 dates but then I'm not asking women out. I wish they would ask me out, then for sure I know they are interested.

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Your better than me. I get 0 dates but then I'm not asking women out. I wish they would ask me out, then for sure I know they are interested.

 

99% or men would get 0 dates if they never asked woman out. Why aren't you?

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Don't drop the ball now! Maybe that is what you're doing wrong.

 

It's ok for you to initiate, she has accepted all of your invitations so far so don't change anything, it's working.

 

Have you held hands or kissed in those 4 dates?

 

I disagree with the above, if after 4 dates she cannot take any sort of lead then what you simply have there is she is using him as a convenience, possibly because she is bored and has nobody else to spend time with.

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Your better than me. I get 0 dates but then I'm not asking women out. I wish they would ask me out, then for sure I know they are interested.

 

I sit on that same dock watching boats sail out to sea. Its almost impossible to determine if people are interested and its takes a massive leap of faith to actually ask someone out, every time I have done it I got rejected.

 

For me I simply cannot understand if a female is interested why she cant ask the guy out, makes zero sense to me that the guy must ask every single time.

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I decided to call her and ask her out again. I'm going to take her up to a park with a nice view of the city tomorrow night..hopefully catch the sunset. It can't hurt and I feel like i'll be able to tell for sure. .

 

So did she accept?

 

I dated someone for 6 months and he was always the one initiating contact. I was head over heels for him, it's just that we got in this routine of him texting me at 10 am during his break, and he'd call me at 7 pm every day.

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I disagree with the above, if after 4 dates she cannot take any sort of lead then what you simply have there is she is using him as a convenience, possibly because she is bored and has nobody else to spend time with.

 

Yeah that's the vibe i'm getting. We're both new to the city. I've been here about 3 months but she's only been here for 1. She claims she has friends but i doubt she's very comfortable with them yet. So one more date and then i'll back off for sure.

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So did she accept?

 

I dated someone for 6 months and he was always the one initiating contact. I was head over heels for him, it's just that we got in this routine of him texting me at 10 am during his break, and he'd call me at 7 pm every day.

 

Yeah, we're going out tonight.

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I disagree with the above, if after 4 dates she cannot take any sort of lead then what you simply have there is she is using him as a convenience, possibly because she is bored and has nobody else to spend time with.

 

 

Better to be used then to be self abused. (Hand J)

 

 

And he is honing his courting skills.

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I sit on that same dock watching boats sail out to sea. Its almost impossible to determine if people are interested and its takes a massive leap of faith to actually ask someone out, every time I have done it I got rejected.

 

For me I simply cannot understand if a female is interested why she cant ask the guy out, makes zero sense to me that the guy must ask every single time.

 

 

The phrase: Time to man up.

 

 

So you have to man up and face rejection. Rejection is the work. No reward without the work.

 

 

And, face it some men can walk into a bar every Saturday night and take home a 10 to bang. And, some have to work at for a long time.

 

 

Life is a competition. You have to run to finish the race.

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Yeah, we're going out tonight.

 

She had a meeting today for her job that she starts tomorrow and apparently they gave her a ton of homework. She suggested that we do it another time and i told her to let me know when she was free.

 

The ball is now in her court. That worked out perfectly

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The phrase: Time to man up.

 

 

So you have to man up and face rejection. Rejection is the work. No reward without the work.

 

 

And, face it some men can walk into a bar every Saturday night and take home a 10 to bang. And, some have to work at for a long time.

 

 

Life is a competition. You have to run to finish the race.

 

Circumstance, everyone's is different, my opinion remains, constant rejection points to fundamental issues.

 

Directly related to this thread, it amazes me the guy must always make the move, the guy must always do the approach. For a world striving for gender equality this appears very slanted to me.

 

To the OP, glad the ball is now in her court, will be interesting to see what happens now.

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To the OP, glad the ball is now in her court, will be interesting to see what happens now.

 

She finally texted me after 9 days and we went out for dinner this evening. She seemed really happy and a little more flirty. I think it's her new job. I asked her if she wanted to come back to my place a couple of weeks ago and she declined so I was hoping she would ask me back to her place tonight but it didn't happen.

 

All of our dates have been public so far so we've never really got past the quick make out session. I'll probably have to just ask her if she wants to come over for a movie here in the next week.

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Better to be used then to be self abused.

This is the kind of thinking that has so many people on this website.

The thought that being single is so awful.

The idea that constantly dating is the way to go, even if you are not enjoying it.

Willingness to be used.

Where is peoples self respect?

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