HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Let's say there's a girl you know who are sort of interested in, but you're intimidated because you really respect her and are in awe of her. But you found out that she thinks you are "shallow." No that didn't happen to me. it happened to someone else i know. But i was just wondering what the guy thought when he heard that. thought i'd ask guys for their opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Learn to stay out of people's business. you are hurting the one you "love" Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 Learn to stay out of people's business. you are hurting the one you "love" ok it DID happen to me. i was just too embarrassed to admit it. I said he was shallow and didn't realize he was standing right behind me. I'm not sticking my nose in other people's business. I'm sticking my nose in my own business. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 If this guy's "in awe" of you and you said he's shallow, stands to reason he'd be devastated. Not sure how the "sort of interested in" and "in awe of" things come together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 (edited) If this guy's "in awe" of you and you said he's shallow, stands to reason he'd be devastated. Not sure how the "sort of interested in" and "in awe of" things come together. I hope i didn't come of conceited. i totally am not. What i mean is -(and i was just trying to be concise)-that i have been told by others that he talks about me a lot and my background and how he is so impressed with where I went to school and all that. but at the same time, I don't know if he is interested in me romantically. he just seems tense and shy when we talk. Haven't you been impressed and intimidated by a member of the opposite sex, but weren't necessarily attracted to them? I sure have. And i think that's what we have here. I don't think he's interested in dating me. but he does respect me. (or DID...) Edited April 12, 2015 by HansonGirl Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Stop worrying about him. He probably is shallow. If he's got any spine, he'll talk to you about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 Stop worrying about him. He probably is shallow. If he's got any spine, he'll talk to you about it. haha, thanks. I guess i just felt really bad. I bet my face was beet red when i turned around. SO EMBARRASSING... i just feel really bad now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 If this guy's "in awe" of you and you said he's shallow, stands to reason he'd be devastated. Not sure how the "sort of interested in" and "in awe of" things come together. i hope he isn't "devastated" though... yikes... Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Are you more worried about him being devastated or you feeling bad that he's devastated? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted April 12, 2015 Author Share Posted April 12, 2015 Are you more worried about him being devastated or you feeling bad that he's devastated? Well I guess what I feel bad about is that basically i got caught red-handed bad-mouthing him, and i feel like a rude jerk, and I am afraid he now thinks I am a rude jerk, although I really do think he's kind of a shallow tool a little bit, but if it hurt his feelings, i'd feel bad. I was hoping people would validate me and say, "oh don't worry about it, i'm sure he didn't even hear" or something. So it's more self centered. But i also would feel terrible if he was devastated. I definitely hadn't thought it would have been THAT impactful until you mentioned it. I was hoping i could get out of apologizing, but now i feel like i should. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Sounds like you're mainly concerned about how it affects you and your feelings. If all you want is to feel better, why not just have a drink or something? The sense of guilt should go away fairly quickly if you keep the focus on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 Sorry but you did come off as conceited & mean. Apologize to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 (edited) You don't feel bad because of your actions, you feel bad because the person you were trashing overheard you. What exactly are you contemplating apologizing for, for trashing talking him or getting caught? What you said probably stung him, and maybe it's best your true feelings came to light so that he can move on. Getting caught trash talking should certainly end the respect you aren't worthy of. Edited April 12, 2015 by Methodical Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 You don't feel bad because of your actions, you feel bad because the person you were trashing overheard you. What exactly are you contemplating apologizing for, for trashing talking him or getting caught? What you said probably stung him, and maybe it's best your true feelings came to light so that he can move on. Getting caught trash talking should certainly end the respect you aren't worthy of. Put so much better than I could. Lesson is don't go around bad mouthing others. If you wouldn't say it to their face don't say it behind their backs... Link to post Share on other sites
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