Sunberry Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 When liking a girl/boy do you initiate or do you wait on them? I ask because I am starting to like a friend and don't know what to do other than, well, nothing (not to mention we just started being friends and don't want it to be ruined or make it awkward). The way I see it is, and this is based off of experience as well, that if I have to initiate then the guy probably doesn't like me the same way I like them. The only time that didn't fit the bill was when friends around me and the other person have told me feelings were mutual and that they were afraid to ask, so I did. Other times, the feelings were never the same. Friends have told me a girl should be more forward as it's a turn on to most guys, when history has told me other wise. Any opinion would be lovely.
No Limit Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 In my opinion the initiation should come from the one who approached first. Of course if there's interest from the other person he or she should also encourage it; instead of saying "Oh I can't that day, but let's exchange numbers and I'll ask you later" - make a "competitive offer" instead. Express your interest.
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Men are usually the pursuers. I say wait for him to ask you out. Why should a beautiful need to risk rejection?
crosswordfiend Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 While men are usually the pursuers, most relationships are initiated by women. Your job is to make sure that he knows the answer will be yes if he asks you out. 2
Vintage79 Posted May 10, 2015 Posted May 10, 2015 Sunberry - I'm going to say that you need to be the initiator in this one. You met as platonic friends, so for all you know, he's thinking of it as friends, not romantic...it would be kind of silly to think otherwise. That said, there's a good chance he'll never ask you out because you're in his friendzone. Step up and ask him out, or at least let him know (somehow), that you want to try being more than just friends and see how that goes (note, be careful with how you phrase this). That said - the easiest way to get a guaranteed answer is to just ask him out, otherwise you'll likely be left wondering for a long time - I don't ask my friends out on dates, once they're a friend...I'm guessing that's not too unusual.
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