SmartDude Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Women who are usually very attractive, but can't seem to stop going on dates... Looking for that "perfect guy". Are they really worth it? Anyone have any stories to share?
h0000 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 It depends on individual. It's pretty silly to say they are/aren't all worth it. But generally if they literally don't stop jumping from dick to dick then it's a red flag 4
BlueIris Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Don’t make assumptions based upon appearance. The way people look is not the determinant of their character, values, intellect or personality. 3
Author SmartDude Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 It depends on individual. It's pretty silly to say they are/aren't all worth it. But generally if they literally don't stop jumping from dick to dick then it's a red flag There is this woman I met recently... I feel like going to the pastries shop and buying a pie...Just so I can throw it in her face and walk away.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Women who are usually very attractive, but can't seem to stop going on dates... Looking for that "perfect guy". Are they really worth it? Anyone have any stories to share? For me ... it's not really worth it. What I mean to say is that if I have to chase and pursue and beat other guys out, that's not really what I feel love is about. Love is about friendship for me and friendship is not a competition. That said, most people do treat it like that. Guys need to come with the best game for women. Etc. That's where the word 'game' comes from.
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I get it all the time. Even last night a new contact asked me over the phone How come you don't have a man in your life! men must be lining up to meet you. Yes they do. Give me 10 minutes online and my weekend if filled with dates but here is what I meet: 1. Hot guys, all over, it's raining hot dudes all around me but none are interested in a relationship with me, only scoring a hot late 40s woman with DDs and full hips. 2. Regular joe blows want to meet me sure but when they are with me they are filled with insecurities. I hear constantly: You must have a lot of contacts - men must approach you - you got options - is that your other boyfriend calling you. So I am alone. I go on tons of dates. If people are asking me who I date I always have a name to give them, George, Henry, John, Jason, Frank but they are all flakes and if you look from the outside it would appear as I am eating men by the dozen but you would be mistaken. It's not what I want. I want one of those jerks to stick around for good. 3
h0000 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 There is this woman I met recently... I feel like going to the pastries shop and buying a pie...Just so I can throw it in her face and walk away. Haha.how do you know she has tons of guys though
Author SmartDude Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Haha.how do you know she has tons of guys though She told me! Says she is going on many dates as she can, Going on trips to foreign countries. All because she is searching for a husband. Seems like kind of a backwards way of doing things. She probably just has mental problems. I seem to attract the nutters.
Woggle Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I don't compete with other men for women and people like this are usually commitment phobes. 2
loveweary11 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Huh... same here, but just insert women into the story. Both sexes really don't have it all that different in this game. I get it all the time. Even last night a new contact asked me over the phone How come you don't have a man in your life! men must be lining up to meet you. Yes they do. Give me 10 minutes online and my weekend if filled with dates but here is what I meet: 1. Hot guys, all over, it's raining hot dudes all around me but none are interested in a relationship with me, only scoring a hot late 40s woman with DDs and full hips. 2. Regular joe blows want to meet me sure but when they are with me they are filled with insecurities. I hear constantly: You must have a lot of contacts - men must approach you - you got options - is that your other boyfriend calling you. So I am alone. I go on tons of dates. If people are asking me who I date I always have a name to give them, George, Henry, John, Jason, Frank but they are all flakes and if you look from the outside it would appear as I am eating men by the dozen but you would be mistaken. It's not what I want. I want one of those jerks to stick around for good. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 She told me! Says she is going on many dates as she can, Going on trips to foreign countries. All because she is searching for a husband. Seems like kind of a backwards way of doing things. She probably just has mental problems. I seem to attract the nutters. It's not all the attractiveness of the woman either. That is a factor, but realize that mostly any average woman will have a bevy of options. I went to the dentist office the other day and they have about 8 young women working behind the desk and as dental techs. And they are ALL hot, and most guys think that way. So, for most women, if she wants to feed her ego, she will. If she does not want to feed her ego, and is looking for a compatible friend, then she will choose you because you have more in common. In general, women who 'follow the rules' of dating fall into that category where they treat it more like a competition.
JohnsonBaby Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well ,It can be a hard task ,unless you really make an impression and that ,you can't really control . In order to attract a woman like that you have to be a mix between hot and cold . Keep things on edge,Intersting. The type of woman who s used to alot of attention and hop from "flower to flower " is most likely a cheater .
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I don't compete with other men for women and people like this are usually commitment phobes. I stack up the women I've dated against each other, but only in terms of how they are compatible with me and how they treat other people. Neither of those things are of much value in terms of the dating competition.
h0000 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 She told me! Says she is going on many dates as she can, Going on trips to foreign countries. All because she is searching for a husband. Seems like kind of a backwards way of doing things. She probably just has mental problems. I seem to attract the nutters. Most girls I met, who would say they go n many dates , are either bragging or are just desperate. And bragging usually means they are insecure inside and desperate just means...ya know...desperate .. Interesting enough every girl who says that short of crap actually really is juts average/bit above average looking.
hounder Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well ,It can be a hard task ,unless you really make an impression and that ,you can't really control . In order to attract a woman like that you have to be a mix between hot and cold . Keep things on edge,Intersting. The type of woman who s used to alot of attention and hop from "flower to flower " is most likely a cheater . Which is one reason I won't ever try. Unwilling to do the hot and cold, keep on edge or any of that, and don't believe I could pull it off even if I tried. Another reason is I don't even do so good with women who aren't desired by many.
Phoe Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 It all depends on the woman. Some will be worth it, some won't be. I have never believed that lots of options is an indicator of worth. Some women have men swarming them and they honestly aren't worth the pain in the butt. But sometimes they are worth it. Some women are mostly left alone by men and date rarely, but that doesn't mean she has no value.
No Limit Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 You're supposed to kiss the frog, not screw the whole pond. 1
preraph Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I lived with a very popular girl. She has problems with being organized and other issues as well, so it was even nuttier than you would expect. She did everything impulsively and didn't keep track of things, so she'd have a date and be gone with some guy who just dropped by when the date arrived. Once she brought a guy for me and then by the end of the night, she switched guys and took him! So she really played the field a lot. But when I met her she had just broken an engagement and the guy was stalking her. Then when I lived with her, she stopped playing with the other guys and zero'd in on a young guy who she married and as soon as he took her to another state away from her friends and family, he began abusing her. And then she came home and he stalked her. She resumed going out and meeting people. She was very social with men and women alike, a big networker. Then she worked a homicide story and met her now husband of 30 years on location. Once she met him, as far as I know he had all her focus. He wasn't the best looking guy she went out with. He wasn't the one with the most money or ambition. He was just her guy, the guy that would put up with her craziness and stimulate her intellectually. When I visited her home maybe 18 years into their marriage, when he came home from work, they sat in their armchairs and had a big discussion about the news of the day. You could tell they just really enjoyed sharing that type thing with each other. He was enough for her on more than one level. Now, for me, I wasn't the least bit attracted to him, but I do think he's really nice. So you can't generalize about popular girls. They're still just looking to meet their match, and what that is could surprise everyone. 2
markleymassraff Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 my life is pretty inconsistent in terms of attention from men. I go through long stretches of no attention (doesn't mean men aren't attracted but none seem to be actively acting on it), and then a sudden "feast" period where i"m getting attention. I'm currently going through a "feast" thing. In the past two months, four guys have wanted to date/have sex with me, but NONE of whom I am attracted to. None were/are obese, but they are ALL heavier than I tend to like. Plus their personalities, while nice and certainly with good social etiquette, just don't do much for me in terms of turning me on. So...I'm enjoying a strange surge of attention but not from anyone I want. I currently want a guy who does not want me. He's given me mixed messages, really, but as we all know, mixed messages usually mean negative, so.... I long for the next time I am attracted to someone who is also attracted to me (and enough so to get something started...dating/relationship.)
wb1988 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 She told me! Says she is going on many dates as she can, Going on trips to foreign countries. All because she is searching for a husband. A guy moves to a new place and asks an old man about what life is like in the town. The old man asks "what was life like in your old town?", the guy answers "it sucked", and then the old man says "bro it sucks here as well". Another newbie moves to the same town and asks the same old man the same question. When the old man asks about the newbies life in his old town the newbie says "it was real dope" and the old man then says "this town is real dope too brah". I've totally butchered that tale, but I think it explains that kind of woman. Most girls I met, who would say they go n many dates , are either bragging or are just desperate. And bragging usually means they are insecure inside and desperate just means...ya know...desperate .. Interesting enough every girl who says that short of crap actually really is juts average/bit above average looking. Yeah, you only brag if you're trying to compensate. Like you never see a really rich guy brag, but you always see tacky heavily in debt guys brag about money like they're trying to prove something. OP, in the end if you go with a women with lots of competition then you'll end up having to compete 24/7. A great example is when you see a girl with a bf at a club who starts flirting with other guys, only for her bf to have to fight or win her back each time. Sometimes girls like that actually get their bfs into trouble just because they're used to having guys compete for them.
stillafool Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I imagine some pretty women have so many options with goodlooking men that it is hard for them not to spend some time with each of these guys. Much the way a man who has 7 beautiful women who want to date him would hardly just date only 1. Some people are only as faithful as their options.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 I imagine some pretty women have so many options with goodlooking men that it is hard for them not to spend some time with each of these guys. Much the way a man who has 7 beautiful women who want to date him would hardly just date only 1. Some people are only as faithful as their options. Yup I'm doing good if I have 2 at once Lol. OH well what can one do
xxoo Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 There is this woman I met recently... I feel like going to the pastries shop and buying a pie...Just so I can throw it in her face and walk away. Why? Chances are, she's had her fair share of rejection.
alphamale Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 Don’t make assumptions based upon appearance. The way people look is not the determinant of their character, values, intellect or personality. this applies more so outside of the US
alphamale Posted April 13, 2015 Posted April 13, 2015 There is this woman I met recently... I feel like going to the pastries shop and buying a pie...Just so I can throw it in her face and walk away. don't buy an apple pie or pecan pie, buy a nice cream pie for full effect
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