Mads3131 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 So I have hung out and hooked up with this guy twice (don't worry im not some crazy girl who now thinks we are in a relationship) I know potentially turning anything into a relationship takes time and getting to know someone. I like to go with the flow and enjoy my time with someone, although i know there is the potential of getting hurt. However, I would like to get an idea of whether this guy just sees me as a hookup or can see it going somewhere. I know asking him would scare him off since we have only hung out twice. However, we act different than things have been with other guys I have only hooked up with, and I have hooked up with quite a few and these have had no chemistry other than the physical part. Like both times he held my hand as we fell asleep and cuddled with me. We also sleep over and then spend some time talking and hanging out the next morning. He teases me and we have fun together. I know he talks to other girls and I talk to other guys. But the other night when we went to a party he held my hand and kissed me in front of his friends. LIke things just feel different but I am also cautious he could be a player. But, if as a guy you only wanted to hook up with a girl and didn't maybe like her a little more than just that, would you hold her hand and cuddle with her? Like i know its too soon to tell, but if he just saw me as a hookup and didn't like me in any other way I dont think he would act like this! I know I wouldn't if I was just hooking up with someone
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Mads, clearly he really likes you, is attracted to you, enjoys spending time with you. The question still remains though ....does he desire a *relationship " with you. Liking and being attracted ...and wanting a relationship are not mutually exclusive. Play it out and see what develops. Don't push just let things happen naturally...and gradually. Allow feelings to build. In time you will know, and probably won't even have to ask. 2
Author Mads3131 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Mads, clearly he really likes you, is attracted to you, enjoys spending time with you. The question still remains though ....does he desire a *relationship " with you. Liking and being attracted ...and wanting a relationship are not mutually exclusive. Play it out and see what develops. Don't push just let things happen naturally...and gradually. Allow feelings to build. In time you will know, and probably won't even have to ask. Wow thank you so much! You said this perfectly! I think I just need to take a step back and stop worrying so much about what everything means and just enjoy myself when I hang out with him:)
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Wow thank you so much! You said this perfectly! I think I just need to take a step back and stop worrying so much about what everything means and just enjoy myself when I hang out with him:) You're very welcome! And good luck! :bunny:
Author Mads3131 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Also, I recently texted him saying hopefully we can hang out again sometime soon if you want! and he responded "Yes, for sure"
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Also, I recently texted him saying hopefully we can hang out again sometime soon if you want! and he responded "Yes, for sure" Mads, now that he knows you would like to see him again, wait for him to contact you as to when that will be. Don't send any more texts until that happens. Even if you are feeling anxious about it, DON'T do it. Stay busy and keep your options open. Let him wonder about you. Give him a chance to think about you and miss you... Behaving that way will keep him coming back for more...trust me on that one!!
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 You need to stop worrying about it and just enjoy yourself. Two dates is way too early to need his reassurance he's interested. You'll sabotage yourself if you keep thinking that way. All you should be doing for the next two months is making yourself cheerful and entertaining on dates. That's it. Be fun to be with. Don't have this dark Loch Ness lurking beneath the surface being needy because that's very unattractive. It's two dates. You shouldn't care what's going down yet because you don't even know the guy. Don't be desperate.
Author Mads3131 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Mads, now that he knows you would like to see him again, wait for him to contact you as to when that will be. Don't send any more texts until that happens. Even if you are feeling anxious about it, DON'T do it. Stay busy and keep your options open. Let him wonder about you. Give him a chance to think about you and miss you... Behaving that way will keep him coming back for more...trust me on that one!! Great! I didnt respond to him after he said that we should for sure hang out again and I will just leave it at that and wait for him to contact me!
Author Mads3131 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 You need to stop worrying about it and just enjoy yourself. Two dates is way too early to need his reassurance he's interested. You'll sabotage yourself if you keep thinking that way. All you should be doing for the next two months is making yourself cheerful and entertaining on dates. That's it. Be fun to be with. Don't have this dark Loch Ness lurking beneath the surface being needy because that's very unattractive. It's two dates. You shouldn't care what's going down yet because you don't even know the guy. Don't be desperate. I just have this hidden insecurity that one day he will just stop talking to me (thats happened with one guy that I really started to fall for after we had been hanging out for a while). So i guess my anxiousness is just that the same thing will happen to me again and another guy that I am attracted to me will just leave without an explanation. But you are totally right, I need to just chill and enjoy hanging out and not try reading into anything. I guess the part that is hard for me though is that I had sex with him the second time we hung out and I don't want him to never call me again or something. I know this is dramatic on my part but its just a hidden insecurity I have from being hurt in the past
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