Kitchen Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I never do this, but this is just an exceptional circumstance. The most beautiful girl I have ever seen works at my local coffee shop, only on Saturdays. I've been going there every Sat. for the last 2 months to get work done and each time I feel mesmerized by her beauty. We've shared a handful of words here and there. But in general, I have no clue what to do or what to say. I feel so paralyzed by her beauty. More so, even if I had the courage to do so, how can I just start talking to someone like that, randomly? I have no clue. I instantly put her on a pedestal and haven't been able to take her off. It doesn't help that I'm a minority - Asian, and she's Latina. Call it politically incorrect to say, but my race is generally at the bottom of the pecking order in these things. I am a fairly good looking guy, in shape, and my sense of humor is second to none. But I'm very shy in the beginning when I don't know people, especially for someone I consider the most beautiful girl I've ever seen! I'm sure there are tons of posts like these here. I'm looking for advice, support, encouragement, sympathy, or whatever you're willing to give! Thanks so much for reading.
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 All you can do is ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she's that gorgeous and she's working in retail, her dance card is probably pretty full. Sometime when there's a high-profile event coming up, like a big ballgame or a big concert or a holiday (fireworks) or a parade or street fair, just conversationally ask "You going to the __?" See what she says. She might say "Yes, I'm taking my son" or "Me and my boyfriend are going." Or she might say, "I don't know." Then you can say "I think I'll go. Want to go with me?"
Mrin Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 No dying man on his deathbed ever said "when saw the most beautiful woman in the world I really wish I hadn't asked her out".
xxoo Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Aw, relax and give her your most charming smile, and ask her how her day is going. Next time, give her your most charming smile, and when she smiles back, tell her that her smile lights up your day. Next time, act really happy to see her, "Ah, my favorite barista!" and ask about her day. Judge how she's reacting to your attention. Is she trying to find any excuse to do something other than talk to you? Or does her face light up and does she linger for a few words? Bottom line: she's just a person. Talk to her, give her signs of interest, and see if she returns the signs of interest.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) No dying man on his deathbed ever said "when saw the most beautiful woman in the world I really wish I hadn't asked her out". There are cases actually where I wish I hadn't asked. In one case, I fell hard for one of my female friends, she totally rejected me, and it took me a couple of years to get over. That has nothing to do with OP's situation though. I have asked out women I have met in professional meetings, and later on, I ended up being co-workers with them. It has never come back to bite me in the arse, but it could have. I have also asked out women who work at public places and had to go there again. That's kind of awkward. Women are always thinking, "Just ask, just ask." But men need to weigh odds versus consequences. For the OP I'd say, if you go there a lot and will feel awkward when/if she turns you down, then I'd weight that. That's the most likely outcome by far given your story. But if you're OK with that, then hey, OK. Edited April 11, 2015 by JuneJulySeptember
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