rnd_user1 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 About 4 months ago I met a girl in a club... we danced a little, nothing special and she gave me her number. A few days after I called her and asked her out, but she said she was busy and told me to call her a week later. Then I called her again but shy simply didn't reply and that was it. Now, about two weeks ago, I was bored so I decided to look her up on facebook. I remembered her name (she told me just first name, not surname) and her college and I actually found her. I'm not a 100% sure it's her because I can't remember what she looked like, but some other facts she told me match and I'm pretty sure it's her. And now I really like her and am kinda obsessed with her, I just have a feeling that we would be a really good match. And then the worst (or best) part, I actually saw her in a club again yesterday. I didn't approach her because I just didn't know what to do and say So what do I do? Do I send her a message on fb? Do I call her again? Do I wait if I see her again in a club? And whatever I do, how do I act? Do I pretend like I don't remember her? What should say/do? "Hey, its been 4 months and I stalkerishly found you on facebook but don't worry, I'm actually a normal guy"? We don't have any mutual friends and she is not on the clubs photos from yesterday, so I don't have any explanation how I found her on fb. Or do I just let it go? Though currently I really don't wanna do that, because I think about her all the time and don't care about other girls at all.
d0nnivain Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 FB is FB. Go ahead & send her a friend request. If she accepts, look through her page. Like something or comment on something recent. Then send her a PM but make it pithy not too personal. Go from there. You might find out she has a BF.
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 (edited) Let it go. Dude.. she blew you off the first time, what makes you think it would be different this time? You say you have a *feeling* you would be great together. Where does this feeling come from.. cause remember she blew you off? Last I checked, in order for a couple to be great together, there should be "mutual" interest. Not one person blowing the other off, and the other person not accepting that and proceeding to obsess about her...and then stalking her FB. Let it go. If you are hell bent on talking to her again, when you run into her again, open your mouth and talk to her! FB is great for connecting with someone you just met and liked but neglected to exchange numbers (there is actually another thread running discussing that)... or who you dated for awhile but disconnected and want to reconnect ..... among other things. It shouldn't be used to stalk women who blew you off..and with whom you have become obsessed four months later. THAT is creepy. JMO though, I may be in the minority. Edited April 12, 2015 by katiegrl
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