sutsie Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 On like week 3 or something of no contact with my ex that left me for a stupid reason (i'm sure i can be an ass at times but in this particular incident I can actually say i wasn't.) She lives like just over an hour away for school and her and her roommate both broke up with long term boyfriends back to back weeks. Is there a chance she'll come back around? Not that i want her back since she's flaunted her new single status on social media and changed her twitter from private to public whenever she tweets to guys and stuff. then after a few hours its back to private again. Very immature girl and say what you want about me but i want her to come back just so i'll know she's regretting her decision. Anybody have any stories or a estimate of when such an event will occur? Girls are crazy and very mean during break ups i've figured out. I haven't posted anything on social media or contacted her other than a love letter a week after we broke up.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well, good thing you don't want her back, because chances are she won't. I've never had an ex come back, and never had one I wanted to. I'd suggest focusing on working through your hurt feelings, so you can move forward without thinking about her and this need to be proven right. It's natural to feel like that, but not very helpful or healthy. What good would it do, really? Do YOU think she made the wrong decision the break up with you? Ok then, why do you need HER to confirm what you believe? Have faith in your own judgment, and let go of the need to have her confirm that what you believe is the truth. Because I'll bet that she won't ever admit that she made the wrong decision, or even engage in a conversation about it.
hollypolly Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I think NC is important to allow your heart to heal. This person is no longer part of your life and in order to find happiness you must go through this separation. Im not a believer in being friends with an ex personally. Im over three weeks NC since being dumped over the phone. I got a text a few days ago asking to meet up to chat which ive deleted and ignored. I miss him every day and my heart is heavy and deleting it was extremely difficult but its the right thing to do in my circumstances. We all deserve to be happy and we play a part in this. Ignoring this text was the only power i had to stop pain as I didnt open the door for history to repeat itself. If you get a text or call, try to settle yourself and think logically about why you would reply before you do. Best of luck to you. 2
Ruby65 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Im over three weeks NC since being dumped over the phone. I got a text a few days ago asking to meet up to chat which ive deleted and ignored. I miss him every day and my heart is heavy and deleting it was extremely difficult but its the right thing to do in my circumstances. We all deserve to be happy and we play a part in this. Ignoring this text was the only power i had to stop pain as I didnt open the door for history to repeat itself. If you get a text or call, try to settle yourself and think logically about why you would reply before you do. Good for you, hollypolly!
Author sutsie Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 just some background since i didn't feel like I gave enough. She was my first and i was her first (virginity and love). Dated for 3 years and she broke up with me after her grandma passed because "she needed to work on herself and to do that she needed to let our relationship go". I would've gladly taken her back until she posted the song "I dont "f" with you" on twitter and flaunted her singleness on social media. I guess she thinks i walked into the hospital and stabbed her grandma, Idk girls go crazy during tragedys. 1
hollypolly Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I think she is putting all this on social media for you to see. Take some space from her and take a break from social media. Deactivate your account or at least block her. I know this is hard and she was a huge part of your life but you deserve happiness and this girl cant give you that. You need to look after yourself and give your heart time to heal.
Author sutsie Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 Thank you holly. Only girl ive ever even so much as talked to and she threw me away by sending me a text message. It hurts but im in a better place now than i was a month ago. I appreciate your support and every dumpee support on this website. Cant thank you enough
SycamoreCircle Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 There's always some initial fanfare after the break-up: Carnival Cruises---!!!THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!! It's a load of baloney. Women, especially, want to make all of their friends and family believe they're finally free and happy. Try not to look at that stuff. I know it's difficult. But it's just an illusion. Eventually, she will have to deal with the fact that she pushed someone close to her out of her life. You'll probably never know about it, but it'll happen. Focus on you. Date yourself. Take yourself out for a shave, haircut and scrumptious dinner. Lay off dating a while. Take walks. Get to know yourself again. It gets easier with time.
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