fitnessfan365 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Lol I would think you re a creep . I don't see anything wrong with going the FB route per say. He made a mistake and forgot to get her number. After all, how is he supposed to get in touch with her again? However, it's doing it so soon that seems off to me. If you have her number, why dick around? Shoot her a quick text the next day. But tracking a woman online has more of an invasion of privacy feel to it. So to make her feel more comfortable, you allow her a few days to process the date. She thinks about him, begins to regret that she didn't give him her number, etc.. Then he reaches out, she's glad to hear from him, and the FB approach becomes charming with initiative. But doing it 12 hrs after drinks makes it seem over eager and stalkerish. In this particular case, it's the one time where giving it some breathing room is a good idea IMO.
hounder Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 It's hit or miss and depends on her and you. I've been called a creep for much less, but I don't give off the best vibe. Another guy could do the same and score a date.
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 ^^ I think it all boils down to how much interest she had when she initially met you. If, when she met you, and after chatting a bit, she had high interest, and was disappointed you didn't ask for her number, if you locate her on FB and quick text her the next day, speaking personally, and for most women, she will be flattered and thrilled! If she had little or no interest upon first meeting you, she will think you are creepy. I think it's best to strike while the iron is hot, while you are still fresh in her mind. Waiting five days, she may not even remember who you are, Especially if she goes out a lot and meets/dates many men. FB isn't invading privacy. If she was so concerned about privacy, she wouldn't be active on FB in the first place! 2
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I wish a woman would wait five days to call me That would give me time to do some spring cleaning! (It's just a joke!) 1
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I wish a woman would wait five days to call me That would give me time to do some spring cleaning! (It's just a joke!) Haha...and stop stealing my bunny!
Gary S Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 ^^^^^^^^^In a voice like Jim Carrey, "It's mine, it's mine! Gimme-gimme-gimme!" :bunny:
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Met this girl last night and we had drinks and hit it off pretty well. For some reason, I didn't ask for her contact info and now regretting it. I found her on facebook. Should I message her? A part of me says yes, I have nothing to lose. Another part of me feels a bit stalkerish. Opinions? Yes it's stalkerish and desperate and I would not recommend it lol
guest569 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 It's the done thing these days.. Its like a phone book 1
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 No it's so common to do. Just say "I had fun last night, want to go out for drinks again?" How is it common? Every one doesn't use their real name on facebook
guest569 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 I also agree with Katie , half the time when guys do the "wait 3 days" we can see straight through it, it's obviously a game. I dont respond well to it. 2
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Yes it's stalkerish and desperate and I would not recommend it lol Have you read the thread? Specifically, the posts from the ladies? Who are actually the recipients of such *stalking* behavior? Most women have responded in the affirmative. So what does "that" tell ya? Gotta love the arrogance on this board sometimes. Men acting like they are the be-all-and-end-all of what women like and respond to... What's particularly troubling are the guys (well guy) who proclaim to "know" that such behavior would be off-putting to the woman and cause her *discomfort* ...without ever having experienced it himself! Unbelievable....
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 1) It shows she made an impression because you remembered her name. 2) You took initiative. As long as you don't make a big deal out of using FB, she won't be weirded out. However, I'd give it at least 3-5 days breathing room. Tracking a woman down via FB and contacting her the next day screams over eager. Instead wait a bit and then send her a YouTube link that reminded you of something you two talked about. "This reminded me of that great conversation we had over drinks last week. We should do it again. When are you free to get together?" what if she doesn't use her real name??
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 This. Not stalkerish. I'd be flattered. you would only be flattered if you were interested
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Have you read the thread? Specifically, the posts from the ladies? Who are actually the recipients of such *stalking* behavior? Most women have responded in the affirmative. So what does "that" tell ya? Gotta love the arrogance on this board sometimes. Men acting like they are the be-all-and-end-all of what women like and respond to... What's particularly troubling are the guys (well guy) who proclaim to "know" that such behavior would be off-putting to the woman and cause her *discomfort* ...without ever having experienced it himself! Unbelievable.... what if she doesn't have facebook or uses a screen name on FB then what?
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 what if she doesn't use her real name?? That's different thread... and not even the point. In this case, the girl in question did use her real name as the OP found her and emailed her. Again, have you read the thread? Lol 1
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 what if she doesn't have facebook or uses a screen name on FB then what? Okay now you are just being silly. Read the thread!
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 That's different thread... and not even the point. In this case, the girl in question did use her real name as the OP found her and emailed her. Again, have you read the thread? Lol LOL, I'm just surprised so many people use their real name
guest569 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Basically everyone on facebook uses their real name..
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 Basically everyone on facebook uses their real name.. I don't know why, makes more sense to use a screen name That way people can't just look you up
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 LOL, I'm just surprised so many people use their real name It's Facebook dude..not some cheesy dating site or chat room. Facebook is how old friends get in touch, connecting and re-connecting with people and making new friends. Why the hell would someone want to use a fake name? That would defeat the entire purpose of joining and being active on FB in the first place... unless they intend to scam people, and if that's the case, then I guess the guy who neglects to get a chick's number won't be able to find her..now will he. Duh....
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 you would only be flattered if you were interested Read the thread! Already admitted to that....
smg15 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 It's Facebook dude..not some cheesy dating site or chat room. Facebook is how old friends get in touch, connecting and re-connecting with people and making new friends. Why the hell would someone want to use a fake name? That would defeat the entire purpose of joining and being active on FB in the first place... unless they intend to scam people, and if that's the case, then I guess the guy who neglects to get a chick's number won't be able to find her..now will he. Duh.... because your pic lets everyone know who you are. For example if you name was Katie Simmons, you create a FB name that has Kate S. That way you don't have to be stalked by people you don't want to hear from. Just shortened your first name and use the initial of your last name
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 because your pic lets everyone know who you are. For example if you name was Katie Simmons, you create a FB name that has Kate S. That way you don't have to be stalked by people you don't want to hear from. Just shortened your first name and use the initial of your last name Thanks for the tip!!! Lol 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 What's particularly troubling are the guys (well guy) who proclaim to "know" that such behavior would be off-putting to the woman and cause her *discomfort* ...without ever having experienced it himself! Unbelievable.... Haha.. Isn't the fact that I'd always get a number and never have to track a woman down online a good thing? So I'm thankful I haven't experienced it. BTW - I never claimed to "know" anything. I always preference posts by saying "I think", "wouldn't you think", "in my opinion", "for me", "personally" etc.. But I'd still feel uneasy about contacting a woman that soon in that situation. I'd want to let some time pass first, since it's a more unorthodox method. At least if I'd allow her to think about having drinks with me, regret not giving me her number, her eventual excitement in hearing from me would overshadow : 1) that I didn't ask for her number in the first place and 2) that I tracked her down online. But once again, it all comes down to opinion and preference. The women in this thread may not find it a big deal that guy would rather use FB than get their number. But I'd be willing to bet that at least some women out there would rather have a guy get their number and contact them the old fashioned way. I mean I know you say that it shows confidence and interest Katie. But if a guy didn't get your number face to face and resorted to Facebooking you instead, that wouldn't bother you, even just a little bit?
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