Cantsum Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 We've been broken up for the last 5 days, and I've been No Contact since it (so has she as a matter of fact). I can't say I'm not struggling with it all, because I really am and I'm this close to texting her. Her excuse for breaking up with me? She's too overwhelmed by her University finals exams. She has 8 exams coming up in the next 2 months. She suffers from severe anxiety and takes beta blockers to help her handle it. She works from 7 am to 6pm ... sometimes till 10pm, and this is every single day, including weekends. I don't know how relevant this is, but my mum seems pretty sure my ex just needs time and space to focus on her exams, but by the time she finishes it all she'll come back. She is so sure about this that she put a bet on it lol
Ruby65 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I agree with this from your last thread: Her "excuses" just sound like generic code for "i'm not into this anymore". Her getting angry at you in the car supports this - she completely unreasonably flipped out (projected, essentially) on you because she's selfishly frustrated with herself for wanting out of the relationship and that she's in this position. She probably feels trapped after trying to break up with you and you talking her out of it. This has been in the making for a while and now that she's pulling the trigger it's proving to be harder that she thought - this is what her behavior screams to me (the breakdowns, "exam stress" etc.) Most people won't tell you the true reason for the breakup, either to soften the blow or to keep from looking bad (as in, they found someone else but don't want to admit it to you). Regardless of what her excuse was..... the end result is the same: she's chosen to end the relationship. You'd be wise to work on accepting that -- instead of assuming you (or your mom or her mom or anyone else) knows better than your ex what she wants! It's common to go through a period of denial at first. Try and take it a step at a time. Here's a guide that will help you: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com Good luck! 2
jen1447 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 She broke up specifically to get thru her exams? Why not just say she won't be able to see you much during that time bc she'll be intensely busy? It doesn't sound legit, no, but it may be a blessing in disguise if she's so prone to disabling anxiety that she can't sustain a relationship. Not much future there anyway. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Don't text her, leave her be. If she's requested time and space, then the best thing you can do for her is to give them to her. Yeah, I think that she's checked out of the relationship too. When I'm especially stressed, I actually want the person I'm with CLOSER to me, so I can get support from him.
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