Guitarisgood Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 So tell me has this ever happened to you guys? She's been throwing herself at me and I'll admit, I hadn't wholeheartedly returned her affection. One morning she was super into me. The next, she seemed more distant towards me and I found that weird. No biggie, gave her space and went about my own thing. (This was in the space of a week) That night I had a few drinks with friends and we were discussing our relationships and she became the topic of conversation with the boys egging me on to man up and message her. I stupidly did. It was a friday night (no.1 mistake as everyone is out) and I sent it via IM (no.2 as we knew of each other but I never made more of an effort to get in touch with her - never saw her that way). Took couple hour but she reciprocated and sounded super keen in her replies. But it's weird. Before she'd answer immediately as opposed to taking longer. I'll admit those times things were more business than social. So I messaged her last night and she replied every couple hours but this morning since, there has been nothing. My last message was in agreement to looking forward to the date and then whether she would be heading into study this weekend with our exams coming up. Now this is big for me as I have a decent standing at uni and going out on a limb like this (stupidly with the egging of mates and a few drinks) leaves me so vulnerable to gossip etc. Did I screw up? Or did she just have a big night, struggling through the morning, heading into work etc and just not in the mood? You have to admit, everyone has their phones on them these days. I suck at this. I was planning to let these emotions simmer away, complete my studies and start anew elsewhere but now, I've just gone and thrown a wolf among the chickens.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) So tell me has this ever happened to you guys? She's been throwing herself at me and I'll admit, I hadn't wholeheartedly returned her affection. One morning she was super into me. The next, she seemed more distant towards me and I found that weird. No biggie, gave her space and went about my own thing. (This was in the space of a week) That night I had a few drinks with friends and we were discussing our relationships and she became the topic of conversation with the boys egging me on to man up and message her. I stupidly did. It was a friday night (no.1 mistake as everyone is out) and I sent it via IM (no.2 as we knew of each other but I never made more of an effort to get in touch with her - never saw her that way). Took couple hour but she reciprocated and sounded super keen in her replies. But it's weird. Before she'd answer immediately as opposed to taking longer. I'll admit those times things were more business than social. So I messaged her last night and she replied every couple hours but this morning since, there has been nothing. My last message was in agreement to looking forward to the date and then whether she would be heading into study this weekend with our exams coming up. Now this is big for me as I have a decent standing at uni and going out on a limb like this (stupidly with the egging of mates and a few drinks) leaves me so vulnerable to gossip etc. Did I screw up? Or did she just have a big night, struggling through the morning, heading into work etc and just not in the mood? You have to admit, everyone has their phones on them these days. I suck at this. I was planning to let these emotions simmer away, complete my studies and start anew elsewhere but now, I've just gone and thrown a wolf among the chickens. OP, what is the big mystery here? The answer to your question is bolded. You never returned her affections so why are you wondering why she's gone a bit cool? It's obvious. She understood you weren't so into her so she backed off. Smart girl, if you ask me. I'm not sure why you're so confused about this. And you are too worried about your perceived image. Did you really want to message her, or did you do so to save face in front of your friends? She didn't reply immediately because she already sensed your distance. Also, it was Friday night and she could've been out having a good time. You're not her numero uno priority. And I highly doubt you've committed some huge social faux-pas that will make you the subject of gossip. I don't think anyone will really care that much, to be totally honest. It's not that interesting. You are completely over-thinking and over-dramatizing this one. I'm getting the impression that you care less about going out with her than with what people might think of you and maybe that your ego is bruised a bit. Edited April 11, 2015 by ExpatInItaly 1
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 OP, what is the big mystery here? The answer to your question is bolded. You never returned her affections so why are you wondering why she's gone a bit cool? It's obvious. She understood you weren't so into her so she backed off. Smart girl, if you ask me. I'm not sure why you're so confused about this. And you are too worried about your perceived image. Did you really want to message her, or did you do so to save face in front of your friends? She didn't reply immediately because she already sensed your distance. Also, it was Friday night and she could've been out having a good time. You're not her numero uno priority. And I highly doubt you've committed some huge social faux-pas that will make you the subject of gossip. I don't think anyone will really care that much, to be totally honest. It's not that interesting. You are completely over-thinking and over-dramatizing this one. I'm getting the impression that you care less about going out with her than with what people might think of you and maybe that your ego is bruised a bit. ^^Well said! And pretty much nuff said too. OP...get over yourself... jeez.
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