Takes More Courage to Hide Feelings From Crush Than to Reveal Them

[hamlet95]

Speaking as a 34 year old man I believe it takes more strength and courage to hide my feelings from a woman that I have a crush on than to wear my feelings on my sleeve. A strong man keeps his feelings private at least until it has been clearly established that this woman feels the same way.

 

What do you think? Concealing my feelings and even going so far to pretend that I don't like her takes a lot of courage. I feel miserable on the inside seeing her face at work and knowing that a relationship is just not possible.

 

I have never talked to a single soul outside of this forum about my crush and I intend to keep it that way. Telling even 1 person in the offline world is risky as my revelation could leak and get back to her somehow.

 

But this crush has been effecting my physical body. Some days I go on binge eating to comfort myself and other days I hardly eat anything as I don't have the appetite. I would rather be sharing a meal with her.

Edited April 11, 2015 by hamlet95

[Tayla]

If either of you are in committed relations, then I suggest you find other strengths to overcome this fancy.

 

I prefer the "get real" approach in life, so hiding such seems like deception not courage. Sure it takes some level of self discipline yet so does being willing to put yourself out there.

 

What is the real reason you aren't forthright with her?

[hamlet95]

We're both single.

[Tayla]

yup, it appears that will be that way too....

[hamlet95]

Honesty does not always mean revealing every internal thought and feeling you have. Some things are better kept private simply because revealing that information would not benefit the other person. So I think there's a difference between honesty vs. revealing every internal thought.

[hamlet95]

I even had a dream the other night that I mustered up enough courage to ask her out on a date and in the dream she was very enthusiastic and said "I was wondering what took you so long".

 

I'm not really an expert on dreams but I'm just going to assume that it was nothing more than just a good dream. Good dreams are manifestations of wishful thinking. I admit it is wishful thinking on my part to hear that kind of response from her.

[Tayla]

you are absolutely right! Keep this for yourself....Being honest with yourself is key. welcome to the forum !

[William]

Since this thread has responses, the ban of one of our hydras finds it closed but retained.