avacado Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Obviously, no one but myself can answer that. And most of you would just ask me, "Well, is she the one", but that's always been a very difficult question for me to answer. I've never dated someone who I knew to be a perfect match for me and I don't see clear cut answers in life, especially when it comes to romance. But my current girlfriend of a year and a half is pretty great. I'm more attracted to her than my ex, she's more sociable, intelligent, and vibrant, and she likes doing a lot of what I like doing. I don't want to lose her. But she just told me that she wants to move to Vietnam for her work in a year and she wants me to go with her. I love where I live, I like my job and for once could see it turning into a good career. I want a family soon-ish, and I don't see how globetrotting in places where I might not be able to carve a career or find stability would let me reach my goals. But of course, it could be a great decision. Life could become much more interesting, the relationship could deepen, I might look back in a few years and be so thankful that I took a risk and chose a path that wasn't so comfortable. And she does want a family, too, we could do that it another country. Have any of you been in a similar situation? Or can offer any advice? Thank you.
StalwartMind Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I'd always encourage people to try an adventure, especially if they are somewhat keen on the idea. Many adults probably regret many decisions throughout their life of what they did or didn't do. No matter what you should strongly consider something if like I said it does have some sort of appeal. Personally I like the idea of eventually being able to live and move between at least two cities in different countries. This may not appeal to everyone or especially if you want to be in one place and/or your partner prefers to be in just one location due to family or whatever. There's every chance you can find a job and a good life too elsewhere, even if there might be cultural differences, if you are a person who typically adapts well to new things, then that is a huge plus too. As amazing as it is/would be to meet "the one", there are no guarantees of anything ever working out like that or for your entire life. This is all the more reason why experiences of all sorts can perhaps help you find more inner calm no matter how your life will turn out. None of us know but we should always do our best to ensure we are choosing the paths that are the most interesting to us/our family/those we hold dear. Encouragement from me to do it but I typically encourage people do try things because it's the best way to learn yourself even better too. 1
Davey L Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Do it! It might work out or it might not. But either way in the future you won't regret it.
casey.lives Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 yes. if it's something you both long to do.. why not. No sense talking about dreams if you don't try and make them happen
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 You need to get into the details with her of if you'll be living together, whether you'll be living ALONE together, and then you need to get on a real estate website and look at the cost of living and also job sites to see how hard it will be to work there. Also, you must check Vietnam's laws regarding immigration because there are some countries who are not granted visas, and there may be further restrictions or bans if you do not have a job or school waiting there.
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