nab0610 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well, I'm back to the dating scene. I joined this site almost 8 years ago and I found much of the advice to be helpful, but I fell off the radar for a long time. I havent dated a girl seriously in almost 2 years, but this girl I recently met has me spinning and now I'm stuck... First we met for drinks, a week later a casual dinner, 2 weeks after another dinner/bar afterwards and made out for a couple of min b4 car ride and a couple of min at destination. I then asked her if she wanted to hang out afterwork, she sort of flaked saying she was tired, but she wanted to meet for brunch. Figured it was probably true. We met for brunch at her proposed location she paid and refilled my water cup twice, then we made out for a couple of min in the parking lot b4 she left for work. She texts me that night and I respond. I text her the next day no response. She texts me the next day and says she doesn't feel this relationship is going to progress to the next level. I said OK have fun on your trip and she responded with a paragraph about some random crap we'd talked about. I never responded. This was a week ago, I havent heard anything back. I'm somewhat baffled as this was a girl who was practically sticking her tongue down my throat 10 days ago and now nothing. Were both upper 20's and well educated. I don't think she'd just dive bomb because of a lack of sex early in the relationship. It seemed we had a lot to talk about and had been holding hands, hugging, kissing in all recent encounters then #faceplant... Should I bother attempting to re-initiate contact with a blurb about something we had talked about and she said she was going to do now that its been 10 days. I know shes a bit of a stubborn woman, but I wonder if its even worth the time. My gut says to send a message because I have nothing to lose and everything to gain, but my manhood and coaching says its not worth my time....
Mrin Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Honestly dude? Who knows. Could be she wanted to be single on her trip. Or her friends might have wigged her out about you. Or she met a guy or got serious with one of the other guys she was multidating. But I would definitely NOT contact her. If there is any contact to be had - she has to initiate it. 1
Gary S Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 She would have never said what she said if there was any chance of a relationship with her. If you continue to contact her, all you find there is more rejection and pain. 1
Author nab0610 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 She would have never said what she said if there was any chance of a relationship with her. If you continue to contact her, all you find there is more rejection and pain. That was my thought, i guess the part of my mind that questions this is the fact that she openly admitted she's a very stubborn person. I guess if she really liked me eventually she'll break that stubbornness and come out of her shell though, which would give me pocket aces
Author nab0610 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 possibly never had a girl tell me that, but everyone is different and expects differently
fitnessfan365 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well it's not really a tactful convo you can have with someone. I mean there's no polite non awkward way to tell someone they're a bad kisser. But what a woman will do if she didn't like it, is not contact you again after.
Author nab0610 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 true why bother contacting me after the 3rd date to make a 4th date and why bother contacting me after the 4th date... we are talking about women though...
TheBathWater Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) I wouldn't contact her again. If she contacts you though, you could probably tell her to come over to your place. Edited April 11, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Explicit remarks redacted
Redhead14 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Well, I'm back to the dating scene. I joined this site almost 8 years ago and I found much of the advice to be helpful, but I fell off the radar for a long time. I havent dated a girl seriously in almost 2 years, but this girl I recently met has me spinning and now I'm stuck... First we met for drinks, a week later a casual dinner, 2 weeks after another dinner/bar afterwards and made out for a couple of min b4 car ride and a couple of min at destination. I then asked her if she wanted to hang out afterwork, she sort of flaked saying she was tired, but she wanted to meet for brunch. Figured it was probably true. We met for brunch at her proposed location she paid and refilled my water cup twice, then we made out for a couple of min in the parking lot b4 she left for work. She texts me that night and I respond. I text her the next day no response. She texts me the next day and says she doesn't feel this relationship is going to progress to the next level. I said OK have fun on your trip and she responded with a paragraph about some random crap we'd talked about. I never responded. This was a week ago, I havent heard anything back. I'm somewhat baffled as this was a girl who was practically sticking her tongue down my throat 10 days ago and now nothing. Were both upper 20's and well educated. I don't think she'd just dive bomb because of a lack of sex early in the relationship. It seemed we had a lot to talk about and had been holding hands, hugging, kissing in all recent encounters then #faceplant... Should I bother attempting to re-initiate contact with a blurb about something we had talked about and she said she was going to do now that its been 10 days. I know shes a bit of a stubborn woman, but I wonder if its even worth the time. My gut says to send a message because I have nothing to lose and everything to gain, but my manhood and coaching says its not worth my time.... She texts me the next day and says she doesn't feel this relationship is going to progress to the next level You only went out with her 3 times, how do you know she is stubborn? She should have told you that at brunch. Probably wimped out. However, she did tell you straight up. I'd leave it alone. 1
smackie9 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 There could be a number of reasons why she called it off. At least she did! and not go ghost on you without any kind of explanation. Obviously she didn't want to give you exact details as to save your feelings from getting hurt. Accept it and more on.
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 She just decided she's not into you. She gave it a shot, went out with you, made out with you, and in the end, wasn't interested. Don't recontact her. Nothing good can come of it. She'll think you just want to be friends and then you'll be stuck doing whatever she wants and no romance.
Author nab0610 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 She texts me the next day and says she doesn't feel this relationship is going to progress to the next level You only went out with her 3 times, how do you know she is stubborn? She should have told you that at brunch. Probably wimped out. However, she did tell you straight up. I'd leave it alone. Your probably right its just not the signs I got, which is what has me all thrown off... She setup brunch then initiated to kiss me when we met and she moved to put her arm around me when we were walking back to our cars after brunch. Last I checked those are signs a girl is into you. Then she initiated texting me that night. Only thing that makes any sense to me is another guy entered into the picture the following day or I'm just blind and somehow said something that turned her off in the few texts we exchanged that night. Ah well doesn't do any good to read into innuendos repeatedly and hope to see something that may no longer be there while your standing there cross eyed wondering what happened.
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