hamzaaaa Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 I met this girl in July 2014 and dated her for 2 months. I haven't dated much previously and I lost my virginity to her. She knew it too. Things were going great until she broke it off (end of August) when she told she was still in contact with the guys she was involved in 'casual sex' relationships before. I asked her if she could stop that and she thought I was being controlling. I tried to get her back but she didn't care. After that I gave up. Then after a few weeks, she started messaging me again. Said things like she was missing me...if she has a problem, I'm the one she wants to speak to. Also said that she stopped contacting those guys she's had casual flings with. We kept talking on/off for about 6 months. But it was always her to initiate contact. Sometimes she would message me after a week, sometimes 2 weeks and sometimes after a month! We also decided to meet up again a few times but it never really happened. Now it's April 2015. A couple of days ago, she messaged me saying she was in my town (we live in different cities) and asked me if I wanted to hangout as friends. Yesterday we met up after 7 months. It wasn't awkward and we had a fun time. She kept staring at me the whole time. In the end, we hugged and it was about 6-8 seconds long. I felt she wanted to kiss... I went for it but she said no...and moved her face to the side and I kissed her on the cheek, then she walked away. I haven't heard from her since then. I haven't messaged her either. Although she hasn't been off my mind for even a minute haha Now I'm very confused about what she wants. I could tell she wanted to kiss me too but refused to for whatever reason... It's not that I've been waiting for her to come back for the last 7 months. But after seeing her that day, I think I've got some feelings for her again. Any advice on what should I do? Wait for her or just move on and cut her out my life? Thanks!
Gary S Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 If she had integrity and loved you (and you dated long enough for that), she would have dropped those other guys in the first place.
smackie9 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 You are friend zoned.....she just used you as her emotional tampon. As soon as you got all sappy and romantic, she knew she had to get away from you because she can't reciprocate.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 If she wanted to kiss you, she would have. Stop living in denial and move on. 1
Redhead14 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I met this girl in July 2014 and dated her for 2 months. I haven't dated much previously and I lost my virginity to her. She knew it too. Things were going great until she broke it off (end of August) when she told she was still in contact with the guys she was involved in 'casual sex' relationships before. I asked her if she could stop that and she thought I was being controlling. I tried to get her back but she didn't care. After that I gave up. Then after a few weeks, she started messaging me again. Said things like she was missing me...if she has a problem, I'm the one she wants to speak to. Also said that she stopped contacting those guys she's had casual flings with. We kept talking on/off for about 6 months. But it was always her to initiate contact. Sometimes she would message me after a week, sometimes 2 weeks and sometimes after a month! We also decided to meet up again a few times but it never really happened. Now it's April 2015. A couple of days ago, she messaged me saying she was in my town (we live in different cities) and asked me if I wanted to hangout as friends. Yesterday we met up after 7 months. It wasn't awkward and we had a fun time. She kept staring at me the whole time. In the end, we hugged and it was about 6-8 seconds long. I felt she wanted to kiss... I went for it but she said no...and moved her face to the side and I kissed her on the cheek, then she walked away. I haven't heard from her since then. I haven't messaged her either. Although she hasn't been off my mind for even a minute haha Now I'm very confused about what she wants. I could tell she wanted to kiss me too but refused to for whatever reason... It's not that I've been waiting for her to come back for the last 7 months. But after seeing her that day, I think I've got some feelings for her again. Any advice on what should I do? Wait for her or just move on and cut her out my life? Thanks! Now I'm very confused about what she wants. - You're confused because she is confused. She asked you if you wanted to hangout as friends. Call her, have a conversation and see what she says. Communicate.
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Honestly, I don't know why you're confused. She broke up with you, so that is her clearly telling you "I am no longer interested in being romantic with you." She doesn't HATE you. She just isn't interested in your romantically. So because she doesn't hate you, she is being friendly as far as keeping in touch and again, she came right out and said "as a friend," which means, "I am not interested in being romantic with you." So there is nothing ambiguous here. She is willing to occasionally say hi to you as a friend, but she has no interest in you as a boyfriend, and she has left no room for doubt about that, because women find it hard to be that blunt with men that they might hurt their feelings, and she did it -- twice -- and told you straight up no.
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