Author neowulf Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 Did you kiss her or no desire to at all? Sometimes the kiss can be a game changer in a good or bad way. Nope. Nothing. No desire at all. As I said in an earlier post though, raw "desire" appears to be becoming a bit of a rarity for me as I get older. When I was younger, it was very quickly to tell if I was attracted. Now... I feel neutral a hell of a lot more than I do attracted :-/
Leigh 87 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Nope. Nothing. No desire at all. As I said in an earlier post though, raw "desire" appears to be becoming a bit of a rarity for me as I get older. When I was younger, it was very quickly to tell if I was attracted. Now... I feel neutral a hell of a lot more than I do attracted :-/ Me too. That's why I have been on so many first dates but rarely a second. I prefer to masturbate and have my good mates as opposed to having a romantic partner who may be a friend but who I feel no fire or passion for. I'd rather remain single forever and enjoy passionate flings with men I'm actually attracted to than to into a passionless relationship.
smg15 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Just one. I had one of the best dates of my life, I was respected, had a nice dinner, got along with the guy (who was pleasing to the eye) and even had a good night kiss. All of those things and I just was not interested in a relationship with him. First and last time I saw him. you had a date with a guy where you had a nice dinner, he was eye candy, and yall kissed and you wasn't interested in a relationship? I don't even want to date anymore after seeing this post. lol
casey.lives Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 i have never experienced attraction easily. i get attracted by different things. however, i do have practical needs i look for before i consider exploring someone and the endless possibilities
TheBathWater Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 So LS, how many dates would you think is "reasonable" before deciding "I'm sorry, there's nothing there". In my experience, a man will go on a date with a woman because he likes her, and a woman will go on a date with a man to figure out if she likes him.
wb1988 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Two dates max. Sometimes the 1st date might not fly off, go really well or maybe it was just a quick coffee meet up. However if by the end of the second there is nothing then you should move on — why bother trying to create something from nothing when you can get it readily somewhere else.
BluEyeL Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 For me, if I think the guy is a good person and might be relationship material, 4-5 dates. But even when I was young, I never got attracted to someone at the first meet. So I do know I need time. That's why there is no way I can have sex on a first date, no matter what. I just can't. I need the time. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Depends on the type of relationship I'm looking for, I guess: if it's a real LTR I'm after then I'd need more than 1 date to get to know them better. If not, the first 10 minutes will do. Not sure how true it is, but I read somewhere you can learn to be attracted to anyone if you take the time to get to know them. I've never had to the patience to test that theory myself, but there could be some truth in it...
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