Fourth Date

[Diezel]

In all honesty, I just think you shouldn't be dating or you are going at it through the wrong venue. Your last few threads about your dating experiences reflect an insecurity in what YOU bring to the table versus your expectations of whoever you are going out with.

 

To me, it just reads like you are sabotaging potential relationship after potential relationship in seek of the holy grail.

[SycamoreCircle]

OP, the problems you are encountering speak more to your *own issues,* .... rather anything "wrong" with the women..

 

And until you recognize that, you will continue to encounter these same *problems* again and again....

I agree and feel that I've expressed that in previous messages on this post.

 

Update: I spoke to her on the phone. It's ended. She said, "thanks for wasting my time."

[katiegrl]

 

Have I not said that I'm emotionally stuck? I'd hardly call someone who is looking for something to fill the void, going on blind dates, and being careful not to hurt or mislead people a commitment-phobe.

 

If that's true, then end it with this chick..you are NOT into her. Obviously!

 

THAT would be the *honest* and kindest thing to do...

 

You are not *scared* that's a cop out. You are just not interested.

 

Going forward, the honest thing to do would be to stop leading women on ...by continuing to date them when you have little to no interest.

 

You may not intend to hurt people (women you date) ...but you *are* hurting them..by continuing to date them..and then finding flaws and criticizing them for those flaws.

 

You say you are honest...with others. I beg to differ. Try being honest with YOURSELF first... and OWN your issues...and stop blaming everyone else.

 

Also, research commitment phobia...you are a classic case my friend...

Edited April 11, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[katiegrl]

I agree and feel that I've expressed that in previous messages on this post.

 

Update: I spoke to her on the phone. It's ended. She said, "thanks for wasting my time."

 

She does have a point.

 

But I am glad you ended it....

[SycamoreCircle]

In all honesty, I just think you shouldn't be dating or you are going at it through the wrong venue. Your last few threads about your dating experiences reflect an insecurity in what YOU bring to the table versus your expectations of whoever you are going out with.

 

To me, it just reads like you are sabotaging potential relationship after potential relationship in seek of the holy grail.

I agree. Somehow I must convince myself that what I had with my girlfriend before things fell apart was not real.

[William]

Folks, let's focus in on this dating interaction as the topic. Past threads, posting reputations and contents of private messages are *NOT* to be discussed on our open forums. You may of course discuss them privately. Thanks in advance for your compliance with this moderation directive.

[SycamoreCircle]

If that's true, then end it with this chick..you are NOT into her. Obviously!

 

THAT would be the *honest* and kindest thing to do...

 

You are not *scared* that's a cop out. You are just not interested.

 

Going forward, the honest thing to do would be to stop leading women on ...by continuing to date them when you have little to no interest.

 

You may not intend to hurt people (women you date) ...but you *are* hurting them..by continuing to date them..and then finding flaws and criticizing them for those flaws.

 

You say you are honest...with others. I beg to differ. Try being honest with YOURSELF first... and OWN your issues...and stop blaming everyone else.

 

Also, research commitment phobia...you are a classic case my friend...

So, when you meet a guy online and have a date with him---there's no tally in your head of his good and bad qualities? There's no surmising of your compatibility? Am I so wrong for doing it after Date 4 than Date 3, Date 2, Date 1?

 

Fault me for appraising women the way I do, but I'm sure everyone has thought "oh they're too _______, they're too ___________ with potential love interests."

[elaine567]

I agree and feel that I've expressed that in previous messages on this post.

 

Update: I spoke to her on the phone. It's ended. She said, "thanks for wasting my time."

 

Well that is what you essentially did, she didn't suddenly become big and blocky and not your type sexually, she was that, from date one.

 

I agree with the others, you self sabotaged again and in the process led this woman on to think things were going well and she was getting somewhere and maybe things were going well actually if we were to analyse it objectively, but your sudden cold feet ended it and she is hurt.

[SycamoreCircle]

No more dating for me. I'm going on permanent hiatus until otherwise noted.

[William]

In an effort to prevent any more members from being suspended, and since the thread starter has indicated a resolution to their issues, thread closed.