stephon3mn Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 My story might be one of a kind. So basically, a girl I work with ended up falling in love with me. I fell in love with her and we maintained a outside relationship on the sneak. I know this is totally wrong, but our connection was so on point. She literally was like my other half. Same age, no kids. She works full-time and goes to school for nursing. It gradually got to where we loved each other and it seemed like she was going to leave her man after she finished her nursing school. This was going on for a year and a half. She talked about kids, growing old, etc. She called me her soulmate. It seemed like she was only with this other man as an anchor for financial support. Everything was almost perfect, and I was hoping she would leave him this April when she finishes her school. We talked every single day all the time, morning to night. But now, outta nowhere, she just stopped talking to me. She told me that she decided she fell in love with me at the time but wanted to work things out with her man. As far as i know, her bf broke up with her for the moment but they are trying things according to her. and i know there is another guy who is just a friend she swears to god/ I know we were both in the wrong but it felt and still feels like we're supposed to be with each other. I'm emotionally invested; she's only the second girl I've ever told that I love. I just don't know what to do. We both agreed we were perfect for each other and soul-mates. She says she never wants to lose me as a friend and wants to go back to how we were before we got intimate. How do I handle our work situation? I see her everyday. I'm trying to get over her but seeing her always...
PegNosePete Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 Cut her off. Only talk to her when absolutely necessary for work, and keep it totally business-like and professional. Don't discuss personal issues at all. And in future don't get involved with women who have boyfriends/husbands. 4
seminoles84 Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 . It seemed like she was only with this other man as an anchor for financial support. Ugh this just pisses me off. 2
Satu Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 All you can do is to go no contact and work through your feelings. At work you should be polite and civil with no emotional intimacy.
Author stephon3mn Posted April 10, 2015 Author Posted April 10, 2015 And its like i dealt with all the bull**** while she had a bf. and now next guy she meets gets a clean slate.Its not fair
ZiggyZoo Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 You don't think that's fair? Hmmmm, wonder how the guy who supported her through nursing school felt. He didn't get the benefit of knowing that she was involved with two guys, and kept on being there for her and paying her bills while you got to have all the fun. I think what's happening now is fair enough. 2
Karin2rinkashi Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 My story might be one of a kind. So basically, a girl I work with ended up falling in love with me. I fell in love with her and we maintained a outside relationship on the sneak. I know this is totally wrong, but our connection was so on point. She literally was like my other half. Same age, no kids. She works full-time and goes to school for nursing. It gradually got to where we loved each other and it seemed like she was going to leave her man after she finished her nursing school. This was going on for a year and a half. She talked about kids, growing old, etc. She called me her soulmate. It seemed like she was only with this other man as an anchor for financial support. Everything was almost perfect, and I was hoping she would leave him this April when she finishes her school. We talked every single day all the time, morning to night. But now, outta nowhere, she just stopped talking to me. She told me that she decided she fell in love with me at the time but wanted to work things out with her man. As far as i know, her bf broke up with her for the moment but they are trying things according to her. and i know there is another guy who is just a friend she swears to god/ I know we were both in the wrong but it felt and still feels like we're supposed to be with each other. I'm emotionally invested; she's only the second girl I've ever told that I love. I just don't know what to do. We both agreed we were perfect for each other and soul-mates. She says she never wants to lose me as a friend and wants to go back to how we were before we got intimate. How do I handle our work situation? I see her everyday. I'm trying to get over her but seeing her always... So she was willing to leave another person for YOU. WHY did you think that she won't do the same to you for anther guy? BECAUSE YOU ARE SPECIAL FOR HER? We all think that WE ARE THE SPECIAL ONE, until we are NOT! Tough lesson! Move on!
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