Got heartbroken twice by same person.. Feel empty can't stop thinking about him.

[Amy77]

So was dating this guy for months and months until I found out he was seeing someone else, whom he eventually chose over me and broke my heart, went NC for 30 days til I drunk text him last month, and then we started being in contact again. Few weeks later he admits me he is now official with that other girl who he was seeing behind my back, but wants me and wants to break up with her. I stupidly believe him and we met up a few times which led to me loving him all over again. He text me Monday saying he doesn't want to see me anymore because he loves her and wants to be with her, the same story happening all over again and now once again I am broken I love him so much even after everything the thoughts of him with someone else make me sick I just want him why did he screw me so badly and how will I be able move on once and for all?

[stillafool]

This happened because you let it. When he chose the other girl over you you should have left him alone for good. I'm so sorry you are hurting but I hope you don't sleep with him again. If he wanted you as a girlfriend you would have been his first choice. Go NC (delete all his info) and heal. You will be okay.

[seminoles84]

Aren't you the one that snuck into his house to hook up with him (assiting in his cheating habits)? Sorry, maybe I'm wrong.. hard to keep everyone's stories straight.

 

Sounds like you both are toxic for each other. NC, move on.

[Amy77]

Good memory? Yes that was me as I stated there we met up several times but each time he gave me the illusion that he was going to break up with her and missed and loved me etc... I just feel so stupid how could someone I love hurt me so bad it feels like il never be able break away from him he is all I think about..

[stillafool]

You have to break away from him. He doesn't respect you. You sneaking into their home to have sex with him is showing him how desperate you are to have him. Men usually want women they have to work for and you're doing all the work and chasing. Please get a hold of yourself and realize how this guy is treating you. He's never going to be in a relationship with you but will take the sex from time to time. It is flattering to a man when a woman throws herself at him but men rarely if ever make those women their girlfriend.

[Amy77]

Sneaking into his house makes me sound crazy, for people who didn't read my previous thread he asked me to his house and I had to sneak in so his mom wouldn't catch me.. Should I text him my feelings because I have so many things I need to say to him and just want some closure I suppose I just want him to acknowledge how much he has hurt me? Also do you think he is happy in this new relationship?

[FortunateSon]

Don't text him your feelings, don't text him anything for that matter. Cut all contact with him and find someone who makes you a priority, not an option.

[Karin2rinkashi]

aren't you the one that snuck into his house to hook up with him (assiting in his cheating habits)? Sorry, maybe i'm wrong.. Hard to keep everyone's stories straight.

 

Sounds like you both are toxic for each other. Nc, move on.

 

that recall!!!!

[stillafool]

Sneaking into his house makes me sound crazy, for people who didn't read my previous thread he asked me to his house and I had to sneak in so his mom wouldn't catch me.. Should I text him my feelings because I have so many things I need to say to him and just want some closure I suppose I just want him to acknowledge how much he has hurt me? Also do you think he is happy in this new relationship?

 

Yes he is happy in his new relationship because he's still with her. He had a chance to break up with her and be with you but he didn't do it. It's clear it's her that he wants. Don't contact him for closure because he can't give you that. Any questions you have for him will bring up more questions in your mind that won't be answered. You have to find your own closure he can't give it to you. Leave him alone, go NC and heal.

[Toodaloo]

how could someone I love hurt me so bad

 

Because they didn't love you and the idea you have in your head that they did was a fantasy.

 

Time to put yourself back together, get yourself into a better frame of mind so next time make better choices and date men who really do care about you.

[seminoles84]

that recall!!!!

 

Haha apparently I spend way too much time on here.

[ZiggyZoo]

Seriously? The answer you get from here will always be "Stop f*cking him, get ahold of your self-respect, and go NC". He doesn't have respect for either you or his girlfriend, WHY are you wasting your time with him? And how can you say that you love someone who would treat you like this? This whole situation is sad, you need to realize that you're worth more than a piece on the side, which is all you'll ever be to him. He's never going to make you his real girlfriend, not when he knows that you'll still come around even if you have to sneak into his room to do it.

 

And as far as trying to discuss your feelings with him? Don't waste your time, he doesn't care. If he did, there's no way he'd be using you like this. Just write this mess off as a bad experience, and learn not to settle for this sort of thing in the future.