Chi townD Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Dude, you said it yourself. You have 1% chance that, that breadcrumb has to do with reconciliation. ONE PERCENT! I don't think I would want to bet the farm on those odds and blow all the healing that has happened over 1%. Besides, SHE LIVES IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY NOW!!! And since that breadcrumb, you haven't even heard from her again since then. You hit her with a little of shock and awe when she discovered you blocked her. But, now she's adjusted and has moved on again without a second thought. If she REALLY wanted to reconcile, you would have heard from her again. When a girl has her mind set on something, nothing will stop her from trying to get what she wants. 2
Lovingme81 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I'm confused. If a person wants to contact their ex and reconcile but they have been blocked on everything how would they be able to get back with their ex? I'm just wondering.
Chi townD Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 In normal circumstances, what's stopping a girl or a guy from showing up at their door, or standing out by their car as they get off from work? Happened to one guy over on the infidelity subforum. He got to work at 5:30 in the morning and she was there waiting for him. This case is a little different. She moved to another country. If she desired him that bad or if there was a possibility that she wanted to be with him, she would have never left. But, she dumped him, told him she didn't want to speak to him and moved to another country. To me, that shows a strong determination NOT to want to reconcile. 3
Lovingme81 Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 In normal circumstances, what's stopping a girl or a guy from showing up at their door, or standing out by their car as they get off from work? Happened to one guy over on the infidelity subforum. He got to work at 5:30 in the morning and she was there waiting for him. This case is a little different. She moved to another country. If she desired him that bad or if there was a possibility that she wanted to be with him, she would have never left. But, she dumped him, told him she didn't want to speak to him and moved to another country. To me, that shows a strong determination NOT to want to reconcile. I understand, I guess I never thought of that lol
dangerbang Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 Good on you buddy, you dealt with that like a champ. Just make sure you don't respond now, I mean what's the point anyway. I remember a similar incident happened to me when I was broken up with a few years ago. I managed to go NC for about 2 months and then she tried calling me a couple of times. I was in a park with some friends at the time, and on her third attempt one of them said oh go on answer it. So I did. It boiled down to her being depressed and hungover and asking how I could not even let her know I was ok for 2 months. I responded by asking, "if I wasn't ok, what would you do about it? Would you come and look after me?". She didn't have an answer to that. It's purely their ego looking to be soothed, pay no attention to such nonsense.
Twigyy Posted April 22, 2015 Posted April 22, 2015 I think you've passed sort of a life test. You've gotten the power back that you deserved. Happiness is waiting for you. Hope I can find mine too. Good luck!
Author ManyDissapoint Posted April 22, 2015 Author Posted April 22, 2015 In normal circumstances, what's stopping a girl or a guy from showing up at their door, or standing out by their car as they get off from work? Happened to one guy over on the infidelity subforum. He got to work at 5:30 in the morning and she was there waiting for him. This case is a little different. She moved to another country. If she desired him that bad or if there was a possibility that she wanted to be with him, she would have never left. But, she dumped him, told him she didn't want to speak to him and moved to another country. To me, that shows a strong determination NOT to want to reconcile. Not exactly how it went down but the point is true that in my particular case reconciliation is indeed impossible when you look at the facts.
HeBa Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 i like short Posts , long ones give so much details and make me feel lost in the middle of reading . never thought i could give an advise here but here i am i hope you didn't contact her or replied to her breadcrumb lead . i relate to your situation somehow as my ex left the country too actually immigrated am on NC for almost 30 Days now. and he waited till he is finally there to breakup. i didnt get breadcrumb yet and i dont think i will get any soon BUT i really like your replies and the way you state your opinion about the whole process . please don't fail me or anybody who like me looking up to your strong attitude about that . Stay Strong .
Author ManyDissapoint Posted May 5, 2015 Author Posted May 5, 2015 i like short Posts , long ones give so much details and make me feel lost in the middle of reading . never thought i could give an advise here but here i am i hope you didn't contact her or replied to her breadcrumb lead . i relate to your situation somehow as my ex left the country too actually immigrated am on NC for almost 30 Days now. and he waited till he is finally there to breakup. i didnt get breadcrumb yet and i dont think i will get any soon BUT i really like your replies and the way you state your opinion about the whole process . please don't fail me or anybody who like me looking up to your strong attitude about that . Stay Strong . Thanks for your words of encouragement. I have not responded to this breadcrumb or contacted her in any way, and I will not. No contact since December 23rd, and I have zero information about what she is doing and I plan to keep it that way. You can do it too, and you must.
Author ManyDissapoint Posted August 31, 2015 Author Posted August 31, 2015 Supposedly she was staring at my facebook profile thumbnail (that's all she could see) as a way to help her get over the breakup, so she noticed it right away when my profile disappeared. Sounds like bullcrap to me, and by that I mean her reasoning. She was just trying to spy to the best of her ability in order to keep tabs on me for her own ego.
TheMixtape Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 So glad I saw this thread and read through its replies. Every so often my ex will try to get my attention on Twitter and it does make me want to reach out, and it does mess with my head. After reading most of these replies, I can see that she doesn't want me - it's all just a game.
Horxcrucz Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 After a month, my ex text me last night about stuff I left at hers: "You must have deleted me off Facebook so just got your number, I've still got your CDs and that but I haven't been round (male mutual friend) for a while to give him them so was just wondering if you wanted to pick them up sometime or I could drop them off.. Or if you don't wanna see me that much just have to wait till I go round (male mutual friend) next" I ignored this text. Later that day her best friend messaged me on Facebook asking if I'm okay and will I reply to my exs text... Which I thought was strange. Is this a "breadcrumb" and did I do the right thing in not replying? I don't know what to think of the text and don't want to overthink it. What would be the wisest thing to do, assuming I am not sure whether I want to reconcile?
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