Americanlova Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 (edited) Hey guys, Ill try to keep it short but pretty much its been a couple months since I broke up with my girlfriend. I can't stop thinking about her and just wish I could or we would be back together, anyways heres a little background I met her on the second night of university. I had some friends in my room and while looking across the room, I saw her. It was like something from a movie when everything stops for a second and I couldn't take my eyes off her. I'm not usually one to go up and talk to every girl I see but this one is different. She wasn't hot or cute, she was beautiful and I just wanted to get to know her. I talked to her for a bit and we would eventually become decent friends as she lived in my res. A month or so we hooked-up one night. I was estatic, telling all my friends about how amazing the night was. Time moved on and it became a bit akward, bit it was sorted out and in a couple of months we were in a "relationship". Even though we didn't hangout that much during the week, we would text alot and hangout on the weekends (usually after nights out) A couple months pass by and we start dating for real. I've never been one to settle down but when she gave me the ultimatum to lock it down or let her go, I could not pass up on the opportunity.Our relationship was amazing and by the middle of the summer we found ourselves deeply in love. I would look into her eyes and ask myself how did I get this lucky. Anyways, second year came around and all was good for the first month or so, but after that things started to change. We started to fight all the time because our friend groups were seperating and such. And then one night we talked and mutually agreed that we take a break for a "unspecified period of time" . This could be a month, year or even 5 but thats what we agreed on. I wasn't to upset at this point because I thought we would be back in no time. Looking back on this, I really wished I acted differently following the "break-up". One night, drunk I saw her at the bar and tried to talk to her but that did not end up well. I let it be for a while and stupidly texted her a month later. It ended up with her saying that she thinks its best that we treat it as if were broken up. I was devistated after this. I just lost the girl of my dreams and began acting irrationally for a couple of months. But a couple months later I got my head straight and by this time, it was too late - she had found someone else. They weren't in a relationship but they have been together for the past little bit. I just wish I could have the first month back with my mindset now as I would have told her how much she meant to me and that I took her for granted. For now, I know that its for the best to leave it but I still want her back. We are both doing our own thing over the next year. After ignoring her at social gatherings over the past couple months I finally approached her and told her that I think it would be great if we could be friends. We agreed and talk to each other occasionally. Is it a good idea for me to "try to win her back" after we do our own thing? I mean im going to go out and do my best to find someone else, but if that fails and were both single is it worth a shot? I have felt this bond between us since the day we met and I just wish for a second chance because this time, I know I wouldnt take her for granted. Edited April 10, 2015 by Americanlova
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 No it's not a good thing for you to try to win her back after you do your own thing. She has already moved on to a new relationship. Part of your thing should be growing in a different direction from her. If you are focused on some arbitrary future point when you think you can go chase her again, you will miss all the new opportunities that come your way. She is your past. Leave her there.
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