MIAho Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 About a week ago, I went out with a woman. When I tried to make plans for a 2nd date, she told that she wasn't sure if we were a good match but said that might change if we were to go out again. I already know that means there won't be a second date and I don't want to waste my time pursuing somebody that seems to be "half-interested" in seeing me again, especially since I met somebody who seems to really be into me. Do I need to tell her that I don't want to see her again or would not contacting her again be the better option?
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Don't waste your time to even contact her, especially if she has not mentioned going on a second date with you. 2
Satu Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Do nothing and don't even waste your time thinking about it. 4
fitnessfan365 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Dude, you don't owe her a thing. It's a woman that you had one date with, that basically blew you off. If a woman said to me "I'm not sure we're a good match but I might change my mind" I'd say "Don't bother. My mind is already made up on not wanting to see you again." You just need to have the balls to walk away from women that aren't worth your time. ALWAYS pursue women that show mutual interest. Anything less is a waste of time. 4
Vintage79 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I've told plenty of women that I won't see them again - it's not a big deal. Some seem to appreciate it, many don't care, and a few get pissy. In the end, if you don't want to go out with her again, I don't think it really matters what you do - telling her that, or not, doesn't really matter. I tell people if I'm not sure where they fall (i.e. want to see me again or not), just so they're not there left wondering. That said, I've never gone out with someone a second time, if after the first date they tell me they have no idea if they're interested. I have gone out a second time (and more), with people who you were either neutral towards me (or me towards them), but were excited to give it another whirl because they thought something was there, but the chemistry may not have been just right (i.e. first date behavior is frequently a bit curious/odd). Those second dates were predicated on genuine interest in seeing how things worked out, not a passing, "well, I'm not interested, but I guess I could see you if you really, really, really wanted to see me again" (i.e. someone who was just looking to pass the time and had nothing better to do)
Redhead14 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 About a week ago, I went out with a woman. When I tried to make plans for a 2nd date, she told that she wasn't sure if we were a good match but said that might change if we were to go out again. I already know that means there won't be a second date and I don't want to waste my time pursuing somebody that seems to be "half-interested" in seeing me again, especially since I met somebody who seems to really be into me. Do I need to tell her that I don't want to see her again or would not contacting her again be the better option? that might change if we were to go out again - to me that statement is similar to "I might grow to like you if you spent more money on me". If nothing else, it was obnoxious. Anyway, since you hadn't made plans for another date that night, just don't call her again. There is nothing owed after only 2 dates. 1
Diezel Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I think it'd be hilarious if you did tell her. But you shouldn't. 2
Mrin Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I would tell her if only for the perverse satisfaction of it. But honestly you certainly don't need to
GemmaUK Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Nope! Don't spare it a thought. You only went on one date so you don't owe her anything.
Toodaloo Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Do nothing and don't even waste your time thinking about it. This Don't bother. Waste your time, energy and money on someone who wants to waste theirs on you!
GTR King Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Id say move on. if she was intreated she would of said yes or made plans for 2nd date on the 1st date. she was letting you down nicely
Gary S Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I'd cut contact, why risk further rejection? How many times do you have to get burned to know a stove is hot? 1
KimmyBee Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 I wouldn't bother with her and if she was to ask for a second date then I wouldn't bother either. First impression is everything.
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