Author Toodaloo Posted April 11, 2015 Author Posted April 11, 2015 I feel I missed something. What happened with the date and the rain? The rain came and went away within twenty minutes during the morning. The date happened in the afternoon. We went for a lovely walk in my favourite woods which is about half way between us. He really is very shy/ quiet though. But also a bit fantastic in many ways. Its just really difficult to read him as he tends to have a nondescript expression on his face most of the time and he is so diplomatic and polite all the time. I know he has to be because of his job but it would be nice if he would show a few imperfections here and there so I can get to know him better. Polar opposite to me where I have to be very down to earth and blunt for work. No third date arranged but he has indicated that he wants to meet again. So I will let him take the lead on it and see where we go. Left with a hug and a quick peck on the lips this time rather than the cheek... Perhaps he does like me. Damn his smile is a heart melter. I love it when he smiles. He is just so sexy and has this gorgeous grin. With such dark smoldering eyes! He really is stunning. I love making him grin which he seems to do quite a bit when I am babbling on. Yeah I am pretty hooked on this one, but trying to keep my feet on the floor and my head out of the clouds. Possible date with No 3 next weekend. That one is quite a laugh but I dunno. I am a bit into my shy guy - I just wish I knew if he were all that keen on me or not. I flirt he doesn't flirt back... so it makes it difficult as I just do not know how to respond or how to move forward. He has said that he has no clue how to flirt though. So perhaps he just doesn't know how to flirt back? He doesn't pay compliments but he has listened and paid attention to everything I have said and remembered silly little details that I had forgotten I had told him about. He picked up quite a lot about my Granny and asked about her. That actually means the world to me because I adore my Granny and I am so very proud of her. I didn't think I had mentioned her that much but obviously I had? Still stuck. Still don't really know what to do. I know what I want to do but I think he would run for the hills if I did!!! 1
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Maybe he just feels crappy because he has a cold. Why he'd let rain stop him unless he had something outdoors planned he doesn't want to change is a puzzle. I believe I'd just tell him, Hope you get feeling better. If you want to do something, rain or shine, just call. 2
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 No third date arranged but he has indicated that he wants to meet again. So I will let him take the lead on it and see where we go. Left with a hug and a quick peck on the lips this time rather than the cheek... Perhaps he does like me. Yes he does like you I am glad you had a good time !!
Author Toodaloo Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Update Its been 3 days since I heard from guy 2. So I figured to heck with it I will get in contact. So just said along the lines of lovely day hope your enjoying it. he responded with yes it is but am in office hope your having a good day... I also sent a hello to Guy 3 just because if I am going to make a pillock out of myself I may as well go the whole hog. Nothing back but he hasn't read it so assume he is busy at work. So while I am being positive what I really want is a bloody great hug. I want to curl up and cry like a little girl for 20 minutes. But thats ok because I am being all jolly and happy... I can't go to the people who I would normally have a hug from at times like this as they are having a tough time of it too and I have spend many an hour over the past few days hugging and comforting them... I think I need to go and smash some jam jars in the garden... Then hug my dogs. Time for a cup of tea me thinks and to just keep on smiling and being happy... Sod dating/ worrying about meeting the man of my dreams/ making a good impression etc for the next few days. There are bigger fish to fry right now. Oh and I need to pull myself together and be aloof tonight as I will be seeing separated guy. Why does he always crop up when I am vulnerable?
Author Toodaloo Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 Gah this "multiple dating" thing is rubbish... Guy 1 - I thought he had disappeared. Started texting again last night. He was very sweet. Didn't make any plans. Guy 2 - seems to have picked up the pace and actually initiated a text conversation (all be it brief) today. Could it be that he is growing in confidence and I may be able to at least give him a proper snog? Guy 3 - seems to have gone radio silence so doesn't look like I shall be meeting him this weekend as I am now making plans for other things with friends... Actually the other two will be lucky to see me at all if they don't pull their fingers out... Suns out and I am getting sociable again!
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I wouldn't have texted anything and just moved on. Clearly any guy who is inclined to break a second date with a girl because it *might* rain a little, is NOT a guy who is into that girl. Obviously! Too late now... as you already sent it, but I wouldn't expect much. Next!
Throldur Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Gah this "multiple dating" thing is rubbish... Guy 1 - I thought he had disappeared. Started texting again last night. He was very sweet. Didn't make any plans. Guy 2 - seems to have picked up the pace and actually initiated a text conversation (all be it brief) today. Could it be that he is growing in confidence and I may be able to at least give him a proper snog? Guy 3 - seems to have gone radio silence so doesn't look like I shall be meeting him this weekend as I am now making plans for other things with friends... Actually the other two will be lucky to see me at all if they don't pull their fingers out... Suns out and I am getting sociable again! And here I am wishing that I had one girl to text... No wonder so many girls go cold on me.. they're all entertaining multiple men. Fack.
Author Toodaloo Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 And here I am wishing that I had one girl to text... No wonder so many girls go cold on me.. they're all entertaining multiple men. Fack. This is why you have to get in there and fast and show your interest. I have deactivated my account now as I couldn't keep up with it. The problem is that until they get to know you your still just a figment of their imagination so you have to get in there, fast and be the best you can be! If any one of these guys showed a bit more interest than the others then they would be the winner and the others would be dropped like hot potatoes... Just saying! Snooze you loose. Be proactive and get on with it. I have cancelled meeting up with guys because they were flip flopping about a time and date or didn't get back within a couple of days... My social life is busy enough with out adding dates to it so if you want to date me and I accept and offer up possible times and days bloody book one or one of my friends or family members will come along and take your spot! Just my point of view... 1
Throldur Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 This is why you have to get in there and fast and show your interest. I have deactivated my account now as I couldn't keep up with it. The problem is that until they get to know you your still just a figment of their imagination so you have to get in there, fast and be the best you can be! If any one of these guys showed a bit more interest than the others then they would be the winner and the others would be dropped like hot potatoes... Just saying! Snooze you loose. Be proactive and get on with it. I have cancelled meeting up with guys because they were flip flopping about a time and date or didn't get back within a couple of days... My social life is busy enough with out adding dates to it so if you want to date me and I accept and offer up possible times and days bloody book one or one of my friends or family members will come along and take your spot! Just my point of view... I'm having trouble just getting a response on there right now.. I didn't do too bad when I first started out off the break-up but the first girl just wanted sex and seemed to find someone who was quicker to the draw than I was, which was fine. Second one, she was nice and wanted to go on a couple dates with me, even knowing my story but I just wasn't there yet.. The one that I was really happy with, she was attractive, musician like myself, same taste in music.. it was all going well, she told me to check out this band, I did, sent a message about it.. then never heard from her again.. Now I'm on a cold spell where I am not getting any responses.. Though, I think at this point I am going to bow out, leave my account running and just focus on fully healing to be ready to date since I still feel the lingering effects and anything right now might be just me settling on something to take the pain away/occupy the time between now and September when I go back to school.
Author Toodaloo Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 Couple of points here Throldor 1. Don't ever bother trying to date unless you are over your ex. That way only leads to the dark side and upsetting not just the people you date but also yourself. Thats why you are not really "feeling" it. Your still hurting. 2. Your young and going back to school... what the heck are you doing on a dating website? Make plans for groups and clubs to join at school and meet people that way - far better than on line! 3. When you are on line dating people do disappear and flake and go off for no reason at all. It is not a reflection on you. It is just the way it is. Good luck and remember at your age all of this is not the most important thing. Getting a good education and thinking about your future career are!
Gaeta Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Update please !! on guy 1 - 2 - 3 and is there a 4 in the work?
Author Toodaloo Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Guy 1 is not too well at the moment. We have been in touch via texting. He has started calling me "hon" in those texts. No date planned Guy 2 has been in touch most days, again via text, which he is slow to respond to, he has not asked me out again or suggested meeting up again but keeps saying that he is looking forward to seeing me... *if you are then bloody well book a day!!!* Guy 3 I sent a couple of messages neither of which have even been read. he had said that he wanted to meet me this weekend but I can't be bothered now as its Friday and a bit late to go rearranging my plans *admittedly not grand but I will enjoy them* just to go and meet him. So flaked again. Seems to be a pattern with him. Guy 4 is still a figment of my imagination... I shall wear make up next time I go shopping and let you know!
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