zipzip03 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Broke up with my ex two weeks ago cause I caught her trying to cheat on me. She's been crazy trying to get me back saying she made a mistake, but I'm not interested. Two days ago she texted me that she was pregnant. She said that she manufactured this entire ruse with this guy whom I caught her trying to cheat on with me to get me to break up with her so I wouldn't have to deal with her being pregnant (she claims she's 9 weeks pregnant right now). She said that she called him weeks ago and told him she was pregnant and wanted to do this. I don't even know when the last time we had sex was but the last I can remember was the end of February (relationship heading downhill at that point). I decide to try and call her bluff. I text the guy she tried to cheat on me with and he said he'd never heard any of what she was telling me. Said it must be a complete fabrication and she's crazy. She based her entire story off of this guy and things she has talked about with him and he doesn't know any of what she's talking about. So I call her a liar and a cheat and block her. Then I get an email from her late last night with a form consenting abortion and she said she doesn't care what I think anymore but she's pregnant. She said she'd take a pregnancy test in front of me but I highly doubt that would ever happen. Either she's the greatest liar on earth and I'm gullible as hell or she's actually pregnant. What do you all think?
PrettyEmily77 Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Take her at her word but ask her to do a pregnancy test at a clinic / doctors, and ask to be present when the results come through; that's if you really don't trust her at all. What I don't get is why she'd send you a form consenting abortion. Is she underage?
CarrieT Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Pregancy and DNA tests - through lawyers - until then, No Contact 7
mammasita Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 She's an ex and she sounds bat **** crazy. Don't be with her simply because she claims she's pregnant - which is what it sounds like she's doing. Who really cares about the pregnancy test, what will that change? Let her go about her happy little pregnancy and then DNA test to establish paternity. I'd venture to say she's simply trying to play on your emotions with all of this. 1
annonme Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 When the baby is born you can go to court and request a DNA test. Then if the baby is yours you have rights as the father too. It looks good to courts if you go to them wanting to know if your the baby's father. It shows interest and initiative r
Quiet Storm Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 My guess is she's lying and is fabricating this "keep a man" baby. It's a way to soften you up and feel sorry for her, and take the focus off of her other lies. However, when you think about it, if someone is disturbed enough to lie about being pregnant, then they are probably disturbed enough to intentionally get pregnant without telling you. If she is lying, then she is doing it for your attention. This means that any communication from you- negative or positive- is a win for her. She just wants to keep you engaged because then she feels like she has a chance. So it's best not to talk to her at all, and get an attorney. If you can't afford one, just tell her that you suspect she has been unfaithful to you and you aren't going to accept responsibility for the child until it's proven that you are the father. I have never heard of a father having to sign an abortion consent form, as it's the mother's choice. However, I would avoid signing a form like that because if she doesn't have the abortion, she may try to say that your signature is an acknowledgement that you are the father. 2
Lokin4AReason Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 sounds like story time ... and it sounds, she is trying to give you a guilt trip ( w/o sending a postcard ) if she was doing this behind your back but yet realized that she messed up, she ll do anything to try to get you back or its the other guy(s) ( who knows now at how many there were ) little one so either way she is in a pinch and trying to find that comfort zone, I guess you can like say I just hope I am wrong in either case, but I wouldnt want to deal w/ it and would move on in searching for someone else IMO
autumnnight Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 She is likely lying about the pregnancy. She is not a very good liar either. And an abortion consent form? Nah, that's just for show and drama. If I were you I'd go with the testing through a lawyer advice. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Wow, total utter liar. The 'I pretended to cheat on you to get you to leave me for your own good' (despite the fact if she was pregnant you'd be dealing with a baby whether you like it or not) is SO childish it reminds me of something a kid in primary school would fabricate. Reminded me of when a fellow 9 year old at my school tried to convince everyone she was pregnant, she would get us all to leave the bathroom and then pretend to pass out so we'd find her laid on the floor lol, and told us all she had to go for daily operations to 'give the baby some air' lmao. We didn't know any better and believed her! She's incredible childish! Why would you even consider this? Clearly she cheated, regrets it for whatever reason, she wants you back so trying the double whammy of a) pretending she's pregnant for max drama and to keep you hooked on the idea of baby even if not her and b) hoping you'll believe it was all fake cheating. Please tell me you guys are no older than 14 or 15. If you give her the time of day after this crap you deserve whatever you get.
No Limit Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Oh boy, the crazy type. Stay no contact for good, and when a letter from court arrives get a lawyer and demand a DNA test first. For your sake I hope she's not pregnant, or at least not with your child. Of course she wants you back, you know how the social stigma about young single pregnant women is.
Maleficent Posted April 9, 2015 Posted April 9, 2015 Either way, she is clearly unstable. The relationship is most likely over too. But she could be pregnant with your child. As little as the chances may be, she needs to provide proof thatshe is in fact pregnant and that the child is yours. If the child is not yours, you are free from her and her bull****. Break things off, block her, no contact ect e t If it is, pardon my French but it looks like you are a little ****ed...
Tayla Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 Pregancy and DNA tests - through lawyers - until then, No Contact I concur with this solid and realistic advisal. 1
ascendotum Posted April 10, 2015 Posted April 10, 2015 When the baby is born you can go to court and request a DNA test. Then if the baby is yours you have rights as the father too. It looks good to courts if you go to them wanting to know if your the baby's father. It shows interest and initiative r If he doesn't want a baby in his life or to share custody with this ex or give her any money, then its way better to head this off now while there is still a chance than wait for an unwanted baby to be born. I'd find out first if she is really pregnant. The signing consent on the abortion sounds like bs, but its also highlights that he is looking for some $ to help pay for the abortion (if its legit) or scamming him for $ if its not legit. I don't think she is out to scam him of money but to scam him not to think she was cheating so she can get back in with him. For me I would if I had no wish to be a father yet and no wish to be tied to a crazy ex, I would play along with her and get confirmation whether she is pregnant or not asap, then play along to get her to have the abortion, then its adios. not want to take chances 2
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